Polina Smekhova 20.04.2015 683
The first impression can be deceptive, but that's why it is the first, that it is impossible to correct it. How to make a good first impression on a potential employer, friends of friends or clients?
Be honest: how long does it take you to form an idea about a stranger? Sometimes half an hour is enough, sometimes a few minutes or even a couple of seconds. You may soon have to change your mind about a person and get to know him from an unexpected side. But in any case, the first impression will remain the first.
And how you would like people to like you at first sight, right? Let's see if this is possible.
1. Conduct an "investigation"
- First and most importantly, decide who are you going to impress. It's one thing when it comes to job interviews. It is completely different if you are going to visit a friend, where strangers will gather.
- Second- determine for yourself what kind of impression do you want to create. What trait of your character or ability would you like to be noticed in you at the first meeting? Consolidation and responsibility? Easy character and hanging tongue? Competence in professional matters? It is quite obvious that at a meeting with future employers and in a small friendly company, people behave differently.
- Third – get to know people in person. When preparing for an interview, study the corporate website of the company, remember the name of the boss. If your task is to impress someone from a friendly environment - "get to know" their hobbies, field of activity, and so on. People are always pleased when they show personal interest.
The more you know about your counterpart, the more relaxed you will feel when you meet.
2. Rehearse
It never hurts to be well prepared. Depending on the direction in which the conversation will take place, think over your speech. What will you talk about? How will you answer the uncomfortable questions you are likely to hear in an interview? What fascinating stories can you tell at a party? How do you convince a partner to start cooperation?
Scroll through the possible scenarios in your mind so that the arguments of the interlocutor do not take you by surprise.
If you feel out of place during important meetings, rehearse the conversation with your husband or girlfriend. A thoughtful and rehearsed plan of action will help you deal with anxiety.
3. Play
Many confident people actually only pretend to be absolutely sure of what they say and do. But this trick works: others really believe them!
Imagine that this is your role and play! Before the meeting begins, take a few deep breaths, relax and tune in to a good game.
When you begin to feel that self-doubt and fear of doing something wrong are creeping up on you, remind yourself that now you are not you, but a strong, self-confident, smart, charming woman.
And, of course, try to look as good as possible (whatever is hidden behind “good” in your case: a spectacular suit, good styling, makeup, etc.). This will give you confidence and win over your counterpart.
4. Smile
The absence of a smile can only be forgiven for languid fatal beauties. Even if you consider yourself to be such, there is no place for drama in an interview or a friendly meeting. Smile - it helps to establish contact and tune in to the same wave.
American scientists claim that the first thing that most people remember about a person is his smile. According to one study, a person with a pleasant smile is more trustworthy than a discreet person dressed to the nines.
5. Seal the first impression
In fact, the first impression is not only the first conversation with a person, but also its end. Thank the interlocutor for the meeting, exchange contact information. After a while, gently remind yourself.
6. Be yourself
Let's be honest: no matter how hard you try, you can't control what people think of you. Be natural and don't try to be the witty soul of the company if you are a silent person prone to self-reflection by nature.
Sounds like a cliché, but it's true: be yourself because everyone else is already taken!
