Whether you are in a relationship with a man or just planning to build one, it is very important to find out if the guy has a girlfriend. Why this is needed is understandable - it is better for a person to be free, then you can calmly communicate with him, hoping for a brighter future.
Of course, not all women are embarrassed by the fact that the guy is not free. But it is wrong to compete with someone. You need to understand that you cannot build your happiness on someone else's misfortune. Better save your nerves and find a really free one.
"Scanning" a stranger
It is no coincidence that this part of the article is called that way. You can't do without a special "scanner". The problem is that it doesn't exist. If you are trying to determine if a stranger is free, this is a very difficult task. It's easier with women.
For example, a free lady is usually:
- has a "war paint" - bright makeup;
- wears sexy clothes;
- looking for interesting candidates.
However, we hasten to warn you. All these "signs" will not give an unambiguous answer to the question: is a woman free or not. This is also true for "scanning" men.
What to look for if you need to understand if a certain young man is free?
- Hands. On the finger you need to look for a ring. But even if it is absent, this does not at all guarantee that the young man is free and you can make acquaintance with him. The guy could well take it off so that it was possible to find a girl on the side.
- Behavior. From it it is difficult to determine whether a man has a woman. Maybe only the most faithful do not stare at others. And some will never miss the opportunity to admire women's charms and even meet an interesting lady.
- Cloth. It is also difficult to understand anything from it, because single and married men can dress about the same. There are free boys who do not look after their appearance. And there are "married" who every day dress up as if on a date.
A separate story is the analysis of men on the Internet.
Internet, Internet, give me an answer!
Much depends on where exactly you found the young man in the network. If this is a dating site, only correspondence can answer the question. And then there is no 100% guarantee that a man will confess or somehow give himself away.
In social networks, for example, on Vkontakte, everything is a little simpler. You can see a photo of a guy, go through the list of his friends. If a young man does not advertise on his page that he is dating someone, his acquaintances probably have interesting photos or posts on the wall.
How to check "your" boyfriend
One of the words is in quotation marks because you may consider a man "personal", but in fact he may have other connections.
If you communicate with a young man, then there are much more ways to check him than to "scan" a stranger.
Non-verbal cues
When a person is lying or hiding something, he can speak quite convincingly, but the body, as a rule, betrays. The most typical example: a guy scratches his nose when he speaks, pulls his earlobe, blushes, nervously twitches his leg. It is the body that always comes to the aid of the one, or rather, the one who wants to bring a man to clean water.
Although perhaps the guy is just nervous when talking with his girlfriend, he is afraid to say something stupid, to seem not courageous, etc. So behavior is not at all a “litmus test” in this matter.
"Excuses" and contradictions
You can catch a guy on all sorts of verbal inconsistencies. A man, for example, can let it slip, saying instead of "I'm on the weekend ..." - "We're on the weekend ...". To the question: “Who is it - we?”, He may be embarrassed. In general, watch your speech.
money and time
A man who does not have acquaintances on the side tries to spend more time with a girl. If he constantly disappears somewhere, comes up with different stories, most likely the guy decided to chase two hares. You can find out for sure by secretly following him.
The situation is similar with money.
If a man does not buy anything, but the funds go somewhere, perhaps he spends them on another girl.
However, he just might have taken out a loan and doesn't want to tell you about it.
"How many good girls..."
A guy who is capable of cheating usually behaves uninhibitedly, looks at other ladies appraisingly and maybe even flirts. But this is not an “iron” indicator by which it can be determined that a man is a “male”.
Some guys like to look at female figures for the sake of "sports interest". However, they remain faithful to only one lady. And vice versa: there are men who, in the company of a girl, look only at her ... in the company of each of their girls.
Espionage
If you met a man, then you probably know the addresses of his pages on various Internet services. You need to check them by first and last name. The search engines know everything. It can be assumed that a person leading a double life is most likely not "burnt". As we have already indicated, carefully study the personal pages of friends. Yes, and in principle, look with whom the man communicates.
Of course, it’s ideal to find out logins and passwords, but, firstly, it’s not very beautiful to get them, and secondly, it’s not so easy.
You can look into the mobile phone of the man you like. How?
- Secretly. While the guy was distracted or left.
- Obviously. To do this, you need to say that your phone is dead, and you need to urgently call. In the "Journal" section or similar, there will be a list of recent issues. You can also check SMS messages.
"I know everything!"
A provocative method, but you can use it if the suspicions are too strong. You need to tell the guy: “I know that you have another!” Next, you should look at his reaction, evaluate non-verbal signals and words. Be careful, it is likely that the man will understand that you are too jealous and decide to end the relationship.
Meeting Friends
Guys who are hiding something will try not to introduce you to their comrades and relatives. But you can independently find out with whom the young man is friends, and communicate with these people, trying to please them. You can unobtrusively ask how a man spends his time, whether he still has contacts with his ex or not, etc. Another tricky move: you can say that you are preparing a surprise for the guy and ask him to tell him where he is at a certain time on some days weeks. Allegedly, you want to come to him and give a present.
Please note that friends rarely betray comrades who communicate with several ladies at once.
Appeal to magic
This method won't work for everyone. Some may find it interesting and effective. You can contact a person who is engaged in fortune-telling.
Probably, the magician or sorceress will perform the ritual and find out something about your betrothed. Or maybe you just wasted a certain amount of money.
direct question
You can just ask the guy if he has someone else. We hope that you know how to distinguish truth from lies. Otherwise, you can draw wrong conclusions.
In general, it is quite difficult to obtain direct evidence that a man is leading a double life. But the totality of guesses, circumstantial evidence, can give an unambiguous answer to the question of whether the young man is honest, or is he hiding something.
