Hello dear ladies! Surely you have witnessed a similar situation at least once in your life: two girls, having almost the same external data, cause completely different reactions of the stronger sex. Boyfriends always curl around one, they are ready to carry it in their arms, and when he chooses the one, the only one, he literally blows away dust particles from his beloved. The second most often gets bored alone, and if a romance happens, it is usually fleeting and with a sad end.
What is the reason for this difference? It turns out that there are certain things that are important to observe. Ideally, this is what every girl should know - a list of golden rules that will tell you how to behave in different situations. Even if you are fluent in the art of seduction, do not neglect these rules. Remember, grabbing the attention of the opposite sex is not difficult; it is much more difficult to remain attractive for a long time.
10 rules for girls and women of all ages
It is quite possible that you have known some of these rules for a long time and have already successfully applied them, while some will turn out to be completely new. The main thing is that they are all tested by experience and have already helped many women. And since you decided to find out all the subtleties of a happy relationship, take these rules into service - the results will not be long in coming.
1. Become an interesting conversation partner
When talking to the opposite sex, most women go to extremes. Some talk incessantly about everything in the world, not allowing a man to wedge himself into his stream of eloquence. Others remain silent, limiting their contribution to the conversation to interjections, monosyllabic answers and vague grunts.
Both of these options are obviously losing. Whether you speak non-stop or keep the mysterious silence of the sphinx - very soon the man next to you will feel that the contact is not working out. To prevent this from happening, you must. This is not difficult to do. All that is required of you is to listen to the interlocutor, demonstrating sincere interest.
Don't worry about being overly curious. People love it when someone is interested in their personality. Therefore, a man will gladly tell you about himself, his work, hobbies and outlook on life. And you will benefit doubly from this. First, he will remember you as a pleasant, educated interlocutor. And secondly, you will receive a lot of information for analysis and can use it to further develop your relationship.
2. Share his passions
The problem with many girls is that they strive to become the only hobby in a man's life. But you are unlikely to be able to oust from his field of vision all those things and events that were dear to him before meeting you. Therefore, the most reasonable would be, football, fishing and other interests of your man, and accept them as an integral part of his life.
Instead of chiding him for going to the stadium or fishing on a weekend, devote that time to yourself. And when your chosen one returns, meet him not with a grunt, but with a smile, ask how the day went, rejoice with him in the victory of your favorite team or a caught pike. Believe me, a man will appreciate your interest in his hobby and will proudly tell his friends about what a wonderful girl you are.
3. Give him what he wants
I foresee that in this place many will shake their heads skeptically and say that they do not want to adapt to anyone else. However, if you are initially determined to only take, giving nothing in return, your relationship will not be strong.
There is nothing wrong with taking care of men by giving them what they need to be happy. For one, this is a delicious dinner with which you will meet him after work, for another - sincere admiration for his successes and achievements, the third needs a cozy nest and a caring half. If you can make your man happy, he will definitely try to answer you in kind.
4. Take care not only of him, but also of yourself
When caring for your boyfriend, you should never turn into his silent shadow. A girl who sacrifices everything for a man will eventually lose her attractiveness to him. Do not forget that at the time of acquaintance, a man does not evaluate any specific trait of you, but the whole image as a whole. And if you conquered him with his well-groomed appearance, then try to remain so in the future. Take time to take care of yourself and be in good shape, open up new horizons, and your chosen one will never lose interest in you.
5. Don't be afraid to appear weak
For so many years women have defended their equality, that now in personal relationships they are waging an unspoken struggle for the right to be strong and independent. Of course, it's great that you can take care of yourself, you can change the wheel yourself, fix the leaking tap and disperse the presumptuous hooligans. It's just that over time, a man has a natural question - what, in fact, can he offer such an Amazon?
If you do not want your loved one to develop over time, let him feel like a man in every sense of the word. Let him prove his masculinity by taking care of you and protecting you from the slightest difficulty. And you gratefully accept this concern of your knight.
6. Let him seduce you
To subdue the man you liked, did you develop such a strategic plan that even the pros from the Pentagon would be jealous? Excellent! But at the same time, do not forget about the main thing - your chosen one should not doubt for a second that he is seducing you. Do you remember that men are hunters by nature? So let him show his talents and make the effort to win you over.
It is important here not to overplay and not pretend to be an impregnable citadel. If the one hundred and first attempt to ask you out is unsuccessful, the hunter may become disappointed and go in search of another, more accommodating prey.
7. Don't be shy about your sexuality
Sometimes women believe that if they show sexuality, then the opposite sex will consider them a serious relationship. Such thoughts lead to the fact that the girl begins to be ashamed of her own desires and fantasies and strenuously pretends that she is interested in sex no more than quantum physics.
In fact, men value healthy sexuality. Do not worry - your chosen one will not run away if he suddenly learns that you know not only the missionary position. Remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship. And if you cannot talk frankly with a man about sex and constantly suppress your fantasies, over time you will accumulate a critical mass of discontent, which can result in.
8. Say NO to tantrums
Often, when the arguments have been exhausted and the argument has reached a dead end, the girl resorts to a “forbidden trick” - hysteria. Bursting into tears, the fair sex deftly manipulate men and often achieve what they want. If you, too, sometimes resort to such psychological weapons, remember - men give up not at all because they were moved by the waterfall of your tears. Not at all.
In fact, almost any man experiences irritation, confusion, or during a woman's tantrum. And not knowing how to calm the storm raging in a glass of water, he prefers to agree with his companion, just to stop this moral attack. If you often use tears and tantrums as a last resort, be prepared for the fact that over time, irritation develops into disgust.
Therefore, if you do not want a man to run away from you, try to minimize unreasonable tears. Any conflict can be resolved calmly without losing face and dignity.
9. Become a source of positivity
In the life of a man, there are many stressful situations every day. When communicating with you, he least of all wants to receive another portion of negativity. Therefore, try to present any information in a friendly perspective - every girl needs to learn this.
Also, do not be stingy to give him positive emotions - tell a funny story that happened to you or someone you know, share an anecdote you heard at work or read on social networks, find a movie in advance that will give pleasure to both of you. Such actions will not require a lot of effort from you, but the man will always associate your communication with something pleasant.
10. Don't be afraid to make him jealous
I'll make a reservation right away - if your companion instantly turns into the Hulk, ready to destroy everything and everyone, as soon as someone inadvertently looks at you, feel free to forget about this rule forever. You don't need unnecessary quarrels. This point is true for those men who are not allowed to relax.
Naturally, you should not rush around strangers passing by or return home in the middle of the night with an armful of roses, breathing perfumes and mists. Just let him see that other men are showing interest in you too. But at the same time, be sure to emphasize that you are only interested in him - the one and only.
As you can see, there is nothing complicated in the rules and most of them are probably already familiar to you. But it's not enough just to know them - it's important to take each rule into service and use it in your relationship.
Do you want to know even more nuances that are important for building a harmonious relationship with a man? Then be sure to read the book “ New rules. Secrets of successful relationships for modern girls”. Its authors, Ellen Fein and Sherri Schneider, have prepared an excellent guide to help a woman do the right thing in any situation in life.
Dear readers, write in the comments which rules do you already use, and which do you plan to implement in the near future? Or perhaps you have your own secrets of a harmonious relationship? Be sure to share your experience - it will be useful to everyone!
We constantly want something from men there and make various lists of the qualities we need. And what do men want from us? Of course, in view of the widespread feminization and emancipation, more and more women wanted to sneeze at men's requests: according to the principle "you need to do it." The Red Lips Journal got confused and compiled for you a list of what every self-respecting girl over 18. So, we read, put plus signs and are proud of ourselves!
1. Cook
7. Simplicity is worse than theft
This is my favorite, favorite phrase, and it really suits any situation. You can be a simpleton at 15, but not by 30. Even the most beautiful face, spewing out absurdity and a senseless stream of consciousness from its miracle mouth, will quickly lose all fans. In our time, a girl simply has to be smart, educated and constantly improve her intellectual level. - and you will never go wrong.
8. Choose me!
A girl with brains and a twist (and you are exactly that, do not even hesitate!) Surely knows how to choose shoes and clothes. As they say, the appearance that you have at 18 is the merit of nature, and what you see in the mirror closer to 30 is completely your merit. Or "not merit". The ability to look like a queen even in a simple black turtleneck is, of course, not given to everyone, but learning not to hobble on tall stilettos, like a wounded ostrich, is quite within your power. A sad impression is made by a girl who is trying to blindly imitate magazines.
9. Laughter prolongs life
Including laughing at yourself. A witty girl, capable of self-irony and not taking herself too seriously, she always wins. Leave the beastly grin of seriousness for office meetings, and in real life it is just as fun to answer jokes.
10. One soldier in the field?
Yes! And you must finally understand that you alone can have a good time, have fun and develop. If now you have, and “all the girlfriends have scattered in pairs until morning” - this is not a reason to lie on the couch with a mournful face. You yourself are already an interesting and self-sufficient person who can go to the movies, go to sports, go to the swimming pool, or even travel around the world on an elephant.
1. In hot summer, apply a minimum of makeup. This will create a feeling of freshness, besides, even the most persistent products applied in large quantities can let you down at high temperatures.
2. Decide what exactly you want to buy and for what occasion when you go to a cosmetic store. This will save you both time and money.
3. The rest of the eye moisturizer works great for the cuticles.
4. Wash off cosmetics from eyelids and eyelashes only with special products, or, in extreme cases, use oil.
5. The best perfumes combine one or two harmonious, matching and non-aggressive fragrances.
6. To help your hair fade less in summer, use your own tint mousse twice a month.
7. Knowing that you have an important meeting or some kind of holiday, try to limit your menu to healthy food a few days before it. This will clear the skin.
8. Use waterproof eyeliner.
9. Apply blush approximately two fingers away from the nose.
10. Moisturize your skin.
11. Take care of the harmonious amount of glitter in your makeup: if your eyeshadow is with glitter, then shiny lipstick will be superfluous.
12. To freshen up your manicure, cover your nails with a thin layer of clear polish every two days.
13. White eyeliner will hide redness.
14. For cat-eye makeup, choose a thin, tapered brush.
15. To visually make the cheekbones taller, apply a bronze tone under them, and a light one on top.
16. Before blow-drying your hair, use a light mousse near the roots to add volume to your hair.
17. To make the lips look fuller, use a pencil of the same tone as the skin.
18. Be sure to close the tube of mascara tightly after use - it dries very quickly.
19. To cleanse your skin, wash yourself with a product containing salicylic acid.
20. Sunscreens that promise "all-day care" work just like the others — two to three hours, regardless of advertising. Don't forget to renew the cream layer.
21. Antihistamines, which are taken for allergies, dry the skin. Try not to dye your hair when taking it, use tonal shampoos.
22. When curling, make sure your hair is completely dry.
23. Do not use scrubs every time you wash, it can damage your skin.
24. Always remove all makeup before going to bed.
25. If your natural skin tone is fairly light, do not use a bright self-tanner; choose it a few shades darker.
26. Use a sulfate-free shampoo, they dry out the scalp.
27. If you have oily hair, do not apply conditioner to the roots.
28. Do not rub your hair with your fingers if you want volume to remain throughout the day. The amount of fat that is always on the skin of the hands will be enough for the strands to lose their shape.
29. Try not to wash your hair every day - the constant washing of the thin protective layer encourages the skin to produce as much oil as possible, and the hair looks dirty again very quickly.
30. Trim the ends of your hair every 6-8 weeks.
31. Always wash your hair brushes and makeup, dirty brushes can become a breeding ground for bacteria.
32. Be sure to go through your home makeup bag every six months to make sure that no product has expired.
33. A thin strip of silver-blue eyeliner on the lower eyelid will make the look more flirty.
34. Always use a foundation under the eyeshadow.
35. Before applying self-tanning, treat the skin with a scrub - otherwise it may lie unevenly.
36. If you are straightening your hair with an iron, put it on a low heat setting - this will damage your hair much less.
37. The healthier you are, the better your hair and skin will look. Take a multivitamin twice a year.
38. Don't be afraid to use homemade mask recipes.
39. To remove unnecessarily red tint from hair, wash it with a green tone corrector.
40. Dry shampoo will help you out in a difficult situation if there is no bath at hand - but remember that combing it out is not a matter of five minutes.
41. After applying a creamy foundation, secure it with transparent powder.
42. First, add volume to the hair with mousse, and then immediately secure with varnish. The hairstyle will last all day.
43. If you need makeup all day long, be sure to apply fixer over the top.
44. When choosing a shade of foundation, apply a test smear to the jaw line - this way you can compare it with the skin color on the neck in natural light.
45. If you want to dye a few strands in your hair in a bright color for the evening, apply a little blush or shadow on them, it is much safer for your hair than crayons.
46. \u200b\u200bDon't skimp on cosmetics. A substandard item from the market can damage your health.
47. Don't take makeup and cosmetics too seriously. This is only your outer side.
48. Matting cream will remove shine from the skin.
49. When applying eye shadow, start with the lightest shade.
51. After using the hair mask, dampen your hair with cool water to help close the hair scales and make your hair look smoother.
52. To prevent braids or braids from fraying throughout the day, saturate your hair thoroughly with styling product before braiding it.
53. If you have cracks on the varnish layer, but it is not possible to remove it, add glitter or a craquelure coating. Turn a flaw into a virtue.
54. Be sure to treat your feet with a pumice stone after showering once a month.
55. Remember to moisturize the eyelids and around the eyes. Regular use of these creams will reduce puffiness and get rid of visible "dark circles".
56. Choose milk or mousse between gel and mousse or milk for washing. Gels dry out the skin more.
Not all women know how to choose the right clothes and create a harmonious image. But this can and should be learned. Never stop, love yourself and do not let everyday problems drive the real woman out of you.
Here are a few rules and secrets that all women should know.
1. Sometimes the secret of impeccable taste lies in simple solutions. Black pants or skirt, white blouse, bright scarf or shawl. The perfect set.
2. The best way to train a feminine gait is a skirt for two or three palms below the knee and heels.
Remember, the law: there should be only one bright accent in an outfit. Everything else must silently support the image.
3. Proven Truth: A turtleneck with a high neck is a great option for almost any outlet. She emphasizes the chest, but will hide details from outsiders.
Choose tight jeans and trousers responsibly. They can fantastically improve the figure, but they can also ruin the whole look by unsuccessfully highlighting the flaws.
4. Taste and ability to dress girls from early childhood should be instilled by mothers. Women are not born with the knowledge of how to properly paint, dress, and comb their hair.
5. An outfit can tell a lot more about a person than he himself could do it.
6. If you want to find a worthy chosen one, imagine the man of your dreams. Now imagine what he is wearing and what his companion looks like. This will help you choose appropriate clothing.
7. Flat-soled shoes - for housewives and oligarchs. If you do not fall into these categories, immediately change the flat sole to the heel.
8. Teenage things in the wardrobe of an adult wife are the worst characteristic for a husband.
9. Coco Chanel knew the beauty secret: "You don't have to be young to look great."
10. Flawless beauty is not attractive. It is much more attractive when there is a slight irregularity in absolutely perfect beauty.
11. The wedding is a daytime ceremony. Therefore, all women should wear dresses in pastel colors, with a length just below the knee. The only woman in a long white dress should be the bride.
12. Even if you don't have the time or desire to do makeup, wear sunglasses and a sixties-style scarf around your head.
13. In the wardrobe of all women, clothes are divided into three types: for themselves, for friends and for men. Never confuse these outfits.
14. Check your scarf and lipstick collection regularly. The scarf and lipstick should be a duet, then you will always look great.
15. The skirt should never come up when walking. If this happens, then you need a skirt of a different style or size.
16. Always a winning daytime outfit for a blonde is a pretty blue dress and white shoes. Remember one rule: white shoes are only worn until 5 pm.
17. There are no too massive legs, there are poorly selected tights. There are no ugly women, there are inept hairdressers.
18. Don't be afraid to buy high-heeled shoes. It is now easy to find comfortable shoes with heels that are easy to wear all day.
19. Good taste also needs daily exercise. As soon as you stop exercising, old age sets in, it doesn't really matter what age you are at that time.
20. Shoes of the same color as trousers visually lengthen the legs.
21. Classic costumes are different. They will come in handy not only in the office, but also on evening outings, walks and even breakfast with your beloved.
22. When choosing an expressive dress, do a calm, discreet hairstyle so as not to distract attention from the main outfit.
23. Many women find satin and velvet items too smart to work with. Such things can be safely done with a work suit if they are in neutral colors.
24. Don't hide your forms. All that nature has given you is natural and beautiful. This needs to be emphasized, but competently and tastefully.
25. Never wear fur products the same color as your hair. When fur merges with hair, it looks ridiculous.
26. For an evening dress, there is an important rule: one thing must shine. Choose either a bright dress or a relaxed outfit with colorful accessories.
27. If you are overweight, the heel can play a crucial role in helping to hide flaws.
28. Remember: fashion is not feathers and rhinestones. Fashionable is when the skirt fits perfectly, when the pants lengthen the legs, when a woman looks harmonious in her clothes, as if she is flying above the ground.
Sometimes a new dress or bag is a tool to cheer you up and reward yourself, it’s a new period in your life that you give new goals. It is cheaper and safer than psychotherapists and antidepressants.
29. If two women are applying for the same position, the one who wears high heels most often wins.
Believe that you deserve the best. Stop hearing about the bad, do not communicate with people who are always whining, because such a mood is contagious. You just have to work hard and everything will work out. Does excess weight interfere? Use Maya Plisetskaya's diet: "Don't eat!" - and immediately the problem will disappear. Want to meet the prince as soon as possible? First, fall in love with yourself and see how a dozen princes on white horses appear at once. Don't delve into yourself, don't look for a path to success, just live and enjoy life, do what you're interested in and buy new shoes.
30. When a woman puts on tight pants, men immediately notice her beautiful eyes and a dazzling smile.
A well-dressed woman is one who does not attract attention with her clothes. In a properly selected image, the person, his face, his hairstyle should come to the fore. This is a classic approach to choosing things.
31. A black pencil skirt, blazer, stiletto heels, a tiny clutch bag and other classics will help you look perfect at any age.
32. Want to climb the career ladder? Then dress as if you are already at the top.
33. Gray is the favorite color of French women. Walking around Paris in the daytime, you will surely see several ladies in gray suits.
1 Be able to cook. If you don't know how, learn.
2 Spend not two hours in the bathroom in the morning, but fifteen minutes. Save my time. Or get up earlier.
3 Love sex.
4 Want to have sex in the morning.
5 Love video games. This is not a kindergarten, kindergarten - these are your stupid serials on the second channel.
6 Reinstall Windows. If you think that a woman's brain is larger than a man's, prove it.
7 Do not force to clean the apartment. I don’t make you fix the toilet.
8 Do not ask to carry your purse, I bought it myself, and carry it myself. I don't care if it's heavy.
9 Should cook so that I don't remember my mom's kitchen.
10 Be able to do blowjob.
11 Love Dubsteb, Drumandbase and House.
12 Hate the entire playlist of HitFM, Dfm and Europe plus.
13 Be silent. Know at what moments.
14 Stay out of my half of the bed.
15 Honestly, to understand that 5 pieces for a new video card is cheap, 5 pieces for false nails is fucked up.
16 Do not be rude, do not bicker, do not raise your voice at me in the presence of my friends.
17 Go to bed after calling with the warning "I'll be late, I drink with friends."
18 Believe that I'm with friends. If you don't trust, get out.
19 Don't make me go on a diet. Moreover, for the company with you.
20 Take care of yourself. Don't walk around the house in front of me in my pants.
21 Do not beg for money for your trinkets. Go work and buy.
22 Don't forget. From the moment we started dating, I don't have to pay for your makeup.
23 Do not carry around the shops. It pisses us off.
24 Do not participate in the purchase of a plasma display panel, laptop or home theater. You don't fucking understand them, but the options "Come on this one, he's pretty!" not accepted.
25 Don't make me buy you pads, tampons, other female crap. Pharmacy nearby ...
26 Love to have sex in different positions.
27 Be diverse. If you get bored, I can look elsewhere for variety.
28 Be fun.
29 Be educated.
30 Give only the gifts I need for my birthday.
31 Be able to drive a car.
32 Be able to avoid conflicts. If you are in a bad mood, understand that I am not here.
33 Don't dance - if you can't.
34 Be sure to dance - if you really can.
35 To be able to find something to do while I work at the computer.
36 Do not write SMS and do not call 100 times a day while I am at work.
37 Do not put before a choice, me or friends. I will choose friends ...
38 Work too. I want the family to have a budget. I am not a miser, but I will not allow aimlessly spending my money on "you beloved".
39 To give birth and raise children. You are a woman, this is your destiny. Giving birth, relaxing and getting fat is a sure sign of an imminent divorce.
40 Take care of yourself after childbirth. I don't need a fat and self-conscious wife.
41 Make me proud and everyone else envy.
42 Always be like on the first date.
43 Be able to forgive. If I ask for forgiveness, then I am repenting, then I need you.
44 Bring to orgasm with a blowjob.
45 To be able to hang around your neck with joy and it doesn't matter how long you went to get bread.
46 Explain sensibly where you stayed until half past one in the night.
47 Promise that this will not happen again. To keep a promise.
48 Retire from Odnoklassniki.
49 Do not visit the site Pearl of thought and the like.
50 Love. And to be loved ...
