Love is a wonderful and amazing feeling that appears suddenly and seemingly out of nowhere. A person in love or a loving person is beautiful, he experiences kind and very bright feelings. But, alas, even in such a seemingly bright business, there are problems. For example, a guy loves a girl, and she treats him like a friend, or does not notice him at all. On the one hand, it may seem that this is an impasse. After all, you won’t be forced to be nice. But on the other hand, if everything is done wisely, you can achieve a positive result. Let's first find out what needs to be done to make a girl fall in love with you, and also talk about what not to do. After all, not all means can be useful.
Information
First you need to find out as much information as possible. What she loves, what she hates. What movies she prefers to watch, what kind of food she likes best. In a word, the more information you have, the more likely it is to surprise and conquer. In addition, the female sex likes it when a couple has common ground. For example, you may find that you have one favorite movie, or you like to play some kind of sport. Which will no doubt make you one step closer to each other.
Romance
Most girls love flowers, gifts and attention. And don't skimp on it. In order to cook a romantic, you do not need to wait for a suitable holiday. The ability to turn a simple day into an unforgettable one is a great skill that every young person should have. Various surprises, soft toys, creative gifts will help melt the cold heart of your chosen one.
But before you make a romantic, find out what your sweetheart prefers. After all, there are those who do not like flowers and teddy bears. In this case, you will have to make every effort and creativity.
Be yourself
Often, in order to achieve a girl, guys are ready to pretend to be real machos. And this is a big mistake. After all, pretense is always visible. Girls love real men, not ostentatious jesters. If you want to look better than you are, then go in for sports, put your body in order. Pay attention to yourself and your hobbies. Become interesting for yourself, and then you will not end up with girls.
Get popular
Girls love popular boys and guys. To do this, it is enough to do some interesting business, and lead a rich life. You want her to be interested in you, then become interesting not only for her, but also for others. And this, in turn, may be of interest to her.
Give compliments
Many people like compliments, the main thing in this matter is not to overdo it. Be attentive to the girl, and you may notice a new haircut, a new dress, or another change. Talk about how pretty and adorable she is, how she looks in this costume, or how this hairstyle suits her. But you do not need to do this every hour, because it can get boring. At the same time, try to be sincere and honest. If you don't like your friend's new outfit, it's best to keep quiet.
Remember dates
Many ladies have a special attitude to different dates. First kiss, first date, etc. It would be great, on such a memorable day, to make a gift first. Thus, you can once again demonstrate your attention and love.
Become a Clairvoyant
Girls love it when guys do what they dream of. Of course, for this you need to listen to your soul mate carefully, and then in a conversation we will be able to catch what is important and necessary for her. But you should not resort to this method all the time. So you can spoil your future soul mate. And this may not always be good for the future.
Now let's talk about what not to do in order to win the heart of a girl.
Don't impose
No matter how strong your desire to be liked, you should not become a ponytail. She needs to feel what it means when you are around and when you are not. If you always walk around, the girl simply will not have the desire and interest to do something to interest you.
Don't be too pushy
Many people say that if a girl told you no for the first time, then this means that she actually says yes. And it takes a little pressure. You don't need to do this. Become the one who will hear her desires.
Don't Complain
Oddly enough, but there are young people who like to complain to their ladies about their fate. Under no circumstances should this be done. Remember, the girl is not your mother. Many want to see a strong and courageous person next to them, and not a rag.
Don't demand sex from a girl.
If you're only trying to win a heart, don't drag her to bed. Show that you are just interested in her, and she attracts you. But it's too early to talk about intimacy. And it can be intimidating.
But you must remember that every girl is different. Perhaps someone needs a completely different approach. But remember - honesty, openness, kindness and charisma always please the opposite sex.
Reviews and opinions
There is nothing to add here! I don't believe in friendship between a man and a woman. Sooner or later there is interest, sexual attraction. There comes a moment of a running spark and everything seems different. Friendship is the foundation of a strong family.
Ekaterina V
You just need to be kind, sympathetic, caring. If a girl is really needed, then remembering for her sake will not be difficult. The girl should feel like behind a stone wall. You don't have to hide your feelings. If you like it, you need to talk about it. Often the guys are silent, so the girls do not perceive them as a loved one. And really just be yourself. Do not make yourself a clown, be just a man who knows how to do things for the sake of his beloved woman.
There are a lot of choices, just stay the same, and on the other hand, if you like someone, then it’s very important to say about it, if there is reciprocity, then it’s very good, if not, then you have to go through it, you will see if there is hope to win a heart or you really don’t like you, there are people who you give hope, and there are those who until the end of your days you will never be together. My purely opinion, if you are denied, then move on and at least get sick, I write statistics, not for everyone, but smart people seem to have studied that they experience rejection from 1 to 2 years, it’s like a small death, I don’t argue for someone big! What to advise hold on guys and girls! Believe that everything is in front! The most important thing is not to lose faith in yourself!
I think that there is no need to change, to become popular and so on. The main thing is to be yourself. If a person accepts you for who you are, then this will be a really real relationship. And if it changes, then it will be practically not you. And besides, having changed, sometimes you have to constantly maintain what you have changed in yourself. And sometimes it’s not only hard, but it can stop liking you yourself. and then you start blaming the object of your love, that, behold, I changed for you, and so on. It will only make things worse. It's better to be yourself and admit everything. And there's how the card will fall.
Veronica
If a girl does not love anyone, is free, then there is nothing to do. Everything is very simple, unless, of course, the guy is not a rare fool. What does a woman need? To
- She was admired (not just loved - but admired! And sincerely.
- They took care of her (they took care of her completely, and not at the level of submitting a jacket or paying a bill in a restaurant).
Everything else is secondary. It is useful for a guy, in addition to these two points, to be persistent, but not intrusive. And here is the subtlety, of course. Because no one likes obsessive, but persistent and self-confident men - quite the contrary.
In this regard, I always remember the love story of German Sterligov and his wife. Of course, he is a little crazy, but at that time he did everything absolutely right. I especially liked how he proposed to the girl. Her: "But I don't love you." Him: "It doesn't matter. The main thing is that I love you." And they gave birth to 5 children! And they still love each other
I am sure that there is no friendship between a man and a woman. obviously one of them has feelings for the other deeper than friendship. And in general, it’s not in vain that our great Pushkin said that “the less we love a woman, the easier she likes us.” He clearly understood women. So it’s worth trusting his experience and using such simple advice in practice.
There is no unequivocal advice here, find yourself another one that will love you and you will like it. Leave everything, if you see she is indifferent, so drop it and move on. This is my opinion, I do not pretend to be experienced in this matter.
First, decide if you really want love. It often happens that many guys get confused in their feelings because of the banal desire for sex. You want her and it looks like you're in love, but you're not. In addition, if you have known each other recently, then you may have a passion, passion, love. This feeling usually goes away after a while. So first understand how you feel about her. Try to find as much as possible in common with the girl. It can be a unity of opinions, thoughts, feelings and sensations. No need to lie, speak sincerely and from a pure heart.
It's hard to fall in love with a person if you have little in common. Well, it depends on how you liked this girl, whether this one is really the same. Do you have good feelings, did the young man fall for a beautiful wrapper? And being a friend is a great start to a long-term relationship. Be there and take care of your beloved. Why build something out of yourself that you are not? If only it is true to change yourself and try to understand her world, which is also close to you.
From my experience, if a guy was originally a friend to me, then it remained so. But maybe you'll be lucky and everything will be fine!
It seems to me that getting out of the friend zone is quite difficult. I know for myself - I talked with men who, let's say, not only wanted to communicate. But if you are not attracted to him, it is unlikely that anything will change. A good option if a girl sees that other girls are actively interested in her friend.
- Get to know her. Getting to know her is somewhat more than memorizing the date and place of her birth. Spend time with her, build trust, and learn to appreciate the qualities in her that she rarely shows. Find out that she is afraid of water (and why she is afraid of it). Or find out about her most embarrassing moment in her life (and help her reduce it to a joke). Understand how she thinks and what she believes. This will allow you to love her as a whole person, and she will appreciate it very much.
A good way to get to know her is to ask about politics or religion. This will not only allow you to get to know her better, but also show that you think she is smart and that her opinion matters to you.- Find out what she's into. Ask her out on a date and do her favorite thing together, then she will feel comfortable and safe. If she feels at ease on a date with you, she will most likely try to get close to you, hold your hand and maybe even kiss you.
If she likes surfing, horseback riding, shopping or cooking, why not make it your pastime together? Ask her friends what she likes to do in her free time, or take the courage and ask your chosen one about it yourself. (Luck will be on your side). In this way, you will let her know that you really spent a lot of time to find out what interests her, and you are ready for anything for her happiness.- Set up dates. Doing something she likes together doesn't have to be in the form of a date. But if you want to direct your relationship in a romantic direction, ask her out on a date. When you decide to take this step, try taking her to the movies, a coffee shop, or a dance first. Or visit some beautiful park or hunting lodge with her. Various studies have shown that admiration or a sense of danger during a date leads to a complex chemical reaction in the brain that will help you get closer.
- Think carefully before calling a walk together a date. If you have already won a girl's heart, let her know that you are going on a date with her. After all, she expects you to take the first step in the development of your future relationship and wants to make sure that she correctly interpreted your intentions to date her. If you haven't won her over yet, it might be worth holding off on your courtship and trying to be a good friend to her first before getting into a romantic relationship with her. The fact is that some girls will not accept your courtship and attempts to start a relationship until they are sure that you, first of all, are her good friend.
- Let her feel free. Let her be in control of what happens next. Restricting her freedom and forcing her into a relationship will only backfire. Show that you respect her own life. If you give a girl freedom, she can love you on her own terms.
- Give her personal space and freedom of action, but do not move away from her too much. Do not forget to call her from time to time and show interest in what is happening in her life. If you are shy, you should not completely transfer the initiative in a relationship into her hands, or, otherwise, she will rightly believe that you are not interested in them. You will have to overcome your shyness in order to win her attention.
- If you've been on a date with her and things are going really well, tell her you'll call her before the end of the week (if your date was on a Friday). Let her mind her own business on Saturday. On Sunday, call her and tell her that you spent a pleasant time with her and that you want to go somewhere else next weekend. This will be a great time to invite her to a party or disco.
- By giving her freedom, you show your confidence. So you mean that "I had a great time with you, I like you, but I won't push too hard because I'm not running after you." Girls and guys feel attracted to those who are calm and self-confident, who are not ahead of events, but are not imposed.
margarita
To be honest, the pick-up instructions sucked. How to fall in love? - this is a very cruel, selfish and dishonorable statement of the question.
To fall in love with herself implies that she will fall in love and it will be easy to seduce her, she wants to. This does not imply love, nor sincere feelings with an eye to the future.
Why does no one ask normally: How can I please the girl I love, but who still does not notice me? Because the answer to it implies that you need to do something good for her. And such pick-up artists do not want to do good. They want to seduce as many girls as possible. To do this, they need to "fall in love with themselves."
Life is such a thing, you can expect anything. Maybe she feels some interest in you, she just didn’t think about it. Probably, I think you need to admit to her that you like her, or talk to her and dot the i's. I had such a case, I really liked one guy, but I didn’t like him at all, I couldn’t stand it, and it happened, I noticed that I fell head over heels in love, he seemed to me both more beautiful and better than anyone in the world. That's the way it is, don't lose hope!
It seems to me that a lot is tied to common interests. If you are interested in the same things as her in intellectual pursuits, sports, music, etc. - it will be easier to develop relationships and it will not be necessary at all to specifically “become popular” or pump up the body.
Alisa Mikhailova
I don't think you should fall in love with anyone at all. Nothing good will come of it.
In life, everything can happen in different ways. On the one hand, “Why cry under a star that you still can’t remove from the sky?”, You can explain in a kind way, and who knows, maybe you will remain friends, you yourself will fall in love with another, because everything is possible, then everything will remain in pleasant memories. Or vice versa, she will eventually fall in love with you. When you are near, you think that you are a friend, but when you lose, it turns out that you loved.
I don't think it's worth falling in love with someone and the like. If a person treats you without sympathy, then it is better to stop communicating and not strain him or annoy him. Well, in general, it should be easier. You can escort home, help with something. Psychologists say that the more often a person sees, the more sympathy, so you need to walk and see each other more often. Also, you can't say that a girl isn't in love with you. Maybe you should propose a date? Who does not risk, he does not drink champagne.
