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Every mother has daily urgent, important and not so important things to do and household chores. Everyone perfectly understands what it is about, but it’s quite emotionally difficult to even cook a meal if the child constantly pulls his mother for seemingly any reason and does not find a suitable occupation for himself.
Parents think that growing up the child will become a little more independent and there will be at least a small opportunity to relax and be distracted.
But time passes, the child grows, and he is in no hurry to play. But as they grow older, the child is simply obliged to become more independent and learn to entertain himself.
Yes, and mom needs to do her own thing or take time for herself: apply a mask on her face and, with a book in her hand, just lie down for 15-20 minutes.
How can you correct the situation and teach a child to play independently?
Why does the child not want to play by himself?
But this is not the case for all babies. Some children play on their own, no one taught them. They themselves, without someone's help, find their own activities, while others, on the contrary, cannot play for five minutes without your participation.
As in any other cases, this happens in our child through the fault of adults. We take care of him too much, like an eagle over an eagle, we don’t let him even take a step without our help, and this is the consequence of such behavior: the baby now cannot live without your communication with him.
Of course, he can get carried away with something, but quickly loses interest and remembers that his mother is not around. Mom's position in joint games is too bright, she takes over everything, does not allow the child to open up and take the initiative.
In the game, it takes over the entire plot, and the child remains an outside observer, and therefore he cannot play alone, he is so used to it.
Benefits of solo play
Undoubtedly, there is a benefit, and it does not lie in freeing the mother for a while and doing other activities, but in the fact that this is primarily necessary for the development of the baby himself.
Playing independently, the child trains his fantasy, intuition, imagination, learns to find solutions in his productions. Formed as an independent person.
At what age can a child play alone?
Much depends on the character and temperament of the child. Someone can sit and look at toys at seven months and not disturb their mother, someone in a year or two.
Everything is individual, but as a rule, after two years, children themselves can play without the help of adults, at least for a short time.
6 easy steps to self-play
I would like to note that here we are not talking about getting rid of children, but about a full-fledged game in which the child takes the main roles and is directly involved.
We do not mean the development of a game like: computer games or many hours of cartoons on TV, here we mean the activity of a child who creates something, creates himself, with his head and hands.
In order for a child to play independently, he must have a place and toys that he can use. But it should also be not only toys, maybe board games without small details, or pencils and felt-tip pens, books or a bicycle, you know what your child could do.
I wrote a bicycle, because my child woke up - he opened his eyes and he was already driving to the bathroom to wash himself on a bike, to eat on a bike.
Set up a work environment for your child to play in. And she will motivate him to do so. And don't litter this working environment with all sorts of new-fangled super-duper interesting ones.
All this only slows down the child's imagination and dulls it. Fill in the measure, do not rush to extremes, otherwise you will remove everything now, leave one pencil.
Give your child small tasks throughout the day that he can do on his own without your help.
Favorite hobby. You, as a mother, should know the favorite activity that your child likes more than others. If you haven't noticed yet, watch it. Maybe it's a modeling kit, or dominoes, bingo, some other board game that would captivate him with his head.
After the age of 2 years, the child forms the basis of role-playing games. They become interested in playing doctor, for example, after a visit to the pediatrician, or a child can play cook, every time he sees what you are cooking in the kitchen.
But what is the importance: that we are waiting for the child to start playing on his own and learn to play on his own. This is wrong. If your child does not go to kindergarten, communication with peers is minimal.
Where should he learn? Use the experience of past lives? No, you have to show him how to play.
And it is desirable to give him the right to choose what to do. Don't specify: go , or build the constructor. We develop independence and initiative, so let it be in all endeavors.
Don't forget about . If the child played for 10 minutes and did not call you - great! this is progress, further, more, gradually increase the time.
In conclusion, I would like to add that any child can be taught to play independently. Of course, it all depends on temperament and mood, health, environment and other factors.
But it is from independent play that a child comes to realize himself, a feeling of understanding that he is an independent unit of this society and is quite capable of capturing and captivating himself.
After such independent games, when mom cooks in the kitchen, the child plays in the nursery, and when mom decided to look into the nursery, sometimes you will see something like that...
That's all! Play and develop!
