This is not only a long and hard work, but also a matter of chance. Sometimes women and men do not know how to find love and why the opposite sex does not pay attention to them. A series of failures gives rise to complexes and personal experiences that are not so easy to deal with. That is why employees of the marriage agency come to the rescue.
They can offer partner which is perfect for you. Many argue that a marriage agency is not the only reason to find love, but what if you are not lucky?
You can keep looking for your soulmate. half and the most ideal partner for life, or you can turn to specialists who will help you achieve positive results much faster. But if you want to know in advance all the pros and cons of the work of such organizations, then this article is for you. Let's figure out what are the disadvantages and advantages of marriage agencies and how to milk the result.
Advantages of marriage agencies
1. Positive statistics from marriage agencies. In fact, there are a huge number of happy married couples around the world, whose members found each other through a marriage agency. Of course, no one can give you a guarantee that you will find a partner after a certain amount of time or that you will find it at all, but this way the probability increases significantly.
The database that the specialist provides you has all the people who match your request, so this way you increase your opportunities for strong relationships at times. In fact, there are men and women who have created strong families, given birth to healthy children and are happy together thanks to the professionalism of the marriage agency workers, so you should definitely try it.
2. A large selection of people who are right for you at marriage agencies. Marriage agencies employ real professionals who help people find their soul mate. In life, you need to spend a lot of time and effort in order to find those who suit you. If you turn to marriage agencies for help, then you will only go on dates with those who match your request. Real professionals work here, who are interested in finding a partner for yourself, because this is the only way to prove the effectiveness of this activity.
3. Interesting evenings of meetings of marriage agencies. Many marriage agencies have a tradition of organizing events where clients are present. This will help you find the right person and gain confidence in yourself. Meeting evenings are held in a relaxed atmosphere, where everyone can feel confident and meet interesting people. A personal meeting with a potential partner is a great opportunity to get to know a person better, and not just to study information about him and look at photos. So you will have fun, chat with interesting people, brighten up your leisure time and, perhaps, find your soul mate.
4. Variety of partners and. Some marriage agencies are engaged not only in finding a potential partner, but also in organizing dates. If relatively recently you only went to a local cafe and visited a cinema on the outskirts of the city, now even traveling abroad is possible. In life, it is not so easy to understand that a particular person is in search of a couple, so it is more difficult to get acquainted and choose. The marriage agency will provide you with a huge list of people who are ready for a new relationship. Perhaps you will like a hot Italian or a gallant Englishman, or maybe you will like a young black girl with a gorgeous figure.
Cons of a marriage agency
1. A short period of work of the agency in the service market. This means that the client base is not that big, and you will have to wait quite a long time until the right person is selected for you. In principle, there is nothing wrong with this, but the more you wait, the more money you will pay, which is also very beneficial for agency employees. It is unlikely that you will be able to predict the result of your cooperation with a marriage agency, but you can search the Internet for information about the organization: how long it has been working and how many satisfied customers. Some marriage agencies work solely to get money, and the client's desire for them is in last place. Think carefully about where exactly it is better to go, because you can spend money in vain, but still not get what you wanted.
2. Fraud. There are also such marriage agencies where your data and photos are posted on dating sites in order to attract the attention of potential partners. A fairly effective technique, but you can do the same at home. Before asking for help from employees of marriage agencies, register on a dating site and try to find an interlocutor on your own. Of course, this will take time, but it's worth a try. If nothing works out for you, feel free to go to a marriage agency. If you doubt the integrity of the people to whom you paid money, from time to time check using the search method to see if your page is on the site without your permission to register.
3. Data inconsistency. Sometimes it is quite difficult to understand what kind of person is in front of you, especially when you know only a few facts about him. Don't forget that you only know as much about a potential partner as you were given information. Therefore, sometimes it is difficult to find a common language with a person who, according to the description in the questionnaire, seems to be ideally suited to you. It is very good if you understand that you are not suitable for each other at the beginning of a relationship, because it also happens that marriages fall apart, families break up. Do not always start only from what is written in the questionnaire, because in life this person may not be at all what you expected to see him.
In the current age of high technology, finding a soul mate is difficult. People are busy with careers and earning money. Time for rest and live communication is limited. Scientists have calculated that today's probability of finding a husband or wife in a big city on their own is 3-5 percent. Maybe that's why the services of marriage agencies are now so popular. AiF.ru spoke with Anastasia Ivanova, a psychologist of one of the marriage agencies, about the pros and cons of finding a second half through a matchmaker.
Myth 1. A marriage agency will find me a husband or wife.
I faced this attitude of clients every day of my work. I want everyone to understand right away: the agency is not obliged to marry you or give you in marriage. It does not even guarantee that you will find a mate with it. Marriage agencies have 4-5 couples a year who register a marriage - a good result. The people working in the agency are just matchmakers. They provide intermediary services. Their task is to bring single people together, and then the couple builds relationships on their own. Therefore, before turning to matchmakers, a man or woman must clearly understand who exactly they want to find.
In my practice, there was a case when a single woman sued a marriage agency for not finding her a husband. A woman under 50. She came to the matchmakers with a request to find her a prince on a white horse. Her desire is understandable, but the person needs to be explained: he, too, must make an effort to match the prince. Efforts are not so much external as internal. We need to talk, test a person. And only after that start working with him and conclude an agreement.
However, such work was not carried out with this lady, and she, alone, tired and embittered, went to court.
Myth 2. Only alcoholics and ladies of easy virtue come to the marriage agency
Let me tell you, this is a stereotype. Over the years of my work, I have also met quite wealthy business women, ballerinas, fashion models, lawyers and journalists. There were also those who studied abroad for a long time. And among the men, I came across a young man whose fortune totals several million dollars. He is a foreigner. There are a lot of them in the database. They are looking for a Russian woman who can keep a life. After all, servants also need to be able to manage. Men also often come across scientists, singers and businessmen. There are deputies and prosecutors.Myth 3. Matchmakers just to get money, but single people don’t give a damn
This is partly true. There are representatives of this business who will take off the last shirt from the client. They start demanding money from the first consultation. It costs about 1000 rubles to fill out several sheets of paper. They take money for the contacts of the person they like. Moreover, the higher the social status of the person with whom the client wants to meet, the higher the rate. For example, we have a gradation of male profiles: “economy”, “business” and “vip”. The “economy” folder included men with average incomes. Their phone number costs 3000. "Business" - customers with higher incomes, their phone number cost 5000, VIP - these are oligarchs, deputies, security officials with high epaulettes. Their contacts cost more than 10,000 rubles. We have a setting: ladies who do not meet the wishes and level of the client should not be shown them. Women are divided into groups according to age. The older the client, the cheaper.
It is more profitable, of course, to immediately buy a subscription for a year. Here the price policy is determined by age. The most expensive is female. It is designed for ladies aged 40 and above. The search for the second half will cost them from 15,000 to 25,000 rubles a year. This is explained by the fact that it is difficult to find a spouse. For men aged 40 and over, the subscription is cheaper. He can find a chosen one for only 5,000-10,000 rubles a year. And if he wants a younger wife, he will have to pay 20,000 rubles.
If you are lucky with the agency, the amount will be announced to the client only after careful work with him. I have had to say no to a person several times. For example, a man came, he is 60. The stomach sticks out, there is no grooming. He wants to meet a girl 18-20 years old. He sits and praises himself: "Not old, wealthy and in full bloom." But I see him, he is far from Carlson. And in 5-10 years he will turn into a decrepit old man. I told him honestly about it, he threatened to sue.
Myth 4. Data from the database is closed
Bases are sold to other agencies. The list of clients needs to be replenished. Mostly men are at risk, there are fewer male profiles, and they are worth their weight in gold. The cost of one questionnaire is 1000 rubles. The agency will gladly give away a client that is difficult to work with. Often this is done by dishonest marriage agencies. More serious matchmakers value their reputation. Therefore, when contacting an agency, get on the Internet and read where you carry your data. And if there will be at least two or three negative reviews, think about whether it is worth giving money for an unguaranteed result and for the possible sale of information about yourself.
Unfortunately, in our society there is a very unflattering stereotype that only outsiders who are not successful with representatives of the opposite sex apply to marriage agencies. Girls try to keep secret the fact of registration in this or that marriage agency: “What will people think?”. However, the fear of being exposed in the eyes of others becomes instantly forgotten after the very first successful romantic date with a man. Hence, the stereotype is very unfair, and marriage agencies are really a godsend for a modern girl.
Let's be realistic, not each of us is lucky to find love on our own, going all the way to building a strong house of happy relationships using the "own rake" method and without outside help. However, it is important for each of us to be a beloved and loving girl. Therefore, we cannot afford to take risks when it comes to finding a partner. We need the right person who can share our interests and goals, and who, in the end, will turn out to be our soulmate. Why leave it to chance when you can turn to real cupids for advice and help? A marriage agency is a place where your desire to find a life partner with whom you can start a family and find the desired happiness will be treated with understanding and professionalism.
A professional marriage agency respects how highly a modern girl values her time, striving to spend it efficiently. How often have you felt morally exhausted and regretted the wasted time, corresponding with people whose communication did not bring you positive emotions, but only made you disappointed in the relationship? By doing the most painstaking part of the search for you, the marriage agency saves you a lot of time and energy, which in the future you will spend on choosing an outfit for an upcoming date. Your potential partner is already interested in getting to know you, so the only thing left for the two of you is to enjoy communicating with each other.
Professional marriage agencies are engaged not only in finding a partner and creating couples, but also in organizing dates, the main goal of which is to create the right atmosphere between a man and a woman, taking into account the wishes of both.
Marriage agencies are interested in the success of your "project", because this is how they can measure the effectiveness of their work. Having seen enough of the huge number of incredibly spectacular girls who cross the threshold of our office every day, I seriously thought about how hard our team works, trying to find an individual approach to each client and satisfy the requirements of her search. Talented, educated, beautiful, well-groomed girls living in a modern rhythm are not an easy task for a marriage agency, however, we are used to challenging ourselves on the site every day. We are inspired by the stories of our joint success, in which there really is a place for a romantic fairy tale with the magic of the birth of real feelings, beautiful confessions, emotional partings and long-awaited meetings with a loved one, and, finally, marriage proposals.
Even the most inveterate skeptics cannot deny the existence of a huge number of couples around the world created thanks to the professionalism of marriage agency workers. We can spend a lifetime searching for the perfect partner, but is it worth it when success in your personal life is so real and much closer than you think. Dear girls, remember that your happiness is only in your hands, and the choice is always yours.
Which of the men apply to Russian marriage agencies? These are foreigners and our domestic personnel. First, let's talk about foreigners, because it is interesting to know what they are, foreign suitors.
Foreigners
Employees of Russian marriage agencies say that most of the Western men who turn to them are owners of their own business, from small to medium and large. Also, these are employees with a good salary, employed in various fields: bank employees, teachers, engineers, etc.
Why do Western men want a wife from Russia? They answer that they are not satisfied with the mentality of European women, for whom work and career come first. And most of the representatives of the stronger sex want to have a home, a family, a beloved wife, children. In their view, traditional values are alive, they remember the warmth and comfort of their home and want to have the same in their home.
Many of these men tried to get acquainted with Russian women on the Internet, but were disappointed with the results of independent searches. Therefore, we decided to turn to professionals, to a marriage agency.
Many of them are over 40-50 years old and want to have children. But in Europe, marriages with a large age difference are not accepted, so in their homeland it is difficult for them to find the same age, consonant and able to give birth.
And in Russia we have quite a few young women who are ready to marry a gentleman much older than themselves and have children with him.
For our women, marriage to a foreigner from prosperous Europe is an opportunity for a stable, prosperous life. Our ladies are attracted by the mentality of European men, who are characterized by law-abiding and high responsibility for the family.
On the other hand, our women have fears, they are afraid to get into an unpredictable situation. I must say that if such situations sometimes occur, then they do not occur in prosperous, law-abiding Western European countries, but on the territory of unstable developing states, where the judicial system does not work properly.
For foreign men applying to Russian marriage agencies, such a step is thoughtful and conscious. After all, Western suitors incur significant financial costs. Firstly, payment for the services of the agency itself, then telephone conversations with the bride, gifts, visits to our country, where the bride lives, her visits to the groom (which he also pays for). All this requires a lot of money. Therefore, for a man, this is a balanced step, and he takes it in order to really find a good woman and create a happy family with her.
In addition, a man realizes that when a foreign wife comes to him for permanent residence, at first she will not be able to work (for this she will need to adapt and learn the language well). And if a child is born, then all the more so, all the expenses for the maintenance of the family will fall on the shoulders of the husband.
Of course, among such marriages there are also unsuccessful ones, as in any case. But, according to agency employees, the number of unsuccessful marriages is still much less than prosperous and happy ones.
Russian suitors
Most of our compatriots applying to a marriage agency are over 30 years old. They want to build a family and consciously strive for this, but have not yet met the woman with whom they would like to create it and give birth to children.
As for their social status, they are well-off, wealthy representatives of the stronger sex, who, as a rule, have made a successful career: businessmen, executives, middle and top managers, etc.
In life and work, they have many contacts, like all of us. But they feel lonely, because they did not manage to meet the one they dream of. But they hope so.
Due to being busy, they do not have time to attend various entertainment events where people get to know each other, go to clubs, etc. They also do not consider it appropriate to meet on the street. Therefore, they turn to the marriage agency to professionals, hoping that the specialists will carry out preparatory work and offer them suitable candidates.
They are serious and aspire to marriage. A string of fleeting acquaintances does not attract them, as it only brings disappointment.
As you can see, these are quite worthy, positive men. Why not try to get to know them? Who does not take risks does not drink champagne at his own wedding!
Inga Kristinskaya
In February, there is only talk in the sky about lonely hearts and impossible love in a million-plus city. Tinder, social networks, the Let's Get Married program - all this, it would seem, should make it easier to find a loved one to a minimum, but no. Another way to find love in a big city is marriage agencies that still exist, are in demand and are aimed not only and not so much at choosing a husband from a photo, but at learning gender roles. Lyubov Saranina went to the Cupid marriage agency to find out how to win her betrothed, what the lessons of femininity teach, and what the Bolsheviks and sinful relatives were guilty of before unmarried girls.
Meeting with Cupid
I choose the marriage agency "Cupid" because it is the first in the issuance of Google and is generally well-known - a couple of times its representatives even appeared on the air "GIS". I call there on February 12 - the upcoming Valentine's Day is running out. The girl on the phone proactively tells me the prices and asks about the age. I give my details - Lyubov, 24 years old - and ask to sign me up for a consultation as soon as possible. But, apparently, happiness does not tolerate haste, and there are too many people who want to find love before Valentine's Day: the next dates are full, there is no way to move the schedule, and as a result, the agency is waiting for me only on Thursday, February 15th.
"Kupidon" is located in the office center "Moscow" in the area of the Telecentre. The office on the thirteenth floor is quite easy to find by the corresponding sign. The office itself is a small standard room with two tables opposite each other. Behind one of them, Alevtina is waiting for me - the owner of the Cupid, a pleasant brunette in her thirties. She immediately offers me tea and asks if I tried to look for a couple myself.
I confusingly report that, of course, I met, I was on Tinder, but he does not inspire confidence in me. In general, I simply do not have time for a personal life. I had to lie a little (!): in fact, I have never registered on dating services.
“There is a demand for young people,” Alevtina says with undeniable confidence
An introductory consultation costs 500 rubles: this is how, according to Alevtina, random people who go to “chat” are eliminated - and in principle it even seems logical. On the tables in front of me are office supplies, a few phones, and a couple of icons in a plastic sticker holder. On the window there is a Calvary cross and icons like those that are attached to the autopanel.
To ward off any suspicions, I decide to start with an attack: “Am I not too early? This is fine?" Alevtina assures that my 24 is the ideal age for finding a husband: “For a man, the younger the better.” However, just in case, she clarifies if I’m looking for the same youngster: “Mostly, of course, serious men come to us, around thirty, do you perceive such?” “Well, maybe 30-32,” I honestly define my psychological age ceiling.
“There is a demand for young people,” Alevtina says with undeniable confidence. And the advantage of my age is not only that I am at the peak of fertility. I learn that cooperation with the Cupid agency is not only the selection of a partner in the database, but - and this is the main thing - psychological support for clients, teaching the intricacies of relationships and interpreting women's truths. And my peers, according to a professional matchmaker, are more trainable than forty-year-old brides.
A person without claims
The search for a betrothed in the database, according to the owner of the agency, works "for good luck." But in any case, to begin with, you describe yourself and tell what kind of man you need - his image, according to Alevtina, is embedded in our subconscious.
Of course, a photo is attached to the information in the file cabinet: you can bring it with you to the first consultation “on a disk or flash drive”. However, girls without a lookbook can be helped on the spot: the agency itself organizes studio shooting with a stylist and makeup artist. I came without pictures, so what should be the ideal photoset to attract a future husband, they explain to me in other people's photographs.
In total, it is desirable to try on three different images. Of the outfits, experts advise a dress: "it distinguishes a girl from a guy." In extreme cases, you can appear in the frame in "tight pants". The provided stylist will help out with accessories - for example, he will pick up earrings from props. The photographer will help you relax and achieve a “friendly facial expression”. “A man should look at you and think about his happiness,” Alevtina explains with enthusiasm.
Using the examples of other girls, she talks about typical mistakes at this stage: one of the agency's clients, a short-haired brunette of 37 years old, shows age-related skin features. Another, a young blonde, has a “pretentious” face: “men who don’t need show-offs may not like it.” Another rule is not to wear fur. But everything is simple here - such photos will look out of place in the database in the summer.
The art of being a woman
Pictures are placed in the database, as well as on dating sites and, of course, VKontakte. Alevtina hears about Tinder from me for the first time and considers it a temporary trend among my peers. The Love.mail.ru platform seems to be a much more proven and reliable option: it is on it that the largest number of sufferers are concentrated. According to the girl, Roza Syabitova works on the same resource, from whom Cupid adopted dating technologies.
The name of the most media matchmaker of the country during our conversation sounds constantly: the host of Let's Get Married has developed special instructions for communicating on the Internet, by phone and on a first date. All scripts are included in the price of the contract with Cupid. Such standards are designed to explain on the shore who you should call and who you can spend your time offline with, and with whom it makes no sense to make even the first meeting - so as not to waste yourself and “not overstrain”. Another professional advice: for online dating, I will have to get a separate SIM card or adapt a working one - so as not to miss the incoming one from my betrothed.
However, this is not the most important thing in the work of a marriage agency. The contract is tied to the psychological support of the couple. For example, immediately after a date, you can call specialists, tell how everything went, and analyze your progress along with - according to the site - "qualified psychologists." Here they are ready to teach you how to deal with potential partners - for example, they will tell you which man it supposedly makes sense to adapt to, and for whom it is not worth changing, and what to do if he does not call. We are ready to help even if you do not dare to send a boyfriend yourself: so that you do not suffer and do not sway your partner, Cupid's specialists will do it for you.
More advanced level - special trainings for women and men, which are carried out in "Cupid". They are paid separately, but at the same time, according to Alevtina, they help to awaken even deeply sleeping (!) Energy.
At my age, Alevtina explains, it is very important to learn to recognize people and the probability of making a mistake is too high. And here the most fascinating and at the same time, perhaps, the most obvious one opens: “Cupid” is not a story about a specific search for a husband, but about femininity and its acquisition. However, everything is clear already from the VKontakte group of the agency: the first part of its name in caps shouts about “WOMEN'S TRAININGS”, and the cap calls “BE EFFECTIVE LIKE A WOMAN!”.
It's all the fault of the Reds
2017, despite liberal attempts and the feminist agenda, became a year of nostalgia for the tsarist era and its values. On a national scale, it was designated "Matilda", and on the Samara section - the appearance of the center "Revived Traditions". Girls and women are guided here by the ideals of love and fidelity, they are taught etiquette, secular manners and even chastity - in general, they echo the pre-revolutionary ladies' clubs and schools of noble maidens. The center says that “good taste, manners, sophistication, creativity, femininity and grace have always distinguished noble Russian ladies,” therefore, the program of the “Ladies' Club” includes vocal and needlework lessons.
Of course, this is not the case in Cupid, although, according to Alevtina, it was the revolution and the destruction of traditions that led us to a society "where a woman has to plow on an equal footing with a man." This, of course, is wrong, since the main goal of her life is relationships with men, and the main task is to get married and have a family, and the matchmaker sees no other way. Work can still remain in place of a hobby, but not necessarily - because "a woman is not created for work." Of course, I like this position, because at 24 I just wait for someone to stop my daily office suffering and gladly take on the obligations of a communal apartment.
It was the revolution and the destruction of traditions that led us to a society "where a woman has to plow on an equal footing with a man"
But I still have to work: the success of family life, says Alevtina, 80-90% depends on the woman. Divorces occur because we cannot realize ourselves in this capacity - either we give all of ourselves without a trace to a man and work, or we want a lot.
Alevtina considers my question about the approximate statistics of the formation of couples and families not entirely correct. It all depends on whether you fulfill your part of the contract: success is possible only if you listen to the recommendations. In the entire history of the agency, according to my interlocutor, only one couple divorced. The girl, turning to matchmakers for help at the age of 26, did not have time to complete the training, because she quickly met her future husband. He, in turn, made good money, carried everything to the family, fell in love with her appearance, but could not get used to her bad character. As a result, people broke up - and all because of the girl's unwillingness to change and follow the advice of the agency's specialists.
Internet white dance
Before February 14, our colleagues from Tatarstan’s Inde did not wait in line for a consultation and went the easy way: as part of an experiment, Almaz Zagrutdinov, a journalist from the publication, created three fake women’s VKontakte pages and tried to get acquainted in the dating publics of the social network. History accurately confirms the truth: you can find a partner “at once” there, and also - no one will shim a woman for the first step on the network.
Roza Syabitova also advises to act and choose for yourself - without waiting for the prince to drive up to you. Yes, and Alevtina, as it turned out, found her husband on VKontakte and was the first to take the initiative. In general, the frankness of an already sympathetic girl is almost dumbfounded: she quite sincerely tells how, at 34, she turned out to be almost the oldest in the maternity hospital, retells the stories of her hairdresser and calmly says that the “Muslim dating” tab on the site is needed to promote it and to a lesser extent for dating Tatars.
Alevtina's first serious relationship happened at the age of 22, but she missed that chance, because she did not yet realize that the main thing for a woman was to find her man, and she was afraid to get married. Parents argued that it was much more important to find their place in life. Today, the same man is the father of three children, the director. The girl still remembers him.
Babkin's sins
According to Chekhov, the icons on the wall simply had to come up in our conversation. Therefore, after about forty minutes, Alevtina voices the main difference between the contract in Cupid and the techniques of Rosa Syabitova. Here, not only are they taught to understand the opposite sex, but they are also directed to the path of faith - of course, at will.
As well as to female wisdom, Alevtina did not come to Orthodoxy immediately and for a long time was not churched. Today, she is convinced that without developing spirituality in herself, it is impossible to build a happy relationship and generally find her chosen one. The girl assures me that even the Bible says, "You don't have because you don't ask." Perhaps it is the appeal to God, suggests Alevtina, that Roza Syabitova lacks so that she herself finds a man for herself.
Speaking of failures in love - not only the Bolsheviks are to blame for it. Alevtina explains that we inherit the sins of our ancestors and accumulate our own. Therefore, there is a blessed family and a difficult one - with alcoholics, gigolos and sinners. Karmic heritage, notes Alevtina, explains the paradox that young beauties sometimes stay in girls, and women with children marry several times and find happiness in love.
They will not delve into your family tree in Cupid: the task of the employees is only to help you find the cause of failures and at least try to become closer to God. Someone has been close to grace for a long time, it is enough to take a small step. As my interlocutor says, one Armenian woman lit a candle in the church, and after three days a good man met her.
True, problems can be in a fertile kind. Of course, the point is in damage and the wrong approach to fighting it: instead of going to church, people turn to "grandmothers" and make it even worse. Her clients tell Alevtina about such cases: they say how ill-wishers undermined their health and sent impotence to their husbands. The girl herself also went through fortune tellers, astrologers and psychics, she knows how it works, and that all this is science not from God.
The most budget version of the contract costs 8 thousand rubles - it includes membership in the database and scripts by Roza Syabitova
A sinful society, according to Alevtina, is, again, the legacy of the revolution. And our task is to help each other become a little more spiritual. It is difficult to determine the real values today, but it is possible - if you rely on the Bible, where they are laid down.
According to Alevtina, it is more difficult for men to convey this idea, but a woman is naturally more humble. Or maybe, the girl adds, she wants to get married more. That is why we, women, must not lower the bar of morality - otherwise we will have gigolos and men who live by animal instincts.
Too non-aggressive marketing
After an hour and a half of my head nodding and periodic “uh-huh”, a change of surprise and a liberal yell, I myself decide to talk about money - perhaps Alevtina simply did not see the proper interest in me. In any case, no one hides the cost of the contract with Cupid: the prices were announced to me over the phone, and I'm just waiting for clarifications.
Most often, clients choose a contract for 16 thousand rubles - it includes an indefinite stay in the base, psychological counseling and spiritual guidance. It can be paid in installments - in two installments of 8 thousand. There is a VIP option for 24 thousand - there are no big differences in it, just some people, Alevtina explains, want everything to be “VIP”. True, you will always be the first to be offered for consideration by a man.
Cupid makes no guarantees
The most budget version of the contract costs 8 thousand rubles - it includes only membership in the database and scripts by Rosa Syabitova. At the same time, an additional reward is provided for creating a couple - this, according to the hostess, is an additional incentive for the agency to work efficiently, and not make empty talk. The contract is valid for nine months, after which your data remains in the database, and you can re-sign the contract or continue your independent searches - after all, you already have all the knowledge for this.
However, Cupid does not give any guarantees. No one knows after what time you will meet your love and whether it will be "love from God." And, I must say, this answer pleases me - it would be much worse if they assured me that I would leave the agency with a ring on my finger. At the same time, they urge not to rush into the pool and advise not to fall in love with the first candidate that comes across: in order not to get burned at the start and close your heart to a barn lock, you need to sort out your feelings for a new acquaintance and in him. Employees advise you to wait two months, after which you can announce that you have found a couple, and the contract is considered fulfilled.
After an hour and a half conversation, I say goodbye to Alevtina and sincerely thank her for the detailed consultation. She, in response - never ceasing to amaze - does not persuade me for a contract and does not insist on continuing our communication at all.
You can be attractive not in tight pants, but if there is a need for a church, find yourself a confessor
And now let's discard the first shock: yes, "Cupid" imposes patriarchal values on confused girls, but the ready-made scenarios are not amazing. You can learn about the Orthodox bias in advance from the public "Cupid" VKontakte. About women's trainings with names like "How to fall in love with a man" or "How to deal with a mistress" - on the site. Moreover, I personally know quite adequate girls who took such courses - roughly speaking, out of despair and fear of loneliness, which intensifies over the years. At jokes about ticking clocks, frightening with aging and a decrease in demand in the love market, only the most post-ironic ones can laugh - that is, almost no one.
It is unlikely that people go to Cupid for other reasons - they are simply looking for a foothold in it. I don’t blame, but I still remain with my own: you can be attractive without tight-fitting pants, you need to solve the problem of self-esteem with a psychologist, and if there is a need for a church, find yourself a confessor: Rosa Syabitova’s techniques will not solve internal problems. However, perhaps I reason this way only because I am still 24.
