It is generally accepted that love can overcome everything, otherwise this feeling is simply unreal. But no matter how it is! There are things that cannot be forgotten even after dozens of apologies from your other half, and we are not talking about cheating at all. So what actions and actions of men are simply unacceptable in a relationship?
1. Texting other women behind your back
It would seem that there is nothing wrong with this. There may be hundreds of contacts on his mobile and social networks, but all these young ladies are virtual, and you are so real and always nearby. Unfortunately, this opinion is wrong; if he does this in secret from you, it means he has something to hide. Such behavior borders on deception, and flirting is a mild degree of betrayal. So, if your boyfriend succumbs to provocations by responding to messages from other girls, then this is a serious reason to think about breaking up.
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2. Disrespect for your job/career/hobby
Here is another bell to start thinking about breaking up. Even if he builds rockets or flies an airplane, and you work as a waitress, this does not give him the right to believe that your work is less valuable. Most likely, it’s not your work, but his attitude towards you. It also means that he sees you as a person who is unable to take care of himself, so he definitely won’t discuss your problems and troubles with you.
3. The tendency to blame you for your defeats and failures
"It's all because of you." If you hear this phrase from your chosen one several times a day, then your choice of a life partner may raise doubts. You may feel guilty, but you must remember that first of all, your man is an adult, and no one is to blame for his failures except himself. If he shifts responsibility for the actions he has committed onto other people, it means that he has not yet matured emotionally, and you are unlikely to be able to build a serious relationship with such a person.
4. Being disrespectful and rude to your family members or your friends
Comments are unnecessary here. Who will like it if a loved one does not get along with friends and parents. And not only will he not strive to make a good impression, but he will also consider your loved ones simply unworthy of his attention. Still, it is difficult to love a person who does not consider it necessary to communicate with members of your family, even for your sake. Moreover, from his behavior it becomes absolutely clear that you mean nothing to him.
5. Lack of respect for your wishes
If everything you want constantly encounters strict prohibitions and a tough “no,” then just run away from such a man. Perhaps at first it will seem to you that they simply love you very much and take care of you, but this is far from the case. If they don’t let you go out with your friends and tell you what you can wear and what you can’t, then your relationship will definitely not lead to anything good. You don't need a home tyrant, do you?
6. Using you for personal gain
The basis of any relationship is equality of partners. Remember: you are not obligated to babysit a man, be his personal chauffeur or ATM machine. Of course, you need to support your loved one, but you shouldn’t let your loved one sit on your neck. He is an adult and is quite capable of dealing with his own problems.
7. Cruelty
If you saw your lover kick a defenseless kitten or throw a stone at a stray dog for no reason, then this is a serious reason to sound the alarm. After all, if a man is accustomed to asserting himself at the expense of those who are much weaker than him, then it means he can raise his hand against you and your children. It is better to stay away from such representatives of the stronger sex. And your boundless love for him is definitely not a reason to endure humiliation.
8. Abuse of alcohol and other illicit drugs
Of course, you can devote your whole life to freeing your loved one from addiction, but before you sacrifice yourself, think about whether you really need it. If a person himself does not want to fight alcoholism, gambling and drug addiction, then he is unlikely to listen to you. Surely there are more pleasant things in your life than trying to help someone who won’t appreciate it.
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9. Petty lies
White lies don't count. But if a man lies in order to avoid punishment, or without reason and in minor details, then such behavior should not be ignored. You are unlikely to be able to trust such a person.
10. Constant control
The man keeps track of all your phone calls and correspondence with friends? He is jealous, which means he loves, you are touched to yourself. Don't rush to conclusions. Such behavior simply goes beyond what is permitted and takes on a paranoid character. Don't be surprised if one day it turns out that you are under video surveillance. And the point here is not that he is afraid of losing you, but a banal distrust of you.
11. Public humiliation
You cannot forgive your partner for insulting or humiliating yourself, either in private or in public. If your lover raised his voice at you or made caustic and obscene jokes at you in the presence of your mutual friends and acquaintances, then you should think about ending your relationship with such a man.
12. Comparing you to his exes
No woman enjoys constant competition. If your man regularly tells you about his exes and compares them with you, then this is a huge disrespect for you on his part. Let your lover know that you don't like it. If he doesn’t listen to you, then there is only one way out - to break up.
13. Indifference to your problems
For example, your grandmother who lives in the village is sick, and you would really like to visit her this weekend. But your lover does not intend to sacrifice his days of rest for the sake of your relative and refuses to take you to her, arguing that he is very tired from work, and you can get there just fine by bus. Start looking for a replacement for this man. If he is not capable of doing such a little for your sake, then he will definitely not become the reliable support that all women dream of.
People tend to make mistakes from time to time. Only those who do nothing at all make no mistakes. However, there is a difference between a mistake and a mistake. Some things can and should certainly be forgiven, while others absolutely cannot be forgiven.
Today we want to talk about what cannot be forgiven under any circumstances. And here it doesn’t matter at all what a person’s gender (sex) is. Whether you are a man or a woman, you cannot forgive what is listed below under any circumstances.
What cannot be forgiven... To anyone, ever!
Cruelty is something that DEFINITELY cannot be forgiven to anyone. Today he kicked a stray dog (or she threw a stray cat), tomorrow the same thing will await you! Thoughts on the topic: this doesn’t mean anything – the height of stupidity and irresponsibility.
Addictions (addiction) cannot be forgiven! It doesn’t matter what they are: alcohol, drug addiction, gambling addiction or something else. You should at least stay away from such people. They will not bring anything good into your life! And you don’t need to console yourself with the thought that you will help him (her).
Lack of support cannot be forgiven. And it doesn’t matter what kind of support we are talking about. If a person is emotionally cold towards you and your problems, then nothing good will come of it in the end. In addition, indifference to oneself should not be forgiven.
You can change not only physically by going “to the left”. You can change in the soul, morally, which is much more dangerous and has much more serious consequences. For example, he (or she) corresponds with someone online behind your back, flirts, makes some plans, declares his love... Should this be taken as cheating? What do you think?
When they don’t respect the business you do or your hobby, when they don’t respect your achievements, there is no need to talk about the seriousness of the relationship. Such a person will truly never begin to respect you, accepting you for who you are.
The simplest thing is to blame others for your fiasco, for example, the one with whom you live. Naturally, the one who is nearby is to blame for everything. However, all patience has its reasonable limits. Sooner or later, they will be transferred...
If he (she) does not respect your parents/relatives/friends, and even more so forbids you to communicate with them, then can anything good/pure/real come out of this? You yourself know the answer: of course not!
There are idiots who divulge the intimate circumstances of their own lives to the first person they meet, there are those who are ready to show your naked photos or tell you “how it was.” This cannot be forgiven!
Some people have problems setting their own boundaries. They are either unsteady or completely absent as such. Of course, these are your problems, but if you have built your own boundaries and outlined the rules of the game, and they are still violated, then isn’t it time to end the destructive relationship?
If you have to constantly do something for his (her) sake that you don’t like or that goes against your moral principles, then it’s time to think about the question: “How much longer will I endure all this?”
In no case should you forgive the fact that you are simply being shamelessly taken advantage of, using you as a personal driver and wallet, and perhaps as a mommy/daddy…. However, what difference does it make who you are used as? The fact is that you cannot forgive such an attitude towards yourself.
Never forgive a lie. It is worth knowing two things: a lie is always the beginning of the end of a relationship. This is a story about how trust disappears like water into sand. Drop by drop, slowly but surely. And nothing can stop this process.
At the same time, one cannot forgive distrust in one’s address. If he (she) has problems with self-esteem, then why should you suffer from it? In such cases, you should seek help from a specialist, and not become hysterical, wringing your hands.
If he (she) openly jokes (sorry for the slang) at you in front of friends or in public (even strangers), this only says one thing: such behavior cannot be forgiven under any circumstances. Even if a person begins to justify himself by saying that it was just a joke...
There is little pleasant in being compared to your exes. What if this happens all the time? What then? Naturally, we cannot close our eyes to this. After all, this is the first sign of disrespect. Is it possible to forgive the fact that you are not respected? And most importantly: what does this ultimately lead to?
“I would like your problems...” Have you ever heard something like this addressed to you? If you hear this constantly, run, run away from this person and this relationship! You cannot forgive such ignorance and neglect towards you.
The story about the fact that his (her) parents/friends and God and everything else comes first is not the best story. If you constantly feel like number six, then there is little joy in it. You have never been this person's priority... Is it worth continuing to invest in this relationship?
If he (she), having abused your trust, constantly pokes your nose into your past. For example, you were frank, and you said something about yourself that should have been left behind the scenes. But very little time passed, and they began to reproach you for your own past. You shouldn't forgive this.
Surely every person has his own list of words and actions that should never be forgiven to anyone. But love and close relationships often force us to reconsider our principles, and sometimes even change them.
Falling in love sometimes closes a woman’s eyes to the ugly masculine actions of her partner, often forcing her to forgive what, in general, should not be forgiven.
So, what actions and words can never be forgiven even to a beloved man?
Treason
On the topic of unforgiveness of betrayal, the opinions of women and men unanimously agree in their majority - you cannot forgive betrayal! Infidelity contains several negative aspects - this is the pain of realizing the deception of a loved one, hatred of betrayal, and unbearability from the thought that he was close to another woman, this is also the torment of the fact that someone has broken into the close world of your relationship with your partner also, having soiled and desecrated the Temple of your love.
Sometimes betrayal cannot be forgiven even by strong man, and the fact of betrayal can simply trample a weak, sensitive person.
Should I forgive someone who cheated?
Of course, everyone decides this for themselves. But remember that to forgive does not mean living the rest of your life with a person under the yoke of suspicion, pain and this resentment. Forgiving betrayal means letting go of the situation, completely clearing your heart of grievances and starting life with clean slate, never returning to the past. Read also: How to react correctly to his betrayal?
A man raised his hand to a woman
The sad statistics provided by psychologists indicate that the first time a man raises his hand to a woman soon becomes part of his rule of communication with his partner.
A man by nature is very strong, and he is able to protect his loved ones, as well as refrain from excessive emotionality and aggression. Strong man will never allow himself to humiliate a loved one.
The one who raised his hand to a woman is a creature with an unbalanced psyche, who will easily do it the second and tenth time, each time becoming more and more excited and using more and more sophisticated methods of humiliating his wife.
Man beats children
While the debate continues about whether physical punishment of children is necessary or is not permissible, those men who do not have the right to be called men open their hands to their children, explaining this with fatherly love and the desire to raise them to be good people.
The highest role of a mother is to protect her children from all the cruelties in this world. So is it worth forgiving a person who regularly tortures your flesh and blood? Is your love for your husband or the habit of living with him worth all the humiliation, physical and moral pain of your child?
Lie
Whatever a man's lie - small or big - it can become a serious obstacle to this couple's path to happiness. As a rule, it is small lies that undermine relationships - every day, bit by bit, suddenly over time growing into a snowball that can no longer be moved to the side.
A man’s lie is a serious reason to doubt his feelings and sincerity. Relationships are built on trust; if there is no trust, there will be no love.
Public words of insult towards a woman
Dirty words spoken by a man in public should not be forgiven. If a man suddenly begins to share intimate secrets of your relationship with friends, rudely criticize you, and utter obscene expressions at you, this is a serious reason to reconsider your relationship with him.
Under no circumstances should you forgive a man for such behavior - unless, of course, you want to remain humiliated and insulted for the rest of your life, and possibly beaten, in public.
Disrespectful attitude towards women
“That blonde has a super figure, and after giving birth you spread out like a cow”, “What do you care about this woman, you don’t even know how to cook”, “My ex kept order, but yours is always a mess” - and so they continue Comparisons of you with all women on Earth, naturally, are not in your favor. Should this be forgiven?
Respect is one of the pillars on which Love stands. There is no respect for you - and this love becomes “lame”, or maybe it doesn’t exist at all. Most likely, the painfulness of his own EGO forces a man to compare you with other women, humiliating you. Do you really need this weakling?
Male laziness
How often in life do we see families in which the woman is “me and the horse, me and the bull, me and the woman and the man,” and the man lies on the couch, finding endless excuses for his passivity...
Such a man is not looking for an additional opportunity to earn money, he is not trying to solve financial crisis situations in the family, and does not do any housework. The most favorite pastimes of such a man are watching TV, lying on the couch, meeting friends in the garage or beer bar, fishing, eternal smoke breaks...
Are you sure that at the moment when you are suddenly unable to provide for your family and do all the housework, your man will take upon himself to solve the problems? So is it necessary to put up with his passivity today? The answer is quite obvious.
A man's greed
It is very difficult for a woman to feel loved and desired if her man is stingy with gifts and purchases. In such couples, constant friction arises over supposedly excessive spending on the part of the wife and children. The woman in such a couple is unlikely to receive luxurious gifts, and if bouquets are bought for her, it is only based on the principles of economy - cheaper, discounted.
It will be very difficult for any woman to come to terms with such a situation, unless she has completely given up on her life. And is it necessary to forgive a man for greed?
Insults to your relatives
If a man sincerely loves you, he will never stoop to insulting your parents, children from a previous marriage, brothers, sisters, etc.
According to many people, you should never forgive your man for insulting his relatives - even if they were uttered in the heat of the moment, and you should not forgive his ugly actions towards relatives.
Bad habits of men
Under no circumstances should a woman put up with the most common bad male habits - alcoholism, drug addiction, and gambling addiction. A man who seeks solace in these manias of his does not actually love you - these passions replace love for him. Although he may swear eternal love to you - but of course, it is very convenient for him to return after night drinking or after major losses to the house, where he will be fed, reassured, and caressed.
Alcoholism, gambling, and drug addiction cannot be forgiven for a man!
Male egoism and egocentrism
Your man speaks only about himself, attributing all family achievements to himself. He is ready to go on vacation to the country that he chooses; it is he who decides which friends should be friends with you, and which ones should forget the way to your house.
A selfish man constantly desires attention to himself, but is very stingy in giving attention to his companion or children.
Forgiving male egoism and coming to terms with this state of affairs, a woman a priori assigns herself secondary roles in his life. But excuse me - where is the love here?!
Incredible facts
If you think that cheating is the worst thing that can happen to a couple, then you are wrong.
There are scary things men do in relationships that...capable of destroying everything. AND we're talking about not about treason at all.
These actions are worse than betrayal, and a woman simply does not have the right to forgive her man for them.
What can't a man be forgiven for?
1. When he texts or chats with other women behind your back, then denies his guilt when you expose him.
This behavior borders on deception and betrayal. Flirting is a mild degree of betrayal.
And if your man gives in to provocations by responding to messages from other girls, this can slowly destroy the “perfect” relationship.
If a man is in serious relationship, there is no need to text and flirt with other women behind your back.
2. When he doesn't respect your job/career/hobby
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If your man makes cutting jokes or nasty comments, hinting that your work or hobbies are not important special significance, this is a bad sign.
By not respecting your interests, he is also disrespectful towards you. He just doesn't take you seriously.
This also means that your man sees you as someone who is unable to take care of himself, and he will definitely not be someone you can talk to about your problems and discuss your troubles.
3. When he blames you for his defeats and failures
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He is an adult, and no one is to blame for his failures except himself.
If a man lashes out at you and blames you for his mistakes, this means that he is an absolutely immature person and shifts responsibility for his actions to someone else.
Such things cannot be forgiven.
4. When he is disrespectful and rude to your family members or your boyfriends
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He obviously never learned one of the most important lessons in life, which is: the way to the heart of your loved one is through her family!
This means you need to learn to get along with your beloved’s family.
If he didn't, you will feel tension throughout your entire relationship. life together. Joint dinners, going to restaurants and other events will turn into sheer torture.
5. When he shares your candid photos with friends or acquaintances
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A person does not respect you and does not value you if he allows himself to do this. Your intimate photos are something that should remain only between the two of you.
And if it was his privilege to see you naked in photographs, this does not mean that someone else can see you in this form.
What cannot be forgiven
6. When he pushes you to do things you don't like.
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He does not see and does not understand the very line and border that should not be crossed.
If he doesn't respect your wishes, forcing you to do something you don't want, run away from such a man.
7. When he takes advantage of you
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You are two equal members in your relationship.
Remember: you are not his personal ATM, you are not his driver and you should not babysit him like a child.
He is an adult and is quite capable of dealing with his own problems. Supporting a loved one is one thing. But when you feel that he is openly using you for his own selfish purposes, run away from him.
What's worse than cheating?
8. When he hurts you, another person, a defenseless animal, a child, etc.
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If a man raises his hand against you, or hurts someone else, this is a serious reason to sound the alarm.
If you saw that he kicked a defenseless animal on the street or threw a stone at it for no reason, this means that he is a cruel person. Thus, he takes it out on the weak, on those who cannot answer him.
A man who lacks remorse is not worth your love. Get away from this before it’s too late, or even better, avoid a relationship with such a person in the first place.
Remember, if a person is capable of inflicting physical pain on the weak, at any moment he can also take it out on you or your children.
9. When he abuses alcohol or other illegal drugs
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If a person has problems with alcohol or substance abuse, and he does not intend to fight this addiction, stop trying to help him.
Remember: you are not Mother Teresa, and if he himself does not understand that he is ruining his life, you do not have to do the same with yours.
10. When he lies to you even about little things
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Men usually lie to avoid punishment. However, if he lies to you often and even about minor details and without reason, then what can we say about more serious things?
11. When he doesn't respect your personal space
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If a man monitors your calls and digs into the history of correspondence with his girlfriends, this means that he does not trust you.
Sometimes mistrust goes beyond what is permitted and takes on a paranoid character.
Unforgivable
12. When he yells at you and publicly humiliates you
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You should never humiliate each other, even in private. And if he humiliates you in advance, raises his voice or makes caustic and unpleasant jokes in your direction, then this is doubly unpleasant.
Do not forgive your partner for insulting or humiliating himself, either in private or in public.
13. When he compares you to his exes
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A woman should not care how many girls her man had before her. This all happened before, period!
But if your man constantly compares you to his exes, constantly reminding you of them, this is a huge disrespect on his part.
No woman will enjoy constant competition, even if we are talking about former lovers.
So there is no need for him to compare you to any of his exes.
14. When he doesn't pay attention to your problems or underestimates the things that bother you.
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If he is not able to help you solve the problems that concern you, or reassure you with advice, take care of you, then he will not be able to become that reliable support in life that all women so dream of.
And when difficult times come, you will have to deal with the problems on your own.
15. When you are not particularly important to him
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When a person loves someone, it is normal to put the person they love above everything and everyone.
You should be your partner's priority. If you are in the tenth role with him, after hobbies, friends and partying, this means that he does not value you.
You shouldn’t be jealous of a man’s work, but if it’s not about making money, but about less significant things, this is a reason to think about whether you need a relationship in which you are not valued.
16. When he constantly brings up your past
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If there were negative moments in your past, and you shared them with your lover, this is not at all a reason to remind you of this at every convenient and inconvenient occasion.
It doesn’t look good on a man if he reminds you in a negative way of moments that you would like to forget.
In this way, he hurts you and makes you unpleasant, which means he simply does not respect your feelings and desires.
You need to be able to concentrate only on the present and on the future together. Leave the past in the past, and if something happened before, it happened before you started dating.
17. When he doesn't support you
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Being next to a man, a woman should feel support and support.
If you feel bad, he shouldn't make you feel worse. He should be a reliable and stone wall, and not someone who will finish off morally.
If your man makes you feel inferior, he may be manipulating you. This makes it easier for him to control the situation and subjugate you to himself.
18. When he doesn't show you that he loves and appreciates you.
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If your man doesn't show you that he loves and appreciates you, then why are you even together?
He may not express his love in words, but his actions should speak for themselves. If this does not happen, then there is no point in wasting time on a person who does not deserve it.
Unfortunately, as soon as the stage of the candy-bouquet period or Honeymoon comes to an end, the newlyweds become just two ordinary people who face a number of problems.
These ups and downs need to be overcome together.
It is important to be able to find a compromise and forgive each other. But there are things that, indeed, cannot and should not be forgiven by a man.
When you grow up, you don't allow girls to treat you the way they did when you were younger. Disrespect for you and all these unhappy relationships on the brink remain in the past. When you are a grown man, you need to immediately shut down a woman and turn her on the ram’s horn if she allows herself to do something that she shouldn’t.
The girl behaves the way you allow her to. Will she test you for character and balls? Of course, more than once.
1. Girl's betrayal and choice
Is the girl choosing between you and someone else? This means she doesn’t love anyone, and she doesn’t really like anyone. The girl chooses with whom she will feel better based on the maximum benefit. Who can give her as much as possible? But here the conversation is not about love, but about material wealth and commercialism. Do you need it? Find a normal girl who will love and adore you.
The girl cuckolded and asks for forgiveness? Betrayal cannot be forgiven under any circumstances. No matter how much you love. Throw to hell before you tarnish your name and your family.
2. Womanish manipulations
This is the most popular game for women in relationships. The girl begins to achieve what she wants using manipulation. Cheap play on emotions, moral pressure, threats of separation, deprivation of sex, demonstration of resentment, forced tears, categorical ultimatums, involvement of relatives and friends. You should put the girl on hold and start ignoring her until she understands or you find a better chick.
3. Prohibitions and control
Does a girl begin to forbid a man to do what he wants? Don’t be friends with them, don’t go there, don’t do anything. Do as I say. A grown man will not tolerate such antics and will put the girl in her place. Slavery was abolished a long time ago, and a girl has no moral right to prohibit something from a mature and wise man.
4. Comparison with others
A girl may compare you with other men or her exes. Sometimes girls compare their friends with their husband, blaming you for your low salary, lack of abs, or being a small “friend”. A man does not have to endure this. You should find another girlfriend and let the girl go to hell.
5. Disrespect for men
A girl is disrespectful to a man. She constantly criticizes and ridicules him. The girl swears in the presence of strangers and expresses her dissatisfaction. The girl treats the man's family poorly. Such a girl has gone astray and needs to be gotten rid of immediately.
When you grow up, relationships follow your rules, not women's. If a girl doesn’t suit you, then it’s very easy to replace her. There are so many girls now that with your experience, lassoing a good and young female is not a problem. Are you a real man?
