They say that unrequited love can haunt a person all his life. And it's not that she's stronger and brighter. When feelings do not live up to expectations, there is a feeling of loss and an unfulfilled dream. A person who does not reciprocate is presented as an ideal and wrapped in a romantic haze. And an unrequited feeling absorbs mental strength and time, making it difficult to build new relationships. We need to get rid of this ballast.
Psychological tricks to help you forget a person who is indifferent to you
- Analyze what is happening. Consider if this is really love. Perhaps it would be more accurate to call the feeling of painful addiction? There is such a concept in psychology - "a person-drug". It simultaneously attracts and repels with its coldness.
Love is a beautiful and creative feeling. And what kind of positive to talk about if time passes in melancholy and hopelessness, if you cry into your pillow and the future appears in gloomy colors? Decide what you want - to continue torturing yourself or to do everything to get the person out of your head. Remember, the main thing in psychological recovery is the desire of the patient himself;
- Take a sheet of paper and divide it into two columns. In one write the good that the person brought, in the other - the bad. It is not necessary to evaluate the man himself, and even more so to look for flaws. Evaluate only his attitude. Count the pros and cons;
- Don't blame yourself or him for what didn't work out. Life is multifaceted, remember, you probably fell in love with you, but you did not reciprocate. The person is not to blame for the lack of love. It just happened. Accept this given;
- Mentally put a wall between yourself and your loved one. Say that now you are on different sides, each has its own path. Set yourself up for a happy future. It is not necessary to set specific plans, just try to believe that everything will be fine and you will meet your “own” person.
Practical Tips
1. Try to minimize memories
Delete or at least hide shared photos away. Give gifts, sell them, throw them away or put them in a drawer until you can look at them calmly.
Do not go to places where you have been together. Don't listen to music or watch movies you've enjoyed together;
2. Do your best not to bump into the person
If there are mutual acquaintances, warn them about the situation. If communication cannot be avoided (for example, you work together), communicate briefly and to the point;
3. Plan your day to keep you busy
When a person is passionate about something, there is no time for empty worries. Every evening, set a clear plan for what you will do tomorrow and load the day to the maximum;
4. Make time for looks
Update your wardrobe, get a new hairstyle, sign up for a fitness class, visit a stylist - in a word, do something that can raise self-esteem and improve your mood;
5. Communicate more
If you sit within four walls, permanent memories are inevitable. Relax, meet family, friends. Go to visit more often, attend interesting events. This will help you take your mind off the sad thoughts. Increases the chances of meeting a new love;
6. Change your usual route
Try to break stereotypes. Get to work by a different route, order new dishes in a cafe, visit new places. The site portal recommends looking for a new hobby, doing extreme things - for example, skydiving, participating in motorcycle races or learning to dive. Great if you can go on a trip. The task is to fill life with emotions that will leave no room for sadness;
7. Go in for sports
Physical fatigue is a great way to distract yourself. A beautiful, trained body will be a nice bonus;
8. Help others
This is a well-known method - if it's bad, find someone who is much worse and help him. Everything is known in comparison - when faced with a person who really has misfortune, their experiences will seem small and insignificant. The desire to help must be sincere. You can become a volunteer, help people and animals. Or simply support your relatives and friends with deeds and kind words;
9. Alcohol, drugs are not an option
They will not solve the problem, but the desire to “take a little to calm down and forget” will lead to the rapid formation of dependence and, as a result, to terrible consequences;
10. Speak out
It’s good if you have a friend who will patiently listen, even without giving advice. If there is no one to cry to, start a diary and say your thoughts there. It will get easier. As we meditate, we let go of the past;
11. Don't be quick to start a new relationship.
There is a saying "a wedge is knocked out with a wedge." Sometimes the tactic works. But more often a person is disappointed because of unfulfilled expectations. In the new partner, they try to find the features of the old one, adjust the person to the desired image. Or, even worse, vent anger and resentment on him. Calm down, come to your senses.
Consider that there are billions of people on earth. And most of them experienced what you are experiencing now. Time heals, many of these people have found their love and are happy. Trust that everything will turn out great. Love to you and peace of mind!
