Many articles and books have been written about how to survive the betrayal of a friend. A huge number of films have been shot on this topic. Fake female friendship is such a hackneyed concept that it's hard to find something more banal. However, when betrayal catches up, they are usually not ready for it.
It always seems to a person that nothing bad will happen to him. Friends are real, they will never betray. Unfortunately, life sooner or later breaks such illusions. You need to be able to cope with this.
How to survive the betrayal of a friend and loved one
It is very painful when a girlfriend who has been entrusted with secrets for many years, who knows literally everything, suddenly turns out to be a traitor. It is even more painful when a double blow is overtaken: the beloved man is cheating with his best friend. Such a betrayal is really not easy to survive. After all, there is no one even to cry into the vest.
Here, healthy anger and a desire for revenge can help climb out of the abyss of despair. It was these feelings with a bad "reputation" in such situations that saved more than one woman. Everyone who has at least a drop of ambition and self-love can use them for their own good.
You need to start by accepting the fact of betrayal. A friend set up or started a relationship with a loved one - in any case - just crossed out the years of friendship. She did not reckon with the feelings of others, although she knew very well about them. It hurts to admit that you are an empty place for two dear people. So we need to convince them otherwise.
It is on this, by no means noble, but somewhere maybe even childish motivation, you can pull yourself out of the swamp. The desire to show traitors that everything is fine without them will make you smile and shine in public. The thought that they thought you were nothing will be the impetus to become someone. At least in my own eyes.
Someone begins to analyze their life and finds in it a lot of achievements, and in themselves - merits. Others, admitting that they really have not really achieved anything, are trying to catch up. In any case, a man, driven by the desire for revenge, sweeps away all obstacles like a tank. As a result, achieving tremendous results.
Of course, neither a friend, nor a former boyfriend, will suffer if the abandoned is good. On the contrary, it may become easier for them - the burden of guilt will fall. Therefore, we are not talking about real revenge here - you do not have to worry that you will have to repent later. However, they will definitely have no reason to regret a happy and successful one.
This is perhaps the most important thing. After all, betrayal is primarily a blow to pride. This is the basis of the above method of salvation. Trying to appear strong, a woman does not allow herself to turn into a smear. Trying to become happy for the evil of others - it becomes her for herself. And that was what had to be achieved.
If at the first stages anger can help to pull yourself together and not become limp, then such "girls" as melancholy, nostalgia, sadness still come. It's unavoidable. People who have passed away from our lives leave a trace in it. Some things, memories, habits are associated with them.
All this makes it difficult to survive the break. Doubts begin: "Did I do the right thing?" "Maybe she (he, they) is not to blame?" etc. To avoid this and survive the betrayal best friend or any other close person is more or less painless, psychologists advise:
1. Having learned about an unpleasant situation, try to "turn on your head" immediately, analyze and evaluate everything as objectively as possible. Perhaps there was no betrayal. Maybe a friend was deceived by someone, used, became a victim of some intrigue woven by a third person. Perhaps everything is so - she began, for example, to meet with your young man, but at the same time she is madly tormented, and she cannot control her feelings. Anything can happen in life. Even what at first glance seems like a huge betrayal may be something completely different.
2. If, nevertheless, this is the case, all ties must be cut and bridges must be burned. You should not leave the path to return to people who deceived you, plotted and laughed behind your back. Such, without hesitation, will betray the second time and the third. Therefore - out of mind and out of sight. All "reminders" (general photos, entries in diaries, postcards, phone numbers, etc.) are mercilessly into the furnace. If there is not even a trace of a person left in your life, the memory of him will soon be erased too.
3. No alcohol! If we were talking about a different situation, it would be possible to advise once to get drunk with your best friend: talk out, cry out and let go of your pain. However, everything is different here. There is no one to cry - her friend turned out to be a traitor herself. Drinking alone, and even more so with not very close people, is fraught with bad consequences. In addition, alcohol awakens nostalgia - you can do a lot of stupid things under the influence of alcohol. The main thing is that a glass does not heal, but only temporarily relieves pain. In the morning everything will appear in an even blacker color.
Men treat their male friendship like a soccer ball, which they throw anywhere and at random, but it does not break. Women rush about with their female friendshipas with a crystal vase, and if it falls, it breaks to smithereens, into small pieces. Ann Morrow Lindbergh
The saddest thing is to see how sad your friend is and to understand that you cannot help her in any way.
The best friend is like a husband, the only and beloved. This is the one with whom conversations do not get bored. This is the one whose pain is like your own. This is the one who can cheer you up when you want to cry ...
When a modern man is removed from his friends, he takes his likes and proudly leaves.
A friend is like a second I. Cicero Mark Tullius
Friends don't die, they stop being around!
The question is whether you can ever prefer new friends to old ones. Unknown author
If you want to know the girl's flaws, praise her in front of your friends.
You can't get a faithful friend for money.
True friendship knows no envy, but true love - coquetry. Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Friendship abuse is the worst of all sins.
Losing a girlfriend is worse than losing a boyfriend. Because there can be a lot of guys, and the best friend is the one with whom you have been around all your life.
Who is everyone's friend, I do not consider that my friend. Moliere.
Close friendship happens with people who are similar to each other. Plato
A friend to all is no one's friend. Seneca.
Choose a friend slowly, even less hurry to change him. Franklin.
There is no more joy than seeing friends, there is no more bitter sorrow than separation from friends. Rudaki
Affection can do without reciprocity, but friendship never. Jean Jacques Rousseau
A true friend knows how to hear between the lines, to hear what has not been said.
You can't offend your friends! But pinning is a sacred thing!
Share your thoughts with a friend. Unknown author
A real miracle happens when you meet a soul mate who recognizes who you are and who you can become, and who kindles your blood for new great achievements. Rusty Berkus
Not the point of whom you were born, but who you hang out with. Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra
Yes, I have several real friends, but we do not really love each other.
I love those who are about to betray, but I hate those who have already betrayed. Antigone III
I came to my friend to cry for the life of Whinnying until the morning
The friend should have tolerated the friend's shortcomings. William Shakespeare
Scold your friend face to face, and praise - in public. Solon
Live with people so that your friends do not become enemies and enemies become friends. Pythagoras.
I have a sweater with a picture of my friends, but I call it a ram sweater.
A friend is the person who recognizes you from afar and breaks into a smile at the sight of your distant silhouette
Make friends with a smart one, because a fool friend is sometimes more dangerous than a smart enemy. Rumi.
True friends are friends who won't let you do stupid things alone.
Diligently avoid all friendship with fools and rogues, if the word friendship is generally applicable in relations with such people. Philip Dormer Stanhope Chesterfield on friendship ...
A sister cannot always become a friend, but a friend can always become a sister.
There is no more bleak desert than life without friends; friendship multiplies blessings and alleviates troubles; joy of the soul, it is the only cure for a hostile fate. Baltasar Gracian y Morales
Best friend - he is the only one ...
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A devoted friend is a friend who has been betrayed ...
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She was used to betrayal, to pain and filth ...
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Goodbye, my girlfriend, friendship is not a toy….
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You can survive the betrayal of a friend! You just need to understand that you were not a friend to her!
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Once betrayed, he will betray again.
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You cannot forgive treason, lies and betrayal !!! especially to friends!
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It's hard to come to terms with the betrayal of friends. But you checked how good friends they were!
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Women find it difficult to decide on treason, but when they decide, they do not stop.
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Do not trust anyone, do not tell your secrets to anyone and no one will ever betray you.
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Friendship has changed so much that it allows betrayal, does not need meetings, correspondence, hot conversations, and even allows the presence of one friend.
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A true friend always rejoices at your successes, and does not say that this is all nonsense ...
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Betrayal can be expected from a friend, from a guy, but not from parents ...
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There is no female friendship ??? Lies ... My friend is a reflection of my soul.
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The main thing is that the status is cooler than that of your friends.
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I am strong .... I can endure everything .. and your betrayal too .. only being strong hurts.
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Believing the oaths of a traitor is like believing the godliness of the devil.
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It enrages me, the feeling of betrayal to the person you consider just a friend.
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I'll be your smartest ex. I promise ...
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Betrayal from a friend is like a blow below the belt ... always unexpected and very painful ...
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Hmmm ... it's hard to survive the betrayal of your best friend ... I loved him ... but it turns out you love each other behind my back too ...
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I can still forgive my friend's betrayal, but, alas, I can never trust this person!
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It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend.
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You can't forgive a friend's betrayal ... but for the future, you need to take into account that there will still be such scum in life ..
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I despise cowardice in people, when, for their own benefit, saving their WOLF SKINS, they ANNOUNCEMENT ON FRIENDS !!!
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Sometimes you don't know which is better, to lose a friend or forgive her for her betrayal.
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Friendship has changed so much that it allows betrayal, does not need meetings, correspondence and hot conversations ...
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Thanks for the betrayal! Thank you for recognizing such rubbish in my ex-girlfriend!
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Sometimes you don't know which is better, to lose a friend or forgive her for her betrayal ...
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Those who have become very close to us will still disappear. And while they are with us, we must do everything possible to be remembered for a lifetime ....
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Vooot, this is yeah ... my friend doesn't talk to me, the reason is unknown, but I'm suffering ((my friend ... I am disappointed in her 10 times and still forgive, but it hurts me to endure betrayal every time ... (.. Not for voices ...
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A soul that has committed a betrayal perceives any surprise as the beginning of retribution.
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The closer a person was, the more painful his betrayal.
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And when you are disappointed in loved ones, is it a betrayal? -This is life..
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Friends need to be chosen wisely. If there was a betrayal, then for any reason this person was not your friend either ...
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Thanks for the betrayal!
Thank you for recognizing such rubbish in my ex-girlfriend!
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If your friend cheated on you and you want to jump from the tenth floor, remember: you have not wings, but horns.
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Betraying your best friend is worse than cheating on your loved one!
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It would be better if I got myself a puppy ... The dog does not betray ...
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Who are you? my friends? relatives? sorry, I didn’t know. how betrayal and hypocrisy change faces!
Statuses about betrayal of a girlfriend, friends, friend
The most important rule: do not consider yourself smarter than enemies and do not rely too much on friends - betrayal always lives next to them.
It is impossible to be good in this life. If you offer help, they start looking for a catch. If you accept help, you run into betrayal!
A person who has committed a betrayal lives in endless torments, constantly awaiting retribution ... (Fazil Iskander)
False comrades are nearby when the sun is shining brightly, but as soon as the shadows appear, betrayal is born.
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Centuries flow like an endless river, space and the universe change, but the rotten essence of betrayal remains the same.
Only real comrades will pass not only through your joy, but also through tears!
It is much better to love your friends more than to hate your enemies more.
In the animal world there is no betrayal, treachery, treason. Alas, only people are inherently disgusting!
Don't be afraid to offend your friend with the truth - no one else can do it!
“Judas Iscariot, when he realized that he was a traitor, hanged himself. To your happiness, you are not very intelligent at all ”
Keep your friends with you and you will keep your enemies.
A friend is one soul living in two bodies.
A man can forgive a Woman for everything - betrayal, stupidity, even treason. The only thing that a Man will never forgive a Woman is superiority over himself ...
Two are more than You and I. Two are We ...
It's good when a dog is a friend, it's bad when a friend is a dog ...
You and I were a perfect match. I am perfection, you are ideal :-)
Betrayal is most often committed not out of deliberate intention, but out of weakness of character
A soul that has committed a betrayal perceives any surprise as the beginning of retribution.
A devoted friend is a friend who has been betrayed ...
Only a traitor is worse than an enemy ...
A true friend is someone who will hold your hand and feel your heart ...
Pain. Betrayal. Resentment. Drowned out the beat of the heart, I recognized this power, Revenge ... yes! Her name is!
i'll burn myself, but I'll leave a friend to smoke
Friendship is when you come half an hour late, knowing that no one will be offended by you, and you see that there is no one else.
The wider you open your arms, the easier it is to crucify you
It's not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes marriages unhappy.
"Friend, not the one who will jump after you from the window, but the one who will catch you from below ..."
Trust is the first condition for friendship. (Jean de La Bruyère)
Cheating is the most cruel betrayal in relation to a loved one, because of which it hurts so much that life becomes black and white, and the world simply ceases to exist!
“I don’t need a hundred friends ... I don’t need a hundred rubles! I need a friend who will give a thousand "
looking at animals, one becomes ashamed of people ... anger, betrayal, hatred are characteristic only of humans ..
"Most wonderful giftmade to people after wisdom is friendship. "
Betrayal is pain, whatever you call it, there is no offense, because it is stupid to be offended, no anger, because it is a waste of energy ... One nagging pain !!!
A real friend, like a bra, is close to my heart and always supports ...: -D
if there is a noise and a fight somewhere, if the bottles are beaten there, if the girls screeched, it means ours are drinking
My friendships are gra-a-amotny: half an hour with obscenities - never repeated !!!
Friendship based on business is better than business based on friendship.
Betrayal, like the law, has no retroactive effect
Never push your friends away from you, let alone enemies.
Betrayal is most often committed not out of deliberate intention, but out of weakness of character.
ON ANOTHER'S MADNESS, YOUR HAPPINESS WILL NOT BUILD
Unite people! Look: zero is nothing, but two zeros mean something.
Friendship, like life, is a difficult thing. But if life goes by, then real friends remain ...
The meanest crime is abuse of a friend's trust.
Friends are like good health: you cannot appreciate it while you do not lose it.
A dog is a friend of man. I had a friend ... a dog 😀
Having lost their best friend Illusion, she met another woman, Reality, but their relationship did not work out.
Why is a stab in the back inflicted by those whom you usually protect with your chest?
There is no mercy to the person who betrayed friendship. 8oI
Finding a good friend is only half the battle, you still have to be like that yourself.
Friendship is love without wings. (Byron)
A friend's betrayal cannot be forgiven ... but for the future it is necessary to take into account that there will still be such scum in life ..
Betrayal is a blow in the ribs for which you are not ready ..
A friend is the one who knows the melody of your heart and can sing it when you forget the words !!!
One of the common meanings is blaming absent friends in order to please others.
You don't need to have friends ... You need to be friends with them.
If the boy follows you obstinately, This boy is blue, Which is very dangerous) 😀
yes, we are not perfect so what? but we are perfect for each other!
Each of us is an angel, but with only one wing. And we can only fly embracing each other
LET'S DRINK, FRIEND !!)))
Friends may not be alike. But friends will always see support in each other's eyes ...
All the trouble your worst enemy can put to your face is nothing compared to what your best friends say about you behind your back.
The best friend is a pillow. Trust your pillow, not your girlfriend. 😀
The friendship that ended never actually started :-)
a friend is the person who knows everything about you but loves you with that numbness !!!
Friends come and go, but enemies pile up.
Women's friendship exists as long as women's interests do not overlap!
Much makes sense as long as there are people to drink tea with in the attic and whip a martini on the roof. ©.
Before coming to visit you, real friends will first ask: "Is there a thread to eat?"
if you have friends, then they also have you ...
Friends are people who will remind you of your jambs all their lives and play over them! ...
There is no justice in this life ... you want the best, you help people, and you come across betrayal and mistrust.
The soul that has committed betrayal perceives any surprise as the beginning of retribution. (Fazil Iskander)
betrayal is the worst thing that can be expected from a loved one.
first betrayal weaned me from trusting first impressions
If all my friends jump from the bridge, then instead of jumping with them, I will catch them under the bridge.
Friends are known in times of trouble ... or when you need guarantors ..
If life gets tight, look at a friend's face))
It's good when a dog is a friend. But when a friend is a dog ...
… Only with their tacit consent there is treason and murder on earth.
Better let the boot shake your leg than the scoundrel shake your hand!
I will drive away the dull pain that hurts my heart like a knife. I could forgive everything, but not betrayal and lies!
A friend can be closer than a brother, and a brother is more than a friend ...
thank you friends that I have you !!!
Lie at least once - tell me that I am your friend ...
Malicious enemies don't get us so much as smart-ass friends !!!
People love to call the meanest things by noble names. For example, betrayal is called tactical necessity, and lies are called defensive mimicry.
Betrayal, like the law, has no retroactive effect
15 years of friendship with you no longer oblige me to do anything, but all because of your betrayal, my friend.
Friendship has changed so much that it allows betrayal, does not need meetings, correspondence, hot conversations, and even allows the presence of one friend.
Instead of love, loneliness comes to replace happiness, grief, and instead of friendship, sheer betrayal.
I despise cowardice in people, when, for their own benefit, saving their WOLF SKINS, they ANNOUNCEMENT ON FRIENDS !!!
A comrade can leave at any minute, absolutely unexpectedly, in fact, just as he appeared.
Who are you? my friends? relatives? sorry, I didn't. How betrayal and hypocrisy change faces!
Only those who have gone through the betrayal of their best friend are able to understand how trivial were the problems that once seemed serious.
Hmmm ... it's hard to survive the betrayal of your best friend ... I loved him ... but it turns out you love each other behind my back too ....
When betrayal becomes a habit, there is no place for friendship.
I am strong ... I will endure everything ... and your betrayal too ... only it hurts to be strong.
After the betrayal of friends, the rest is a mere trifle to survive.
You know, this may be wrong, but after all these betrayals, I clearly decided that I would never have new friends again. Maximum - friends. And I believe only those two people who helped me get out of that hell.
Wherever you look, everywhere there is one betrayal and it doesn't matter if there is a friend, or he is not.
Friend?! Yes, such friends, for one place and a museum! I hate weak-minded deceivers, inclined to self-centeredness, bastardism and betrayal!
After meeting with you, I realized what treason smells like, he has the smell of your perfume.
Always the closest and dearest to you people betray! Proven for centuries, and I was convinced of this too.
When you believe in people and try to do everything for someone with a soul, from pure heart, for some reason they answer you with betrayal and mistrust. Why is there no justice in the world?
Do not make acquaintances with those who betrayed old friends - as they betrayed old ones, so they will betray new ones.
Of course, I forgive you, but only for the last time ...
Sage, do not fantasize in vain - circumstances have no power over friendship!
A traitorous friend is a hundred times worse than a worst enemy.
The most outrageous crime is abuse of a friend's trust.
You don't need to have friends ... You need to be friends with them.
Fake people are more dangerous to have friends than enemies.
Betrayal is like a blow below the belt ... always unexpected and very painful ...
Forgive the cynical betrayer, for a nickle,
I can’t, I don’t want - indefinitely.
There are values \u200b\u200bthat cannot be exchanged in any way,
Amnesty denied! And the point.
