Forgiveness Sunday for children, their moral upbringing can be a very significant event. This is the last day before Lent. On this day, it is customary for the people to ask for forgiveness in front of all relatives, friends and acquaintances for minor sins, misunderstandings or offenses. This Sunday happens only once a year and is considered holy. On this day, you cannot offend someone, use foul language and quarrel. Many go to church. This is the time to remember the deceased loved ones and just wish health and good luck to everyone you love.
Forgiveness Sunday is a symbol of entering a new life, forgetting about old grievances and insults. At this time, we purify our soul. Only once a year we are given God's chance to learn to forgive and ask for forgiveness, which not everyone is capable of in the modern world.
WHOM DO I NEED TO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS ON HOLY SUNDAY?
First of all, you need to contact those whom you really offended. There is no need to be afraid that they will not understand you or will not want to listen. This date favors sincere forgiveness. This is a great opportunity to make friends with people you previously avoided. The strength of this day will surprise you.
If you think that you have no one to ask for forgiveness, then you should simply pray for the dead, set the table (since this is the last day before Lent) and rest your soul.
But, as the church tradition says, on Forgiveness Sunday it is necessary to apologize not only to the one whom we offended, but to all people dear to our hearts and souls. People tend not to notice when they offend others. You can say just one word, and the other will remember him all his life, have complexes because of this, worry about this.
It is also a good way to ask loved ones (especially a loved one) if there is something that they are unhappy with in you that you need to change in yourself. You may want to be kinder or stop using foul language. Or, on the contrary, they will tell you not to change anything in yourself, because you are already perfect!
WHAT TO DO IF A PERSON ASKS FOR FORGIVENESS THIS DAY?
In the event that someone apologizes to you, you need:
- Be sure to listen to the speech to the end.
- Do not discuss the situation for a long time if the person actually offended you. Say that you do not be angry and forget about everything from this moment.
- If the person has not offended you in any way, then you should answer with the standard phrase that is used in the church: "God forgave, and I forgive!"
Remember that a small devil lives in each of us, but even this side of us must be taught to forgive, as everything will come back to haunt.
Perhaps someone considers Forgiveness Sunday to be a feigned holiday when people ask for forgiveness for no reason. Don't apologize just for show. Speak pure words, from the heart, and then God will surely notice it.
Do I need to explain what Forgiveness Sunday is to children? In the modern world, it is far from accepted to forgive. The Bible says: "If you hit on the right cheek, substitute the left in response!" Our children are not like that at all. From childhood, everyone is taught to stand up for themselves and give back, not cry and be strong. This may be appropriate in the 21st century, but do not forget about the old teachings. You must always remember about the force that will surely respond to your offender and return all the troubles caused to you back to him.
If a child does not know how to forgive, then at the slightest defeat or inability to give back he will be depressed and he may develop complexes for life. To avoid this, try to spend this day together on Forgiveness Sunday and show him that sometimes forgiveness is the best answer to an offense. If you do not ask for forgiveness even on such a day, it will turn into torment for both the offender and the offended. That is why it is necessary to teach children not revenge, but kindness and peaceful resolution of all conflicts. In this case, the child will understand that fists are not a way out of the situation. He will learn to get out of difficult situations through discussions.
HOW TO SHOW TO A CHILD THAT FORGIVENESS IS GOOD?
- The child does not need to show or prove anything. Family members should be an example for the baby. If you yourself do not adhere to these rules, then you should not expect that your son or daughter will sharply forgive their offenders. Rather, they will ask you this question: "And if I am beaten, then what should I watch?" It will be very correct and smart.
To begin with, it's worth explaining how important forgiveness is. It is by no means worth watching. It is necessary to teach him to treat the world with kindness, not to enter into conflict situations. Childhood aggression most often appears as a result of misunderstandings or disagreements. To do this, you need to teach the child to clearly and clearly express his opinion and not be shy about it. It is also very important to be able to step back from your own thoughts if you suspect that they are wrong. Then there will be no conflicts that would reach children's fights or serious disputes, as often happens. But you need to deal with this issue in advance, and not on Forgiveness Sunday.
- The upbringing of children mainly comes from the independent observation of your child about the situation inside the house, the communication of parents, and the relationship with grandparents. Try to give an example. For example, on Forgiveness Sunday (at least once a year), apologize to your wife or husband. You can do something good together by explaining that today is a holy day and good deeds are necessarily rewarded.
If you have several children in your family, teach them brother-sister love and understanding.
Forgiveness Sunday for children should not be the day when you “need” to apologize, but the day when you want to say the words of apology!
This year, Forgiveness Sunday falls on March 17th. On this day, it is customary to ask each other for forgiveness in order to enter Great Lent with a pure soul, reconciled with our neighbors.
- And how to ask for forgiveness? - you may ask.
The Monk Nikon of Optina lived on earth, who said this: “When you ask for forgiveness, you have to do it from a pure heart, with complete sincerity. Likewise, to forgive, to say: "God will forgive you" - and in your soul at this time there should be a feeling of sincere forgiveness, so that later and not to remember this deed, so that peace and love will be established between you.
Today, the Church also recalls how Adam and Eve were expelled from Paradise and became mortals for disobeying God. The human body must die, as it is adapted only for earthly life with its three-dimensional dimensions: length, width, height, and even time.
And in spiritual life all this is not required, there is no time - there is Eternity. For her we must prepare ourselves on earth. This is our task, for the successful solution of which obedience to the parents and pastors of the Church is necessary.
So let's, dear guys, obey dad and mom, study well and then we will meet Easter with a clear conscience and joy!
Mommy dear and dear father,
With all my heart I ask your forgiveness
For quarrels, my rudeness, finally
For everything that brought grief!
I want, my relatives, that you know
That I love you with all my soul,
Let the grievances and sorrows go away
I pray you forgiveness for everything!
My loved ones, my parents,
You are like guardian angels to me.
You always help in everything,
You constantly save me from trouble.
You have me on Sunday for forgiveness,
Please, dear ones, sincerely forgiveness.
Forgive all my wrongs
For the fact that I do not often make concessions.
For all insults, quarrels and words,
You are the best family in the whole world!
My dear, beloved, dear ones, I ask you for forgiveness, because today is such a day when God forgives us all and we must forgive each other everything. You are my golden parents, but sometimes I am harsh with you, I can offend you with a word, I can slam the door to mutual understanding. And today I ask forgiveness for everything and I want to wish you, relatives, to remain healthy, loving, loved, understanding, sympathetic parents, in whose family everything is always wonderful!
I'm sorry, mom and dad,
Forgiven me resurrection,
For rudeness, impudent words
For all worries and doubts.
You are my wall, a support in life
I thank you for everything
And on a magical day I assure you:
I love you very, very much.
Let the relationship get better
May our connection only grow stronger
I wish you happiness, inspiration,
Let the glitter touch your eyes.
So often, willingly or unwillingly,
We hurt our relatives!
And on the day of Forgiveness Sunday
I sincerely apologize -
Forgive and bless me
Dear, dear parents!
Only you forgive us everything,
And you never remember the insult!
I apologize with all my heart
You, my parents,
Let not grief touch
A sincere, loving family.
Let the mood be wonderful
Trust reigns in hearts
On a beautiful Sunday holiday
I forgive, and God will forgive!
Dear Mom and Dad,
Happy Forgiveness Sunday,
If there were grievances once,
Forgive me, no doubt about it.
And I forgive you too,
May everything be good with us
Forgiveness will help us all
And happiness will be added more.
Excuse me today, mom and dad,
Let the insult leave the heart
And the heat of emotion is your soul
Let it cool down on a special day.
I want to repent of everything
And ask your forgiveness
Forget quarrels, omissions
This resurrection is Forgiven.
I love and respect you
And I offend not out of malice,
I wish you great happiness
Let fate spoil more often.
Dear parents, I am with you
I'm sorry again today
For many actions, rude phrases!
I apologize for everything!
I hope, dear ones, with you henceforth,
I will never quarrel
We need to warm each other with love
And drive the cold out of your souls!
My parents are like two strong wings,
They easily carry me through this life,
I wish that trouble bypassed you,
And every day was as bright as summer.
Today I ask you to forgive me
For rude words, misunderstanding,
And in honor of such a holiday
I promise to lead myself!
- a bridge to Great Lent
Forgiveness Sunday is like a bridge leading into the first week of Great Lent. In order to join it, you need to part with Shrovetide. Here, on the eve or Sunday morning, it is appropriate to talk with children about what would have happened if the carnival had always been and did not end.
From dialogues with children in the classroom at the Christmas Family Center:
- As we drank sweetly at Shrovetide week, ate deliciously, played merrily. Who liked it?
- Maybe someone didn't like it?
- Eh, there would always be a carnival ... Let there always be a carnival! ..
But five-year-olds are not particularly caught up in this provocation:
- No, a little bit very much even possible. And always - you can’t ... perhaps.
- Why not? Not life - but Shrovetide! What's bad?
- And then who will wash the dishes after the pancakes? Everyone will overeat - and sleep ... and the dishes? Says one boy.
- Yes, yes, so there will be no one to keep order. We'll overgrow in the mud, just like that - head over heels. And it's hard to get off the couch. Eat, sleep, eat, sleep, they fantasize.
“Or you’ll get fat, you won’t fit in the door,” the girls pick up anxiously. - You will be so-oh-oh fat. You will grow in breadth.
- And where to?
- It’s necessary - up.
A remarkable Orthodox teacher of the twentieth century proposes such a move, very appropriate in continuation of the conversation about why there should not always be Shrovetide. She says that it is very important to make a discovery with children that it is not always useful for a person to do what he wants. And sometimes it is helpful to do what you don’t want to do. And with specific examples, children are actively involved in order to discuss this.
We ask you to bring pictures on this topic to the lesson in order to discuss them later. What's in the pictures? There is an orange on the table in the room, the girl's hand is stretched out to it. The author comments:
- I really want an orange. Here, I think, I'll take it all as I eat it!
- Orange is healthy. There are vitamins. Well, eat it.
- How is it - eat it? I want to eat. And I don't want to share with Vaska. There is only one orange. And Vaska hasn’t seen him yet.
- Then don't eat. It will not be useful. Vitamins, vitamins ... And you grow greedy ...
- Well, so I drew how it is not useful to eat one orange, without Vasya.
In another picture, a boy is hovering over a large wide sofa. The sofa is full sheet. The boy is like a ball over him.
- I'm not frozen. I love jumping on the couch. Let me, I think, I'll jump on the couch while mom's gone.
- Oh, and I love to jump on the bed.
- And I! We already have one leg broken. Not at my place - at the ottoman. This is the sofa. We all jumped there - and now ...
- Yes, but jumping is useful. Some even jump on purpose - like a sport. On a trampoline. And on the couch - not useful. It will break. Everyone will fly. Dad's job is to fix.
- No, that's not why I painted. I jump, and my mother in the next room puts Katka to bed. And I'm jumping out of spite ... Well, I don't know why out of spite. So. She does not fall asleep.
- Don't jump anymore then. You will grow up so evil ... selfish.
- No, I already knew who. Harmful, harmful. You jump, you jump ... and you get there.
This is followed by fasting in our life to learn how to grow as a person. As he says about the rules of fasting:
"They are designed to help us shake off the relaxation and indulgence of our weaknesses, to awaken in us sensitivity and cheerfulness, to prevent us from becoming stagnant in our earthiness, which prevents us from soaring to God."
We need something up.
In general, the very word "fast" after all the fun and fights of the Shrovetide week, the perky, friendly fighting spirit, is very good for children to clarify in the context of the image of the sentry who stands on the post. The sentry gets up to the post, so as not to let uninvited guests into what he is called to guard. And we, as soldiers of Christ, are called to be on the alert. Stay on duty.
What's behind us? Behind us is everything that is dear to us, everything that we are ready to guard. What is it expensive? Good family relations. Love. The joy of games and communication. Health. Good mood. Conscientiousness. Prayer and faith ... From what to protect? From plunder. From any uninvited guests: from strife, from quarrel, from cunning, from lies, harm, from indulging weaknesses, from gluttony ... And these are all our enemies. We need to fight with them, be attentive, observe ourselves, and, as a sentry at the post, fight them back.
Fasting is a time when we must stay awake, listen to the voice of our conscience, as the voice of God, and partake worthy of His Holy Gifts. And this means -
“To make peace with those with whom we are at odds; we must stop at the thoughts of our mind and heart, which convict us of treason to God and unfaithfulness to people - and do something in this direction; we must be reconciled with the Living God, so that it does not turn out that He died for us in vain ”(Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh).
The last pancakes are finished, the pancake meal ends.
As he writes in his memoirs about his childhood in the book "The Summer of the Lord", pancakes on this day were handed out to the poor, "poor pancakes" were baked. This is hardly possible in a modern family. But the whole Shrovetide week can be such a gift, generosity, alms - through the tradition of hospitality, visits with their refreshments to those whose table is usually not abundant.
And on Forgiveness Sunday, a home meal, when the whole family gathers at the table, is accompanied by an adult's word that the rite of forgiveness will be performed in the church tonight, and a reminder of what it is. And the Shrovetide festivities itself on the eve of the Forgiveness Day usually ends with a friendly hug and asking for forgiveness from each other.
Children always pay attention to this. And they sincerely imitate adults. The home rite of forgiveness is still accepted in believing families. Adults turn to children, and children turn to their parents, and then all together go to the older generation of the family. And in many pious families, as before, before the older generation of the family, mother, father, children kneel down, asking for forgiveness and blessing.
The last day of Maslenitsa, when everyone asks for forgiveness from each other before Lent. If you cannot meet and personally ask for forgiveness from your family and friends, send SMS or poems on Forgiveness Sunday, or at least a laconic "Forgive me". It is supposed to answer on Forgiveness Sunday by SMS "God will forgive, and I forgive."
Forgiveness Sunday: SMS and poems "Forgive me"
SMS Forgiveness Sunday
Forgive me, relatives and friends, forgive me if I inadvertently offended you with words or thoughts - I love you all and forgive you for everything, knowing full well that you love me too.
Poems "Forgive me":
It's time to ask for forgiveness:
Please forgive me
Today, this Sunday,
It's time to change everything in life
And I will forgive you, of course
Let's forget the quarrels all soon,
And on this day we promise
We will be kinder and wiser!
Poems "Forgive me":
You forgive me people,
My dear friends.
Maybe I offended someone.
Maybe he did something in vain.
I came and did not notice
Threw the word out of place,
I did not answer with a kind look,
He behaved like a psychopath.
Brothers, we are not perfect -
Everyone is on their way.
Friend, forgive my friend rather
And let go of the insults.
Poems Forgiven Sunday:
Forgiving morning
Every light will lift us up.
We all need to make peace
To get rid of troubles
To cleanse the soul
We need to forgive everyone now.
Hello, good morning!
Well, and you forgive us all!
SMS for goodbye sunday
I congratulate you on the Forgiveness Sunday! Forgive me if I have inadvertently offended you or hurt you. I want not a single dark thought or hidden grudge to darken our relationship! And I forgive you from the bottom of my heart and say that I do not hold any grudge against you!
Congratulations on
You forgive each other everything,
Come to church on holiday
And for you and for yourself
We will pray, friends!
The heart will rejoice
Forgiveness and hatred.
And goodbye Sunday
Congratulations!
SMS forgiven Sunday:
Today, on forgiveness Sunday, may God forgive you of the insults that you, willingly or unwillingly, have inflicted on someone. I wish you today to feel forgiven by family and friends. Ask those who ask you for forgiveness, because this means that this person does not want his century to pass without your bright smile.
Forgiveness Sunday greetings:
God teaches people to forgive
And do not hold an offense,
To open up to mercy,
Pray with a kind heart.
To be unforgettable
Live with a clear conscience.
Forgiveness Sunday
Give out congratulations!
