The relationship between a man and a woman is a constant work that needs to be improved. An important stage on the path to happiness is considered a declaration of love to a girl, which is often postponed due to the worries, doubts and experiences of a man. Someone does not want to rush, someone is afraid of rejection and a negative reaction, but most men simply do not know how to confess their love to a girl.
An important barrier to recognition is shyness, self-doubt, lack of creative ideas. Some men, against the background of fears and panic, begin to doubt their feelings at all. Psychologists offer some advice and recommendations, thanks to which you can understand yourself, find a lot of interesting and fresh options on how to present such important information to a girl.
It all starts with simple communication, flowing into regular meetings, romantic dates, rapprochement of people and shared memories. Then the next stage in the relationship develops, requiring awareness of one's feelings, desires and plans for the future life. If a man sees himself next to his chosen one, it is worth thinking carefully about how to beautifully confess to a girl in love for the first time.
Expert opinion
Elena Druzhnikova
Sexologist. Family Relations Expert. Family psychologist.
A declaration of love is a responsible and important stage in a relationship with a woman. If this is the first experience, failures and ruined plans can leave a serious negative imprint on a man's perception of women and relationships with them throughout his life. Therefore, this moment needs to be carefully thought out in order to realize it in life according to your desires.
The main obstacle that prevents a man from confessing his feelings to his chosen one is the banal fear of being rejected. Often, these fears are laid in the psyche and subconscious of a man since childhood, and any psychological trauma inflicted makes him keep silent about his feelings and emotions in the future. In a relationship with a woman, patience, isolation and silence are my best allies.
Preparing for a declaration of love
Despite the emotionality and love, it is better for a man to avoid rash acts and words. First you need to make sure that the woman also experiences similar feelings, so as not to be rejected as a result. Then you need to think carefully about the purpose for which a man wants to confess his feelings to a girl. If to build joint plans for life, then this goal is justified. If it's just to win her heart, it's best to keep your emotions to yourself.
- Practice. First of all, a man needs to practice, for example, in front of a mirror. This will allow you to clearly formulate thoughts, express feelings and emotions. Having decided on the format of recognition, it will be much easier in the future to say what a man feels.
- Choice of time and place. It is not so important how exactly a man confesses, in his own words or in prose, verse, the main thing is the right place and time. It is important that there are less distractions around, strangers. A girl can be invited for a walk, to the park, if you are shy, an ideal place would be a picnic in nature away from strangers.
- No need to think that she feels the same way. Before an original and correct confession of love, a man must be prepared for any scenarios of the turn of events. There may be several of them:
- "I love you too" is the ideal outcome of a mutual relationship;
- ignoring and transferring the conversation to another topic - no need to ask her for reciprocal confessions, perhaps she just needs time to think about the words she heard;
- lack of reciprocity - in this case, it is important to remain calm, perhaps the girl will appreciate an adequate and dignified attitude towards her refusal.
The main condition for preparing for a confession of feelings is self-confidence, despite the different options for the girl's response. A man should speak calmly, measuredly without undue emotions, and also accept both the positive and negative attitude of the girl to his words with dignity.
How to originally confess to a girl in love?
In order for a girl to remember feelings for a long time, a man needs to make it creative, original, but at the same time romantic and sensual. Only if there is no doubt whether it is worth confessing, and the preparation stage has been successfully completed, you can proceed to practice. Recognition can be in several scenarios and options, for example:
- Letter. If a man does not have oratory skills, cannot express himself clearly and clearly, a banal letter in virtual or real form can help him. But psychologists are not all sure whether it is worth telling a girl about her feelings with the help of a letter, since the backlash cannot be observed personally and the question will remain open.
- Romantic dinner in a restaurant. If a man has opportunities in terms of financial resources, you can rent the entire hall, decorate it in a romantic style, order live music, flowers. There are many films where such scenes were demonstrated down to the smallest detail. This option will not save money, but it will definitely tell you how best to confess to a girl.
- Unexpected recognition. Sometimes you do not need to think over a plan when it is worth confessing and how, but you can simply confess under the impulse of the soul in an unexpected place and time. It is only important to know for sure that these feelings are mutual, so as not to experience feelings of disappointment.
Do you know how to make beautiful declarations of love?
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There are actually much more dating scenarios and options for how unusual it is to confess love to a woman. It can be an evening walk along the promenade, a visit to the park, rides on attractions, a picnic in nature, hiking in the mountains and a secluded setting, or maybe a romantic dinner at home or in a restaurant. Much depends on her personal interests and preferences.
What exactly to say?
You can present information to a girl that she likes in all sorts of ways. But the most important indicator will be the words of a man. Psychologists name a number of correct and incorrect phrases to narrow the search for options on how to present information about sympathy and love.
You cannot say the following:
- I love you more than life (humiliation of oneself);
- I can't live without you (causing self-pity);
- I want to spend my whole life only with you (a needy phrase that frightens many);
- I'm crazy about you, I love you to madness (green light for man manipulation);
- I love you, do you love me? (imposing oneself and feelings).
You can win the heart of your girlfriend with such win-win phrases as:
- “I fell in love with you, what are you going to do with it now?”;
- "Stop coming to me in a dream, I'm ready to confess my feelings for you!";
- "Look at me and don't blink, because I'm in love with your eyes";
- “Either you put a love potion in my tea, or I love you for real”;
- “I like you so much that I suggest that you become even closer to each other”;
- “During our communication, you have long become more than a friend to me”;
- "I suggest you be my girlfriend, because I have serious feelings for you."
It is clear that these are the most frequent phrases used by men to conquer the hearts of women. It is only important for a man to decide whether he needs to confess his love to a girl, and if it is really important to him, choose an interesting version of recognition.
What do you do when you're afraid to confess?
A declaration of love is actually considered a balanced and serious act, since a man must always give an account of his words and actions. Because of frankness and a sense of responsibility, many men experience fear. In addition, childhood traumas and failures leave a negative imprint on self-confidence. To get rid of fear, you need to think about how sincere and deep feelings a man has, whether they are worth such an effort.
If the goals for the girl are serious, before declaring love, you need to set yourself up for complete self-confidence. To achieve results, a man needs to put his voice, think over his speech, follow his posture and gestures. During recognition, you do not need to think about what the girl will respond to feelings, setting yourself up for a negative outcome. The most comfortable environment can help. The situation with the refusal also needs to be thought out in advance in order to adequately respond.
Conclusion
Often, men confess their feelings to a woman only for the purpose of conquering her, and after achieving the goals they quickly cool down. In this regard, psychologists advise to think carefully about your plans for a girl, to feel the depth of feelings. And only having confidence in yourself and your sympathy, you can plan a scenario for confessing feelings. The situation, place and time, the text and the emotional message of the man are important.
