There are many male representatives who experience certain difficulties in communicating with a girl. Unfortunately, if a person is not able to connect even two words together, then one should not count on ease in relationships with the fair sex. Yes, there is a relationship! In this situation, it will be difficult for a person to even take a step towards acquaintance. But a lot can change if there is an opportunity to join our conversation.
How to communicate when meeting?
What is the principle of dating between opposite sexes? The most common factor is external data. After all, it’s not for nothing that many people start a conversation with such a playful phrase: “ You are beautiful, and I am damn attractive. Let's get acquainted!
» Further, following the reaction of the girl, the man tries to catch the parameter that determines the closeness with the stranger.
That is, trying to put it in modern language - are you on the same wavelength with her? Even if you were answered in a “tone”, then try to hook the interlocutor further, arousing interest in yourself. The surest option is light flirting. How is it different from normal conversation? Flirting is a wave of humor, intimacy and lightness.
Thin banter and kind irony are allowed in verbal expression. The main thing in this exquisite "cuisine" is not to oversalt and be reasonable with the addition of sugar and honey. It was a little joke, but as you know, there is always a grain of truth hidden in it. Therefore, in communicating with a girl, first of all, rely on her reaction. All women are sensitive to emotions, so first of all give your chosen one a compliment. Some men will shrug their shoulders helplessly: “How to do it? What exactly to praise? Everything is more than simple.
If a charming lady won you over with the luxurious silk of her hair, focus on this! Did you generally like her figure, high-heeled shoes and infectious laugh? Don't be afraid to emphasize this by saying, for example: As soon as I entered this institution and saw you, I still don’t see anyone ».
By the way, probably, many men will be interested in starting an acquaintance with “you” or “you”? Psychologists advise, nevertheless, to turn to the girl on "you" in order to avoid the impression of arrogance and frivolity. If the acquaintance is successfully tied up, then the appeal to “you” may occur involuntarily. If this does not happen, then you yourself can offer to switch to “you”. In any case, you can consider your flirting successful if the chosen one smiles in response and sends her vibes.
Please note that if you are really interested in this or that person, then in addition to expressing your admiration for her external data, cling to the information that will be of interest to her. That is, it is important at some point just to listen to her. This is what will help you capture the details that are of interest to her.
This is a kind of signal to the lady that your interest in her is not superficial. And this, in turn, is good ground for a deep emotional connection. It is very important for a woman to understand that you are not only an interesting interlocutor, but also a receptive person, with your own emotions.
There is another essential skill in communicating with the opposite sex. Wake up the curiosity in the newly-made chosen one to yourself and the desire to find out more about you. For example, in a conversation with her, casually mention some sharp fact, prompting her to ask about it. What could it be? The music you dance to or the ring on your finger that holds the family secret of the clan - the choice is yours!
We must explain to you that not all girls are ready to open up quickly and not all of them to understand so soon. Therefore, during communication, evaluate the facial expressions of the interlocutor. If she does not have an interest in you, then she can defiantly glance at her watch, phone, or be distracted by others. In this case, change the topic of conversation.
It is important in your conversations not to lie, not to exaggerate your talents or capabilities. If you are set on a long-term relationship, then this can turn against you at the most unexpected moment! Use non-verbal gestures when communicating with your interlocutor. It is very important! Learn to positively confirm the conversation with a slight shake of the head, “caress” the face and figure of the girl with your eyes.
This is very sexy and gives a pleasant “goosebumps” to a new acquaintance who understands your interest in her. If a girl shows that she is not going to write you down as “just friends,” then you can move on to touching. They confirm the personal male interest.
It’s great if you have already managed to dance with your partner, gently hug her around the waist, gently squeeze your hand. From time to time, you can take her hand or touch her shoulder during a conversation. If you went out for a walk and you feel cold, and your companion is dressed lightly, then the old tried and tested way is to throw your jacket around her shoulders. This will give her a feeling of closeness, comfort and security.
What topics should not be touched on the first evening of acquaintance? Perhaps purely male interests: football, hockey, various brands of beer, spare parts for cars, fishing will be of interest to a rare girl. Therefore, raise the topic of fashion, weather conditions, funny cases that happened to you at work or in your student years.
Most of the female population loves mystical stories. Therefore, have in your arsenal a couple of esoteric cases that have happened to your friends or relatives. Win-win will be the conversation that will affect your own hobbies, plans for a summer vacation. Connect your chosen one to your story, ask about her hobbies, deeds, focus on the starry sky, the singing of the nightingale. It is so romantic!
Common mistakes in communicating with girls
The most typical mistakes that men make when communicating with the opposite sex can happen involuntarily. Of course, in order to impress every young person seeks to present himself in a favorable light. For example, many get carried away when they want to show that they are very popular among women, turning their stories into Don Juan's confession.
Or, on the contrary, trying to win over the interlocutor, they begin to list on the fingers the number of cases when they were rejected. What to say on this topic? It is best to avoid stories about past love affairs. Even if the girl insists, then touch it casually and change the topic of conversation. Most men are interested in whether it is necessary to ask a girl - is she free at the moment?
After all, it may turn out that she is experiencing some kind of crisis in personal relationships and is thus distracted. In some cases, it is acceptable to ask such a question unobtrusively, but everything will become obvious when you start meeting with a new acquaintance on a regular basis. But it would be useful to warn that the worst thing is when communication with a girl turns into an interrogation.
Keep in mind that your acquaintance took place 2 hours ago and it is unlikely that you will be told the intimate details of your life. Therefore, no matter how curiosity pushes you, get rid of it until the chosen one wishes “good night” ahead of time! By the way, how long should such an acquaintance last?
Relationship experts advise not to delay communication and not to sit until you get bored. Artificially create a deficit for both of you. That is, you can move on to the fact that they are ready to take the lady home. End the first acquaintance at the peak of mysterious understatement.
Usually, many young people have problems with this. If you are very impressed with the girl, then it is a pity to end such a wonderful evening. But you must remember that this acquaintance will be followed by subsequent dates and therefore open up to each other gradually.
Perhaps, at the moment, a rare man does not communicate on the Internet with the fair sex. But statistical figures show that online flirting often remains virtual. Therefore, if you seriously want a real meeting, then do not delay communicating on the Internet.
Dedicate a couple of days to this, but then ask the interlocutor for her phone number. It must be remembered that when people have not yet seen each other, the voice is the main starting point for further communication. Therefore, during a conversation with a girl, give your tone warmth and notes of goodwill. If you are the owner of an infectious pleasant laugh, find a reason to laugh into the phone, make your interlocutor laugh. Finally,
If communication doesn't work
Let's really evaluate what is happening. So that the above tips do not seem too sugary, let's add a little bit of tar. Despite the courtesy and loyalty in communication, you feel a catch. For example, you run around the fair sex with bouquets of flowers for 1.5 months, pick up not only her, but also her friends from work.
Also, immediately fulfill her innocent requests, which become regular. Exude exquisite compliments to her, try to invite the object of sympathy to various interesting events, but there is no progress in the relationship. Although the girl does not push away from herself and tells you about sympathy. But this should manifest itself in sincere hugs, kisses, the development of sexual relations and interest in your life in general.
If such a manifestation of feelings and emotions is unknown to the partner, then we advise you to moderate your ardor and temporarily leave her field of vision. Let's say this is a game on her part. In the end, she will find you herself. Otherwise, use your communication skills with another representative of the fair sex!
