Have you told your friends that you are getting married? Get ready, now a flurry of advice and warnings will fall on you. You will learn so many wedding signs that if you observe everything, the holiday will turn into a terrible minefield. Even if you are not superstitious, at least a couple of them will sink into your soul. Some beliefs have been forming for hundreds of years, some for several decades, but, as a rule, each is explained logically. We took eight popular signs, plunged into history and found simple reasons for their occurrence. Debunking myths!
Wedding omen: you cannot see the bride in a dress before the ceremony
First, you cannot see the bride before the wedding. This prejudice arose from a long tradition of prohibiting young people from getting to know each other before marriage. Previously, most marriages in Russia were concluded not out of love, but under duress. Parents agreed on a profitable party, deciding for their children, who did not have the right to vote. The wealth and estate of the future spouse were considered important. Often, the bride and groom never saw each other until the wedding. The parents were afraid that they would not like each other, and one of the young people would run away. By the way, a veil appeared in support of this tradition - the bride's face was covered until the young spouses were announced, then the groom opened the bride's face and finally saw her.
Secondly, before the wedding, you should not show the dress to anyone. The reason for superstition is practical - before wedding Dress was considered part of the dowry, the most expensive fabric and jewelry the family could afford. It was risky to show such a jewel, they could have stolen it. So they hid the dress until the wedding.
Wedding sign: the bride's shoes must be worn
Few families in Russia could afford to sew a formal pair of shoes for the bride. Most of them sometimes had nothing to wear every day, so more or less elegant shoes were passed from one girl to another, throughout the village. This wedding omen is also the wisest - new shoes can rub your leg and spoil your mood, but it's comfortable in a worn leg.
Wedding omen: you can't get married in a leap year
It is believed that a family created in a leap year will not be happy. There are different explanations for beliefs, we tell the most interesting. Many centuries ago, the leap year was considered the year of brides who could choose a husband themselves. Moreover, the poor man had no right to refuse if matchmakers came to him. It turns out that at least one person married against his will - such unions turned out to be happy very rarely.
Wedding omen: getting married in May is just toil
Our practical ancestors invented this sign in order not to interfere with spring work in the fields. May is the traditional sowing time when the foundation was laid for the future harvest. Most families ate what they raised, did not sow the land on time - leaving their relatives without food for a year. Weddings took place for two or three days, or even a week. After such a celebration, I had to come to my senses, this also took more than one day. So it turned out that together with the preparation it took several weeks, to do this in May meant to doom the family to hunger.
Wedding omen: a holiday on Krasnaya Gorka - fortunately
Wedding omen: rain on the wedding will bring happiness
To explain this wedding omen, we again return to our ancestors - otherwise, almost all customs came from those times. Rain for the Slavs was a grace, it gave life and harvest. Droughts led to hunger, so the whole family enjoyed the rain. Hence the opinion that rain for a wedding is fortunate.
Wedding omen: wedding rings cannot be measured
The ring has long been considered a talisman that protects the owner from illness and misfortune. The amulet belonged to him, accumulated energy, becoming one with him. Letting someone try your ring on is to break the connection with him by letting a third one into it. Wedding rings are the same amulets, they protected the family from strife and troubles. Give to try wedding ring meant to significantly weaken the protection.
Wedding sign: parents cannot be present at the celebration
There are several reasons for this belief; we like the one that refers to the above-mentioned custom of forced marriages. In 1724, Peter the Great issued a decree, which forbade to force couples to marry. Before the wedding, the priest had to make sure that the intentions of the future spouses were voluntary, and their parents were required to take an oath, vowing that they did not force their children to marry. In practice, this was not observed, therefore some settlements forbade parents to attend the wedding. This step allowed the young to refuse an unwanted marriage without the pressure of relatives.
In our modern and developed society, there is still a large number of different signs and superstitions. One of the main wedding superstitions is that the groom should not see the bride's wedding attire until the wedding day. Why can't a girl go to the wedding salon with her future husband and pick up a wedding dress?
How did this wedding sign come about?
They say that the sign existed in Ancient Russia and migrated in our time from the Old Russian traditions. However, the period where and when this sign appeared remains unknown. But one thing remained unchanged - this is the belief of most girls in this outdated omen.
So is it possible for the bride to choose a dress together with the groom? Let's consider several arguments "For" and "Against".
So, the arguments "Against":
Married life will be unhappy, or not at all.
On this occasion, the popular omen clearly defines: in no case should the future spouse see, let alone choose and buy a wedding dress for the bride. And it gives an idea of \u200b\u200bwhat might happen: expect trouble, the marriage will be short-lived, the wedding may be upset. After such definitions, any bride will want to play it safe and not take the groom with her to the wedding salon.
A sign cannot exist in vain.
Most grandmothers are sure that since the omen has survived to this day, it's not just that. It has been tested by time, and by more than one generation of people, which means that it has been confirmed. Smart people they won't speak in vain. After all, it cannot be that, due to someone's stupidity, this sign has been followed for so many years.
Relationship with the past.
Many believe that observing the signs and traditions, especially when it comes to wedding ceremonies, they pay tribute to the ancestors, and they, in turn, strengthen the marriage union.
The thought is material.
According to this theory, the idea is firmly rooted in your subconscious that if the groom sees a wedding dress before the day of the celebration, expect trouble. If you really believe in this omen, you will see in everything only confirmation of this thought, even without a reason.
The surprise effect.
Probably the most compelling argument in favor of buying a wedding dress without a groom is the effect you can have on him in your luxurious way. After all, he has never seen you in such a chic way. This kind of surprise on your part will be remembered by the groom for life.
We hope we have more or less sorted out the arguments "Against".
Now, with regard to the pros:
The signs are a relic of the past.
In our constantly changing world, it is simply indecent to continue to believe in omens and superstitions. First of all, this concerns whether a bride can buy a wedding dress with the groom? Modern progress has stepped forward, and with it such sciences as philosophy and psychology, which were able to explain why people still hold superstitious views.
Wedding outfit - a dream of two.
We are accustomed to the understanding that only the bride in her dreams presents her wedding dress, forgetting about the other half - the groom. Of course, a man will be happy to see his beloved girl next to him at the altar in any outfit. But he, like the girl, imagines the image of the future bride. Why not take it with you then. Give him the opportunity to participate, express his ideas and views on the wedding dresses being tried on. The groom's advice and opinion on choosing a dress can be very constructive and helpful. Choosing a dress with your groom can be quite a fun adventure.
In a relationship, the choice of dress is not the main thing.
Any psychologist can explain that it does not matter whether the groom saw the dress or not, the main thing is the incipient feeling between two people, mutual understanding and patience for each other. Let's be realistic, the marriage union cannot fall apart because of omens. A marriage can be destroyed by: betrayal, assault, misunderstanding. And there is no need to blame anyone or something, like a wedding dress. If you cannot find a common language with each other, the dress has nothing to do with it.
Religion denies superstition.
The Church denies any signs and superstitions, believing that they passed to us from pagan culture. Therefore, first you need to determine what you believe in, pagan superstitions or church foundations.
In any case, the choice is always yours. We will be pleased if these arguments helped to understand and dispel doubts. Happy wedding!
What is Love Story filming (and what is it for)
Many photographers and videographers have a Love Story filming service. But different performers may have completely different services! So what's the difference?
The fact is that everyone puts something of their own into the concept of shooting "love story" and, having asked one photographer how much a love story costs and what is included in it, it is quite possible that another photographer has a completely different perception of a love story, and this will be a completely different service , and maybe even given to you as a gift.
Everyone knows that a love story is some kind of romantic couples shooting, where you two are, which is filmed before the wedding. There are actually a lot of types of it. I'll cover the main ones. The simplest option is what is, as it were, replaced by the word "love story" - pre-wedding photography. Basically, this is a rehearsal of wedding photography, which is done so that you, as a couple, get used to the photographer and videographer who will be filming you.
This is a small photo session in ordinary clothes. She can be filmed anywhere: in the park, on the street, etc. In general, where there will be beautiful light. Roughly speaking, it is done so that you can see how the photographer works, understand what you have to do on this shoot, that this is different from a passport photo, so that the groom can see that it is not scary, and the bride understands that she is, it turns out that it can turn out beautifully in photographs, and that the photographer can capture it beautifully.
That is, this is just such a training photo session. But the photos, if they are taken in advance, you can safely use when decorating your wedding: print them on invitations, magnets or posters, give away to guests, in general, whatever you want. This is what is called pre-wedding photography, that is, a small rehearsal, quite short in time.
By the way, this year I give it as a bonus, but many photographers sell for extra money. Not the point, the main thing is that you understand what it is. There is a western tradition of pre-wedding photo shoots - roughly speaking, pre-wedding photography in wedding suits, with hair, makeup - the way you will look at a wedding.
In the west, this often happens before the wedding, but since we have a tradition that the groom should not see the bride's dress immediately before the day of the event. Therefore, we often shoot it afterwards, because in the tradition of European weddings, there is especially no time at a wedding to hold this large-scale photo session. Therefore, they do it in advance. When it's just a wedding, some Russian photographers can find such a service as After Wedding Photos. What it is? (continued in the video)
: don't get hung up
I want to say right away: despite the fact that a lot of signs and superstitions are associated with a wedding dress, you do not need to dwell on them too much. After all, there was a time when our ancestors simply went to the registry office or the village council in everyday clothes, and then lived happily ever after for more than a dozen years.
If you think about something bad all the time, then it will certainly happen, so you do not need to wind yourself up on the eve of the wedding in the expectation that at some point something unexpected and unpleasant will happen. Better to just relax and enjoy the upcoming holiday.
However, there are, and sometimes they really work. For especially suspicious brides, there are many rules for choosing a wedding dress.
What should be the perfect wedding dress
There is an old belief, according to which a thing taken from someone close to the bride should be added. Previously, the bride's mother gave the girl an embroidered handkerchief. Symbols were embroidered on the scarf that protected the bride from unkind looks. It is advisable to ask for some trinket from relatives or friends, but in no case can you borrow a veil and gloves. At the end of the wedding, it is necessary to return the borrowed little thing. It is advisable to borrow this thing from a friend who is happily married.
The wedding dress must be brand new. After the wedding, no one can borrow it. There is, according to which, someone else's wedding dress can attract other people's problems into family life. An outfit that stores the energy of the family and is inherited from generation to generation can become a happy wedding dress. The wedding dress of a great-grandmother, who has been happily married for more than fifty years, can become a reliable amulet. True, it is difficult to find a family in Russia where a great-grandmother's wedding dress that can be worn is kept, so you need to buy an outfit for the upcoming celebration in a store. It is better to get a simpler wedding dress than to rent a chic outfit.
However, when buying a wedding dress in a store, it is impossible to say with complete certainty that no one has worn it before. I personally know such a case when my friend's mother worked as a seller in a store of luxury wedding dresses and for her daughter took a very nice outfit, which was then returned back to the salon and was purchased.
The ideal option is a custom-made wedding dress. In this case, you can be completely sure that no one has worn the outfit before, and it does not carry negative energy.
There is also a sign according to which a wedding dress cannot be sewn by the future bride herself or trust this business to close people and relatives.
The wedding dress should be long as it means a long and happy family life.
An old English omen associated with a bride's attire
According to tradition, the bride must wear four things on her wedding day. One thing must be new, the second old, the third blue and the fourth borrowed from a friend. A new thing is a symbol new familywhere love, peace and harmony will reign; old thing means the bride's bond with the home, parents and family in which she grew up. The blue color symbolizes modesty and loyalty, and a borrowed thing means the bride's connection with friends, on whose help and support she can always count on in difficult moments in life.
How to buy a wedding dress correctly
It is best to go with a company of loved ones. When trying on a dress, only those people in whose good attitude you can be 100% sure.
No need to photograph yourself in different outfitsto compare later. You should treat your wedding dress with due respect.
In the store, you need to try to make sure that the bride-to-be in a wedding dress is seen by as few strangers as possible.
The bride-to-be does not have to pay for the purchase herself. The wedding dress must be kept in the parental home before the celebration.
No one except the bride herself should try on a purchased dress. Also, you can't put on the entire wedding outfit and look in the mirror. For example, you can try on with one glove.
What color should the wedding dress be
Traditionally, the wedding dress should be white. White color symbolizes purity and light, which will illuminate the future family life of the newlyweds. However, modern designers offer wedding dresses of various colors, and brides increasingly want to wear something unusual for their weddings.
A yellow wedding dress can attract quarrels and tears in a family, a red one - scandals and numerous quarrels. However, individual elements of red in a wedding dress or bridal bouquet foreshadow good luck in marriage, the power of love and unquenchable passion.
The gold color attracts money to the family and symbolizes a life of abundance. However, you shouldn't marry in an all-gold dress. We are talking here about the individual finishing elements.
The pink dress symbolizes deep, pure love, but the white wedding dress is still perfect.
How to wear a wedding dress correctly
Folk omens and superstitions say that you cannot dress for a wedding yourself or with the help of your mother. It is best to ask your friends for help. They are the ones who should help the bride on this day.
You need to pin a pin on the hem of the wedding dress, head down. The pin will divert the eyes of envious people and neutralize negative energy.
The bride's wedding dress must be worn over the head.
How to wear a wedding dress correctly during a celebration
On the wedding day, when the groom has already arrived at the bride's house, the young cannot be separated until the moment they are declared husband and wife. Also, guests should not be allowed to pass between them.
If the bride's dress is very fluffy skirt, which interferes with walking, the groom in no case should help his chosen one to carry the hem. The bridesmaid should do this.
During the wedding ceremony, girlfriends should not adjust the bride's attire. According to the existing sign, in this case they will interfere and spoil the family life of the spouses.
Popular folk signs about the bride's wedding dress
On the wedding day, the dress was torn - the relationship with the mother-in-law may not work out.
If a button flew off the bride's wedding dress, then frequent quarrels and discord in the family are possible. It is necessary to sew a flying button with two stitches to ward off troubles from the newlyweds. By the way, according to folk tradition, there should be an even number of buttons on the bride's wedding dress.
You must not show yourself to the groom in a wedding dress before the wedding. It is believed that in this case, the wedding may not take place.
Wedding dress as a talisman
Preparing for the wedding, the bride and groom and everyone involved in the process suddenly become unusually superstitious and force the young couple to observe all the known signs. One of the most common superstitions is that the groom cannot see the bride's dress before the wedding.
What explains this sign?
Explanation one, practical
The bride's dress is always expensive. In the past, it was trimmed with rich embroidery, rare lace, precious stones... Even in poor families, they tried to prepare an outfit at the limit of their financial capabilities, since this is a matter of prestige. A luxurious dress could always be stolen, which is why they kept it under lock and key for the time being.
Explanation two, psychological
Wedding day is the moment when life status changes. Many grooms, and brides too, experience a scientifically explainable fear before the ceremony: what will be family life? Are we making a mistake? The famous character of Gogol Podkolesin even jumped out of the window in fear. It also happens that a man marries "out of necessity" and experiences general stress from the fact that he does not want to marry, but must be decent, and so on ...
The appearance of the bride in a new image switches fear and other negativity to a positive emotional and aesthetic shock. In the groom, male instincts are turned on: this beautiful woman is mine! There is no turning back - our relatives follow us! And he says "yes" ... The effect produced by the bride's outfit at the right moment directs the groom's psyche in the right direction. He gradually realizes himself in a new role, and then the subconscious mind does its job.
This is how the omen that came to us from ancient times plays a positive role in our time.
Perhaps you shouldn't take all these wedding superstitions too seriously. Hiding a dress, or, conversely, discussing his style with the groom, wanting to please his tastes, is a personal choice for each couple. This is not the main point. How family life will flow does not depend on adherence to omens. We are modern people, mostly materialists, and we know the basics of the psychology of marriage. But beautiful dresses we love it anyway!
Folk omens are the experience accumulated by generations, but very often omens are confused with superstitions, which are based not on the experience of generations, but on ignorance and mysticism. You have the right to choose for yourself what to attribute to signs and what to superstition, what to believe and what not. Here is a far from complete list of wedding signs and superstitions:
Wedding signsnot included in the category:
Guests are not allowed to wear black for the wedding.
- The bride and groom should spend the last night before the wedding separately.
- When the groom picks up the bride from the parental home, in no case should he look back.
- The bride should not allow her friends to stand in front of her in front of the mirror so that they do not take her beloved away.
- Presenting a photo before the wedding is a sign of separation.
- Sweep off the table with your hand - the husband (wife) will be bald (oh).
- For a husband to sleep a lot before the wedding - to sleep a cross-eyed wife.
- Sitting on the corner of the table is not getting married for seven years.
- To knit any clothes for a lover before the wedding is a sign of betrayal and parting.
- For a bride to look in the mirror in a wedding dress - to minor troubles.
- Crossing the threshold, crossing the path to the bride and groom - to trouble and disagreement between the spouses.
- Who (the groom or the bride) crosses the threshold of the house first, he will be the head of the family.
- To wash the threshold in the house after the departure of the bride - to the soon return of the bride to her parents (the breakup of the marriage).
- If the groom cuts his hair on the eve of a wedding or wedding, the children will be sick.
- You cannot marry in a leap year.
Wedding omens associated with the registry office:
- A bad omen is to walk before going to the registry office.
- After the ransom and before the registry office, no one should pass between the bride and groom, so their clothes are fastened with a pin.
- The parents of the bride and groom must not be present at the registry office.
- The more confusing the road that young people travel, the happier their family life will be. In ancient times, "wedding trains" took the most winding paths to the church.
Wedding omens associated with witnesses:
- If the witnesses at the wedding are divorced, this is a divorce of the newlyweds.
- If the witnesses are married - unfortunately too.
- If one witness is married to another, the marriage of the witnesses will fall apart.
Wedding omens associated with wedding rings:
- Wedding rings should certainly be smooth (classic), not pretentious, with stones, notches - then the life of the newlyweds will be smooth.
- Loss of a wedding ring - to the collapse of marriage, parting.
- Letting on the wedding ring is unfortunate.
- After the couple have exchanged rings, the bride should not take the empty box. It must be given to the young girl present at the wedding. According to the existing belief, the one who takes the box from under the wedding rings will marry next.
- If you want the ring to be decorated with a stone, remember: a ruby \u200b\u200bmeans passionate love, an emerald - tender, and a diamond - long.
Wedding omens associated with jewelry:
- You cannot wear pearls to a wedding. This is to the tears of the bride.
- You cannot wear jewelry at a wedding, you need jewelry.
- You cannot wear rings on your wedding day, except for the engagement ring.
Wedding signs associated with the bride's dress:
- They say that the bride's dress should be a dress, not a corset with a skirt, otherwise there will be a separate life.
- The bride's dress should be white.
- The groom should not see the bride's dress before the wedding.
- You cannot sell a wedding dress. It must be preserved all life so that the marriage does not fall apart.
- It is forbidden for a bride to put on a wedding dress through her legs, but only through her head.
- It is not recommended to rent a dress or buy a used one. Save money now - you will not get out of debt all your life. The dress must be new.
- On the hem of the dress, the bride must make a few stitches with blue thread to prevent the evil eye.
Wedding omens associated with the color of the bride's dress:
- The white dress is a symbol of God's Grace.
- Silver (gray) dress - short-term marriage.
- A red dress is a conflict marriage.
- The blue dress is a quick cooling of the spouses.
- Blue dress - the husband will have mistresses.
- The green dress is a moneyless marriage.
- Yellow dress - will live exactly six years.
- The color of gold is a rich marriage.
- Brown dress - they will share what they get.
- Black dress - early to be widowed.
- A pink dress is a long love.
Wedding omens associated with the color of the groom's suit:
- Black suit - love marriage.
- A gray suit is a hasty marriage, but mostly a long one.
- White suit - the groom will suffer.
- Blue suit - the husband will change.
- Blue suit - squabbles over money.
- The green suit is a marriage made to laugh at people.
- Red suit - for the groom's short life.
- The brown suit is a strict husband.
Wedding omens associated with other items of clothing:
- Getting married in a hat means divorce.
- To get married in a short veil - to sick children.
- To get married without a veil is to suffering and deception.
- If the groom is wearing a bow tie, he will cheat.
Wedding omens associated with shoes:
- If the groom is in boots, he will fight.
- If the groom is in gray, light or white shoes, he will have fragile health and a short life.
- You can't get married in sandals - life will be barefoot.
- If the heel breaks on the wedding day, family life will be "limp".
Wedding omens associated with gifts:
- It is not customary to give forks, spoons and knives to a wedding. Such a gift is considered a bad omen.
- You can't give roses to a wedding, especially red ones.
Wedding signs associated with the wedding:
- If the bride is wearing her wedding dress before the wedding, the wedding will not take place. (Russian omen). It was considered: put on a dress - got married.
- No one should cross the road to the bride and groom going to the wedding.
- Whoever's candle burns out faster during the wedding will be the first to die.
- If the bride, standing under the crown, drops the handkerchief, then the husband will die and be her widow.
- If you accidentally drop your wedding ring before you put it on your finger, this is separation.
- The suddenly extinguished wedding candle portends hard life in marriage or early death.
Wedding signs related to the day or time of the wedding:
- Getting married on the 13th is a bad omen.
- Afternoon marriages are considered more successful.
- In order to be happy in marriage, the bride must cry on her wedding day.
- Rain or snow on your wedding day - fortunately.
Wedding omens associated with the months:
- January is early to become a widow.
- February - live in harmony.
- March - to live on the wrong side.
- April - enjoy varying degrees of success.
- May - see treason in your own home. Or else - toil.
- June - honeymoon will last a lifetime.
- July - keep sweet and sour memories of your life.
- August - the husband will be both a lover and a friend.
- September is a quiet and calm life.
- October - life will be hard and difficult.
- November is a very rich life.
- December - the stars of love will shine brighter and brighter every year.
You decide whether you believe in wedding omens and superstitions or not, but remember - paying too much attention to various signs and superstitions, you severely limit yourself in freedom of action and choice. After all, the main wedding sign is the feelings of the young, so love and be happy!
