And needless to say, today you will learn 10 points on how to communicate with a girl.
Communication is a very important factor when meeting and further relationships with a girl. A lot depends on WHAT, and most importantly, HOW you say, so if you think that you already know how to do everything, then you are mistaken. Often all these compliments and tackles look stupid, terrible and ridiculous. The main goal of proper communication is to instill trust in your interlocutor, as well as to create a positive emotional state. Because often a girl is guided by emotions, not logic, so if she feels good and comfortable in communication with you, then she will consider you as a person with whom she can build a relationship. I’ll give you some sensible tips on how to talk to a girl that will help you not get confused and feel confident - and this is very important, as you probably already understand.
10 points on how to communicate with a girl correctly
1. When communicating with a girl, do not be boring.
Your speech should evoke certain emotions in the girl, and not the desire to fall asleep. Being around you shouldn't make her feel like she's sitting in a lecture with the most boring professor in the world. It doesn’t matter what exactly you say, if at the same time you try to tell everything emotionally and interestingly, consider that you have already done half the work. Of course, women love smart and erudite men, but at the same time we should not forget about the amount of excitement and interest that, in theory, you should arouse in her.
2. Speak slowly and quietly.
If you jabber too much, then at a minimum, she will not have time to understand anything, and at most, she will become uninterested, because your speech will have too little emotional content. Too much information will only make her feel tired and even irritated, and this is clearly not the effect you intended to achieve. As for the volume of your speech, it also plays an important role in communication. Of course, if this is your first date, then you can speak in your usual normal tone, but if it comes to some kind of intimacy, then too loud sounds may frighten her and turn her away from you. If you speak at least half a tone lower than usual, then she will have to listen to what you say, and, therefore, be closer to you. Not the worst response, right?
3. Talk little.
There is no need to immediately lay out to her the entire flow of information that is contained in your head. After all, you came on a date and the most important object on which you should concentrate all your attention is the girl. Therefore, even if you like to talk, then talk about her, ask questions, be interested in her life, and secretly say only what she asks you, and not everything at once. This will contain a certain moment of play and intrigue, and girls love this combination.
4. Use a chest voice.
A chest voice has a very cool effect on women and causes a special effect. But here it is very important to understand exactly when it will be appropriate. For example, if you just met, or this is your first date, then communicate with her normally, as you always do in life. But if everything has already moved from a dead point and you realized that she was clearly interested in you, and you in her, then a chesty voice will be just right.
5. Be original.
Although this advice is quite banal, many guys very often forget about this and begin to burden the girl with their conversations about home, work, pets and other nonsense. Remember, even if you tell her about your job, try to present it as if you have the coolest and most interesting job in the world. The same rule applies to other aspects of your life - surprise, don’t be like everyone else, make her want to meet you again, because you are more interesting than all her friends.
6. Ask the right questions.
If you ask questions that can be answered with a dry “yes” or “no,” you are unlikely to have an engaging conversation. Try to make her give you as many detailed answers as possible, then this will make her think about some things that she may not have thought about before. Namely, it is with you that she will understand or realize something new about herself. Believe me, girls appreciate it and remember such moments. But don’t turn your date into an interrogation; after all, she should be as comfortable as possible with you next to her.
7. Get to know each other.
Remember, you must inspire her trust, and this means that you will tell some facts about yourself as honestly as possible, but only those that you yourself consider necessary, appropriate and appropriate. Tell her something about your family, usually girls draw conclusions about a guy based on how he treats his mother, and his entire family in general. So you can tell a couple of cute stories, but try not to embellish them too much, otherwise it will turn out too stupid.
8. Use your imagination.
To prevent this from turning into banal chatter, ask her a few interesting questions where she could express herself. For example, ask her what she would do if she had a million dollars now? Or if suddenly at that moment three of her cherished wishes came true, what kind of wishes would they be? Come up with a couple more of these questions and you can find out a little more about your interlocutor.
9. Don't put pressure on her.
If suddenly the topic comes up about sex, then look first at her reaction, and only then continue the conversation. If she just stays quiet, smiles, and doesn't show any signs of objection or gently makes it clear that she doesn't like the topic, then move on calmly. But still, on the first date, I would not recommend you to immediately put pressure on her and talk about sex and similar topics.
10. Focus on her.
Girls love it when people show attention to them, and even more so in conversation. Therefore, you must remember that at the moment she is here, with you, and you must talk to HER as much as possible about HER. React to her jokes, show your interest in every possible way, ask her a lot of questions about her life, hobbies, plans - whatever. Then there is a great chance that she will like you and she will certainly want to continue communicating with such an interesting interlocutor like you - and this is exactly what you wanted, right?
