The other day I had a consultation with one of my students. At the beginning of a coaching session, I always ask how the person is doing. What a person says doesn't interest me as much as his voice, state and energy. So, the student began to tell me that everything is fine with her, just wonderful, but I feel that there are notes of frustration in her voice.
In general, it turned out that she had a quarrel with her husband in the morning. And in general, they often quarrel. And all because of little things, ordinary everyday issues. I asked her to describe in detail the situation, when and why the quarrel occurred.
And so she began to tell me everything, moreover, from her story it was obvious that he was to blame: “He did that, he said this, he did not want this,” and so on.
I asked her: "Tell me how to describe the situation more correctly: he offended you or you offended?"
Of course he is! He did just that.
I asked the following question: "That is, it turns out that Your life depends on him?"
So that you understand the situation better, I will clarify that this girl is doing her own thing, she has her own beauty parlor, and she provides cosmetic services. She is doing well with money, and, in general, she is great, she has created an excellent business, she provides excellent services, she has many regular customers who have been using her services for more than 3 years. In November, she bought mentoring (and before that she had been participating in trainings since September), so that I could help her improve family relations and help her husband increase his income. By the way, in November, the husband's income from 40 tr. rose to 63 tr. This is her great merit.
In general, she is a successful girl, very wise, bright and professional in her field.
But for some reason, even such successful girls in the family forget the simple laws of life, although in business they are clearly followed.
I continued to ask questions to better understand her thinking in relationships: "Who is responsible for your relationship with your husband?"
“Both of us, 50-50,” she replied!
And here is the key answer, the root of all problems in family relationships!
In business, she takes 100% responsibility, but in relationships - only 50%.
If she takes 50% of herself in a relationship, then family relationships depend on someone else, but not on her.
It seems to be logical. Since there are 2 people, it means that the responsibility is divided equally.
But the laws of life are illogical.
I told her: "You bear 100% for your relationship with your husband!" "And the husband ???" - read in her voice. So I continued: "The husband is also 100% responsible for your relationship." And when the husband and wife take on each 100% responsibility, then the relationship is perfect.
Such a simple truth, but so few people apply it in relationships.
Now she realized that it was she who was offended, and not her husband offended her, because to be offended or not is her personal choice.
We went further. I was sure that the “offended” model stretches from the distant past. And it's not about the husband. And, of course, it all started with the father, because the father is the first man of any girl. And the relationship with her husband depends on how the relationship with him develops. Therefore, always first of all, when working on family relationships, you have to first build relationships with the father / mother.
It turned out that her father never praised her.
When she received a four, he asked: "Why not a five?"
When she got an A, he asked, “Did anyone get an A plus? Why wasn't it You? "
When she boasted that she had done well in class, her father asked if she had done the best.
It was obvious that the father had not become the best at something, and now he tried to transfer this “being the best” to his daughter. But she's a girl !!! She doesn't need to be the best. She needs to be happy!
So all her life she expected praise from him, did not receive and, of course, was offended. Resentment against my father is firmly rooted in the feelings and in the subconscious. And now the exact same thing is happening with her husband. I know my husband, because he also learns from me and passed, and now -. He is a very strong-willed, strong, purposeful man. He loves her very much and does not want to offend her. But she is so used to being offended by her father since childhood that he, even without realizing it, can offend her. Wives subconsciously can program men for certain actions.
In general, through meditation and work with the subconscious, we forgave my father. I showed her that there is no need to expect praise from anyone - praise yourself, love yourself, admire yourself, and then the whole world will praise and love You!
This is the kind of fundamental coaching session we got.
Merciful and merciful God, beloved Father! You, according to Your merciful will and Your Divine providence, have placed us in the state of holy marriage, so that we, according to Your ordinance, live in it. We are comforted by Thy blessing, spoken in Thy word, which says: He who has found a wife has found good and received a blessing from the Lord. Lord God! Make us live with each other in Your Divine fear. Make it also so that we live in peace and harmony, so that in our marriage state we love chastity and honesty and do not act against them, so that tranquility dwells in our house, and we retain an honest name. Grant us the grace to educate our children in fear and teaching to Thy Divine glory, so that Thou mayst arrange praise for Thyself from their lips. Grant them an obedient heart, so that they will be blessed and they will be long on earth. Grant us also our daily bread and bless our food. Protect our home and heritage so that the evil enemy and his weapon cannot harm them. And when Thou, Lord God, intend to send suffering and sorrow upon us, grant us patience so that we obediently submit to Thy fatherly punishment, and act mercifully with us. If we fall, then do not deny us, support and raise us up again. Ease us our sorrows and comfort us, and do not leave us in our needs. Grant us that we do not prefer the temporal to the eternal, because we have brought nothing with us into the world, and we will not take anything out of it. Do not allow us to cling to the love of money, this unfortunate root of all, but let us try to keep pace with faith and love and achieve eternal life to which we are called.
God the Father bless and keep us. May God the Son enlighten us with His light and may have mercy on us. May God the Holy Spirit turn His face to us and give us peace. May the Holy Trinity guard our entrance and exit from now on and forever. Amen.
Martyrs and confessors
Oh, the glory of the martyr Guriah, Samon and Abih! To you, who are quick helpers and warm prayers, we, weakness and unworthiness, we resort, earnestly praying: do not despise us, in many iniquities that fall and fall for all days and hours of sin; insist on the path of right delusion, heal the afflicted and mourning; keep us in a blameless and whole-hearted life; and even as a tree, so also now are the patrons of marriages abide, in love and unanimity this affirms and relieves from all evil and distressing circumstances. Protect, O many-power confessors, all Orthodox Christians from misfortunes, evil people and the wiles of demons; Protect me from an unexpected death, beseeching the All-good Lord, so great and rich mercy to us, to His humble works, will taste. We are not worthy of unclean lips to call upon the great name of our Creator, if not you, the holy martyr, for now you will be; for this, for the sake of you, we have recourse, and for your representations before God, we ask for us. Similarly, save us from the gladness, flood, fire, sword, our aliens, internecine warfare, deadly ulcers, and all of our soul-destroying circumstances. Her martyrs of Christ, we arrange your prayers all the good and useful, but piously temporary preshedshe life and death blameless styazhavshe were awarded warm your intercession with all the saints at the right hand of God the Judge Pravosudnago article and glorify Him constantly with the Father and the Holy Spirit forever. Amen.
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Martyrs and confessors Guriy, Samon and Aviv
Oh, glorious martyrs Guria, Samon and Aviva! To you, as quick helpers and warm prayer books, we, weakness and unworthy, come running earnestly praying: do not despise us, who have fallen into many iniquities and sinning all the days and hours; instruct on the right path of delusion, heal the afflicted and afflicted; keep us in a blameless and chaste living; And as in ancient times, so also now are the patrons of matrimony, abide in love and like-mindedness, this affirming and rescuing from all evil and disastrous circumstances. Protect, O many powerful confessors, all Orthodox Christians from adversity, evil people and the wiles of the demon; protect me from unintentional death, pleading with the All-blessed Lord, but great and rich mercy to us, His humble servant, will add. Do not deserve to call upon the magnificent name of our Creator with unclean lips, if it is not you, the holy martyr, you will be an intercessor for us; For this reason we have recourse to you, and we ask for your intercession before the Lord. Likewise, deliver us from the famine, the flood, fire, sword, invasion of aliens, internecine warfare, deadly ulcers and every soul-destroying situation. To her, Passion-bearers of Christ, arrange for us with your prayers all that is good and useful, so that you have piously passed a temporary life and have acquired an unashamed end, we will be rewarded with your warm intercession with all the saints at the right hand of the Just Justice God, the Judge of the article, and we will ceaselessly glorify Him with the Father and the Holy Spirit throughout the ages. Amen.
Prayers for the elimination of family troubles.
Prayers for the elimination of family troubles:
Martyrs and confessors Guriy, Samon and Aviv.
Oh, glorious martyrs Guria, Samon and Aviva! To you, as quick helpers and warm prayer books, we, weakness and unworthy, come running earnestly praying: do not despise us, who have fallen into many iniquities and sinning all the days and hours; instruct on the right path of delusion, heal the afflicted and afflicted; keep us in a blameless and chaste living; And as in ancient times, so also now are the patrons of matrimony, abide in love and like-mindedness, this affirming and rescuing from all evil and disastrous circumstances. Protect, O many powerful confessors, all Orthodox Christians from adversity, evil people and the wiles of the demon; protect me from unintentional death, pleading with the All-blessed Lord, but great and rich mercy to us, His humble servant, will add. Do not deserve to call upon the magnificent name of our Creator with unclean lips, if it is not you, the holy martyr, you will be intercessors for us; For this reason we have recourse to you, and we ask for your intercession before the Lord. Likewise, deliver us from the famine, the flood, fire, sword, invasion of aliens, internecine warfare, deadly ulcers and every soul-destroying situation. To her, passion-bearers of Christ, arrange for us with your prayers all that is good and useful, so that you have piously passed a temporary life and have acquired an unashamed end, we will be rewarded with your warm intercession with all the saints at the right hand of the Just God of the Judgment of Article, and that we will ceaselessly glorify with the Father and the Holy Spirit throughout the ages. Amen.
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In Orthodoxy, the family, the upbringing of children and the relationship between married couples are of great importance. The family is called "a small temple" due to which the family hearth is under the intercession of all saints and even the Most High.
As you know, nothing is perfect in this world. Also in a family, where various disagreements and misunderstandings occur, but the main thing is to remember that you are not just a couple, you are a whole union consisting of two people and which is responsible not only for yourself, but also for your children before all the Saints and the Lord ...
Prayer for family quarrels
In order to avoid any difficulties that have overtaken a couple and to allay all misunderstandings, you can turn to prayer for help, which can be read with different images.
A prayer for scandals in the family is pronounced before:
- The Most Holy Mother of God;
- The protector of a pious family - Archangel Barachiel;
- Xenia of Petersburg;
- Apostle John the Theologian;
- Miraculous image of the Mother of God "Softening Evil Hearts";
- Saint Archangel Raphael.
In the Orthodox religion, there are a huge number of defenders of the family hearth from scandals in the house. In addition to the above-mentioned Wonderworkers, among the patrons can also be attributed such Saints as Fevronia and Peter, who were able to live happily in love and harmony. long lifeand they died in one hour and in one day.
There are also Saints Anna and Joachim (parents of the Queen of Heaven), who were truly indicative of the ideal married couple. In prayer, you can turn to these images in a quarrel with your husband and other family troubles, when it comes to divorce, and this is done so that peace reigns in the family again, and the extinct love is revived again.
But to avoid quarrels with children, to protect the family hearth and the marriage itself, a prayer service to St. Paraskeva will help. Such conversion in Christianity is considered the most revered as it relieves from mental anguish.
A prayer appeal to the Saints and the Lord will help you:
- Overcome difficulties and strengthen family ties;
- Restore harmony in the house;
- Make contact with children and gain understanding;
- After a quarrel, a prayer service will help you realize that you are wrong, relieve you of pride and allow you to realize your mistakes;
- In some cases, married couples with the help of prayer to the miraculous image can even avoid divorce.
It should be noted that in order to get a greater effect from the prayer petition, it is necessary to visit the temple with your soul mate in order to read the prayer service in hope and faith for a bright and happy future.
Prayer for scandals
Address to Archangel Barachiel:
“O great archangel of God, the archangel Barachiel! Standing before the Throne of God and ottoli bringing the blessings of God to the houses of the faithful, the servant of God, ask the Lord God for mercy and blessings for our houses, may the Lord God bless us and increase the abundance of earthly fruits, and give us health and salvation, in all good haste, and for enemies victory and overcoming, and will save us for many years, always. Now and ever and forever and ever. Amen".
An appeal to the Mother of God:
“To the Most Blessed Lady, take my family under Your protection. Instill in the hearts of my spouse and our children peace, love and unquestioning about all that is good; do not allow anyone from my family to parting and grievous parting, to premature and sudden death without repentance.
And save our house and all of us who live in it from fiery heat, thieves' attack, all evil of the situation, different kinds of insurance and devilish obsession. Yes, and we, separately and separately, openly and intimately, will glorify Your Holy Name always, now and forever, and forever and ever. Most Holy Theotokos, save us! Amen".
Appeal to Xenia of Petersburg:
“Oh, simple in the image of her life, homeless on earth, heiress of the abodes of the Heavenly Father, blessed wanderer Xenia! As before, to your gravestone of ailment and sorrow, who fell and abie with the consolations of fulfillment, now we, overwhelmed by pernicious circumstances, come running to you, with hope: pray, good heavenly child, so that our feet may be corrected according to the word of the Lord to give His commandments, and the godless atheism that has captivated your city and your country will be abolished, plunging us many sinners into mortal hatred, proud self-indignation and blasphemous despair.
Oh, most blessed for Christ's sake, who have shamed the supernatural wisdom of this world, ask the Creator and Giver of all blessings to grant us humility, meekness and love in the treasure of our hearts, faith in strengthening prayer, hope in repentance, strength in a difficult life, merciful healing of our soul and body , chastity in marriage and welfare for our neighbors and sincere ones, our entire life is renewed in the cleansing bath of repentance, as if we all praise your memory, let us glorify the miraculous in you, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the Trinity Consubstantial and Inseparable forever and ever. Amen".
God bless you!
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Prayer for the elimination of family troubles, 3 prayers to Nicholas the Wonderworker
To eliminate family troubles, pray heartily to Nicholas the Wonderworker. In any family, disagreements periodically occur, which should not destroy it.
Dear ones, Easter is coming.
On the day of the greatest sign, you must gather your whole family to unite in gracious fidelity.
I will be very upset if this is prevented by troubles, which are eliminated by trust, mutual understanding and prayers addressed to Nikolai the Ugodnik.
Not necessarily tomorrow, on any free day, retire in a locked room.
Light 3 candles. Place the icon of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker next to it.
In complacent humility, release your own anger by breaking up the turmoil with a desire to free yourself from it.
Well, they quarreled, quarreled, with whom does not happen?
All problems, with God's help, will go away.
Begin by slowly and repeatedly whispering special prayers to help you cope with family troubles.
Wonderworker Nikolai, God's Pleasant. Do not destroy my family in grievances, I quietly pray for this. Sins that are not redeemed in me, let them no longer be drawn to Satan. Reduce all quarrels, troubles, instruct my family on the bright path. Thy will be done. Amen.
Nicholas the Wonderworker, Defender and Savior. Forgive me for my impatience and anger, let go of all the troubles from my roof. In family quarrels, I often sin, have mercy on our souls, I ask. Thy will be done. Amen.
Wonderworker Nikolai, God's Pleasant. Let squabbles be eliminated from the family, you only help in this matter. Do not punish that we often sin, we are in a hurry for carnal pleasure. If troubles come to the family again, I pray you, let them soon disappear. May it be so. Amen.
Cross yourself and make peace.
Live without troubles!
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Miraculous prayer for the family
The family is the most valuable thing a person has, it must be protected and preserved. All problems can be overcome with God's help. That is why, when discord arises in the family, believers turn to prayers for family happiness.
When we are young, we do not think about the need to prepare for family life and consciously approach the search for a soul mate. Most often, young people meet, communicate without thinking about who they want to start a family with. Such meetings are most often very stormy, emotional, but empty, and therefore have sad consequences.
Lack of worldly wisdom, or maybe a craving for knowing oneself and others, pushes people to burdening relationships that break up at the slightest quarrel. To avoid these problems, you can turn to special prayers for family happiness, which help spouses regain trust, understanding and harmony in relationships. It is believed that the help of such prayers is of great power.
Miraculous prayer for the family of the Mother of God
With requests for family happiness, many turn to the Mother of God. When asking for the most intimate, be sincere with Mother of God, do not hide anything, be pure in thoughts and soul, repent in everything. Only when you let go of negativity will there be room for joy and happiness in your life. Prayer for the family:
“Heavenly Lady, we pray to You, take our family under Your protection. Set in my hearts, my spouse and our children, love and all the brightest that is in the world. Save my family from parting and parting. May peace and love reign in our house, save and preserve the union from human evil and the devil's captivity. And we will continue to glorify Your name, passing the story of Your life from mouth to mouth for ever and ever. Save us, Blessed Virgin, do not allow my farewell to my beloved. Let Your name and Your help be glorified. Amen".
Miraculous prayer for family and happiness
Offer up prayers to the Lord for your family, because He has the power to change your destiny. Even now He continues to create the Universe and your life. But you can't find happiness just by asking: be grateful for everything you have. Before any request to the Creator, thank Him, as well as after each received help. Strong prayer about happiness and family:
“Our Heavenly Father, in the name of Christ, I appeal to You and ask for true happiness. Give my family an unearthly love with which you love all of us. Teach us to love us in the same way that only You yourself can. May the love in our family multiply and strengthen every day. Help us understand that love alone is our salvation. Give wisdom so that with Your help we can get rid of all that is superfluous on the way, both in words and in our actions. Only you - the true creator of human lives, and only you decide who deserves happiness, and who asks for it in vain. But we will not tire of praising You, keeping all Your commandments, and we will give Your word to our children. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen".
Prayer for the Preservation of the Family
Having gained something in this world, we often begin to feel fear, because there is a great risk of losing it instantly. This prayer is not as necessary as desirable. She will help you save your family and protect it from troubles, troubles, envious people and grief. Let the words addressed to the martyrs Guri, Samon and Avian become an additional shield for you in finding family happiness. Prayer that strengthens love and preserves the family:
“Oh, glorified martyrs Gury, Samon, Avian. We turn to you, to ambulances and zealous prayer-books. We ourselves are unworthy, but earnestly praying servants of God, so do not deny our words. Help us get on the right path and encourage us to live in love and like-mindedness with our spouse. Protect our family from sorrow, suffering and discord, protect from sudden death and envious peopleencroaching on our union. Help carry love through your life without betraying or letting go. Convey our words to the Lord God and ask for happiness in our family and fortitude to keep it. Let us not stop praising your names. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen".
We always rely on the help and intercession of the saints, forgetting about our own abilities, which the Lord has awarded us. Each person has the right to create his own destiny the way he wants it. Don't forget this. Prayers for family will only help you find love, return it, or strengthen it. But it is in your hands to make this love several times stronger, keep it and help others find it. We wish you happiness and love. Take care of yourself, your loved ones and don't forget to press the buttons and
Love, what to hide, can be capricious, and jealous, and even merciless, if it claims to be exclusive, to the undivided possession of the thoughts and feelings of a loved one, which sooner or later inevitably leads to conflicts. Even in the most happy families the attitude of spouses to each other periodically fluctuates from plus to minus and vice versa, which could be graphically expressed in the form of a well-known sinusoid. The likelihood of conflicts in young families is realized depending on the level of preparedness of the spouses for marriage. Preparedness for marriage includes the spouses 'correct understanding and fulfillment of family roles, the spouses' willingness to compromise and cooperation, responsibility for the family, and a high culture of communication. The most important conflict-generating factor in a young family is the culture of communication between spouses, that is, the ability to observe elementary moral norms of everyday life in communication with each other and with relatives - politeness, tact, benevolence. If spouses systematically violate these norms (allow themselves to be rude in their treatment of a partner or his relatives, show tactlessness, indifference, ill will, inattention to a partner), this can provoke conflicts not only in single-ethnic families, but also be transferred to the sphere of national differences in the national mixed families, finding expression in a disrespectful attitude to the partner's national customs, his national language, religious beliefs, etc. If the spouses in the family are well prepared for family life, then the differences in their needs are easily smoothed out and overcome due to the ability to correctly perform family roles, a high culture of communication, a well-developed attitude towards cooperation, mutual assistance, moral support of a partner. In this case, conflicts of both the first and second order are successfully resolved.
There are five stages in family relationships.
The first of them is characterized by deep love, when the very memory of a spouse causes positive emotions.
On the second - one presentation is no longer enough, it is necessary that the loved one be near.
Then (3) there comes a calm addiction to each other, and at this time be careful, unobtrusive, condescending and reasonably demanding. And try to change yourself a little - to reveal some new facets of your personality, or at least to change something in your appearance. In a word, we must do everything possible so as not to bring the relationship with a loved one to the fourth stage, when even his mere presence begins to cause unconscious irritation. If this happens - and then the fifth stage is inevitable, the essence of which, alas, is often manifested in melodramatic phrases: "He showed his true face!" or "Where were my eyes when I married you!"
By the time of marriage, each of the spouses has already established needs that cannot be identical in both marriage partners and often turn out to be contradictory. If the spouses have well developed qualities such as mutual respect, trust, mutual understanding, the ability to reckon with the needs of a partner, to yield to each other, then contradictions in this area do not take on acute forms and are successfully overcome. The lack of these qualities in spouses leads to such an aggravation of contradictions, in which it becomes extremely difficult, and sometimes impossible, to satisfy the needs of each of the marriage partners. This creates disharmony in marital relations and leads to family destabilization.
But not all conflicts are destructive. After all, any conflict is a clash of different interests, as a result of which a mutually acceptable solution to any problem can be developed. But everything depends on the course of this conflict. When the latent motives of partners are revealed, when people learn something new or unacceptable about each other, the outcome can be different. But constructive conflicts contribute to the awareness of the mutual claims of the spouses and help them to develop a common position in solving controversial problems. Such conflicts take place against a general background of positive relationships between spouses, their mutual emotional attachment. Destructive conflicts do not lead to the solution of the problems that gave rise to them and are usually reduced to clarifying the relationship between spouses. This prevents them from developing a common point of view, leads to disorganization of communication and cooperation, weakens the mutual emotional attractiveness of partners. What can and should protect the spouses from the well-known dialogue "you are so - you are so"? The recipes, in general, are well known: maximum restraint, tact, optimism, the desire to keep the family together. According to experts, there are several "zones of disagreement" between spouses. The classification of "zones" looks something like this:
1. Dissatisfaction with the needs for respect for your opinion, desires, self-esteem, etc.
2. Dissatisfaction with the needs for positive emotions (lack of tenderness, care, attention).
3. Financial and household disagreements between the spouses (budget issues, family maintenance, improvement of the family hearth, etc.).
4. Disagreements based on the needs for mutual assistance, mutual support and cooperation associated with the division of labor in the family. Quarrels over recreation and leisure. It is clear that the best way get out of the conflict - not enter it: notice the threat of a quarrel in time and extinguish it. It's not that difficult if the disagreement is caused by fatigue or irritation.
o First of all, listen to the other (obligatory!), then, without getting into an argument, switch his attention and disappear - go to the kitchen, to another room, to neighbors or to the store.
o If the offender has completely dispersed, leave demonstratively, with all your appearance expressing deep grief (but in no case - contempt) for his so wrong behavior. This is already a deliberate aggravation of the conflict with the subsequent exchange of views on it. It is necessary to use this situation very carefully, so as not to move from discussing the causes of the conflict to the already mentioned dialogue on the system "you are like this - I am like this."
o The most effective is a joint discussion of disagreements with the subsequent development of a solution acceptable to both parties.
§ When discussing the situation, try to talk not about the personality of the other, but about the misdeeds committed by him.
§ Try, before listing his mistakes, tell about your own. The latter is all the more necessary because, in all honesty, any of us can honestly admit that often the true cause of the conflict is himself. More precisely, his mood. Something went wrong in the service, a working conflict arose. But there you rarely break loose, and the spouse is there, next to him, and according to his role he is obliged to listen to everything.
o Yes, of course, a faithful companion is simply obliged to help you fight her difficulties. But to take out anger on him is simply impolite. So learn to master yourself. How?
§ The first thing that experts advise to do is to relieve mental stress. Get distracted, relax, switch. Remove your workplace or an apartment. Go to people if you are experiencing hard loneliness, and if you are inclined to solitude - be alone with yourself, for a short while hiding from others.
§ Have you calmed down? Now localize your problem, draw up an action plan and start implementing it.
§ Another tip: be able to anticipate adversity and prepare yourself for it in advance. To do this, it is enough to answer yourself to a few simple questions: what weighs me down? What am I doing wrong? What am I afraid of? What is the most important problem for me today? What is my main goal now? And finally, what needs to be done to achieve it?
Save up joy - at least one daily. Try to avoid aimless arguments and conflicts, which we sometimes so willingly get involved in in everyday life. In a word, wish to be pleasant and necessary to another person. Especially if this person is the closest to you.
