Since the spouses spend a lot of time together, they get to know each other so well that there is nothing to surprise. This needs to be corrected. A strange trend has appeared: as soon as the honey-sweet period of marriage passes, a woman at home ceases to take care of herself. This is justified simply: "let him love me for who I am." This is true, only there is one “but” - a man loves with his eyes.
To light the old light in the eyes of your spouse, you must always look good. And at home as well. No need to give preference to old things as home clothes. Let it be simple, but a sarafan, for example. No baggy clothes - let your spouse admire those charms of yours that he got. In general, from the very beginning of your life together, make a rule for yourself - to look good at home. You don't have to be makeup perfect. But clean hair, nails and teeth are the golden rule. Never let yourself go no matter what happens. This fuels the interest of a man for a long time.
At the same time, do not forget that all your cosmetic procedures and other intimate matters should remain secret from your husband for as long as possible. To interest him again, you need to look chic, but not show exactly how you do it. No masks in the evenings in front of your spouse - there is a bathroom for this, as well as for other women's procedures. At least something should remain a mystery to a man. And save you from stories about childbirth (your own or someone else's). Not every man likes such a conversation. Keep these impressions to yourself. As well as about some operations or other medical interventions. The average male, not working as a doctor, does not like such stories.
Cook your husband his favorite meals, even if you hate them. At least a couple of times a week. This will show how well you know him and appreciate his tastes. At the same time, do not forget that cooking should not take up all your free time. Do not make food a cult, let it become just a pleasant addition to family life, nothing more. Try to surprise with your culinary creations, and not cook once and for the whole week. This is not only harmful to the stomach, but also bothers you quickly.
Try to surprise not only in the culinary field, but also in intimate life. This is an important aspect. Perhaps even more important than all the others. To make your husband fall in love with you again, pay attention to your sex life. Try something new, diversify your joint in bed. And of course, do not refuse sex for various unreasonable reasons.
Don't forget to surprise your husband
In the end, to make a starting point for a new stage in family life, you can change the situation. For example, if there are always children or other relatives at home who do not set you in the right sexual mood, then just rent a hotel room, arrange romance. The best option is to go on a joint vacation. Even to the country house or camping for the weekend. This will help not only to liberate, but also to get closer even more.
What Not to Do
Under no circumstances should you argue with your husband. During the time that you lived together, most likely, there were already a lot of quarrels. Keep them to a minimum. To a large extent it depends on the woman. There are situations in which you can remain silent, laugh it off or ignore it altogether. This will also be a pleasant surprise for a guilty husband who is subconsciously waiting for a scandal and is already tuned in to it.
Even if everything in family life did not go too smoothly, this is not a reason to take a step to the left. This applies to both parties. So that the husband does not even have the temptation to start an intrigue on the side, change your behavior. Be softer, more feminine, easier to communicate. Remember how you were at the beginning of the relationship, how your spouse fell in love with you. Try to regain that attitude towards life.
Never be offended for no reason. And even if there is a reason in your opinion, do not be offended either. During the period when you are trying to return the former passion - it only spoils everything. If your interests do not coincide in some way, this is not a reason to be offendedly silent and pout in the corners. Just avoid conflicts on these topics. After all, everyone has different tastes.
Do not blackmail your husband with sex or food. This will not bring anything new to the relationship, except for insults and quarrels. Delicious lunch and dinner, clean clothes and bedding, good sex, not through force - the key to strong family relationships, no matter what happens in the house. The same applies to the order in the house. It is a direct women's duty to preserve the family hearth, do not neglect your duties, even if you are very tired at work.
To make your husband fall in love with you again, pay attention to him. You can’t change a family evening (even at the TV) for your own interests. Even if you really want to chat with a friend, go somewhere alone or surf the Internet. Your husband needs your attention, even if it's silent, even if he doesn't talk about it. Just watch a movie together, lie on the couch or play some interesting game that both of you love.
Do not neglect such an aspect as communication. Be interested in the affairs of your husband, listen carefully to everything that is important for him to tell. In turn, also talk about how your day went. But do not forget that dialogue is a conversation between two, do not turn it into a monologue. Otherwise, it will, firstly, quickly get tired of the spouse. Secondly, it will show that you are only interested in what is happening with you. Third, it's just not polite.
Communication between spouses is an important aspect of family life
Do not poke your husband in his shortcomings and bad habits. Most likely, he always had them, you saw them and took a man already like that, it is difficult to remake him. Do not give yourself or him unnecessary problems with endless itching on the topic: “what kind of person are you?”, “why do you always do this and not that” and others. If bad habits appeared already during family life, then you are partly to blame for this. Then it is also impossible to blame only one man. And there is no need to correct it with endless conversations about how it has deteriorated either. Choose soft tactics - affection and care. This can move mountains, not like weaning a husband from smoking, for example, or throwing things around the room.
Never scold a man for what you allow yourself. For example, for having it in bed, if you yourself don’t mind having something delicious to eat in front of the TV from time to time. This will only lead to a new round of quarrels and insults. And your goal is to make your husband fall in love. Act on the contrary - he likes to have dinner in bed after work - bring him dinner in bed. First, it will surprise him. Secondly, it will please you. Thirdly, you show care and attention. This will once again convince your man that your feelings for him have not cooled down over the years, but have remained at the same level.
Try not to blame your husband for small things
How to bring back the old passion
If your husband openly told you that he was tired of family life with you, then find the strength in yourself to calmly and discuss your mistakes with him point by point. Treat criticism from his side as calmly as possible. And then analyze for yourself whether you want to change and return the love of your spouse. If you have the desire and strength, then set a time period during which you will try to start everything from scratch.
First of all, work on the mistakes in yourself that do not suit your spouse. And only then go to other female tricks to fall in love with your husband again. For example, start giving him little surprises. It doesn't have to be something big. Let it be notes with words of love or with your memories. Where to hide them is up to you. Only you need to do this all the same at home, and not in the pockets of his jacket or trousers. It is possible that at work this will only distract him or put him in an uncomfortable light in front of colleagues.
Warm up his interest by sending intimate SMS messages. But only at a time when you know that he is really not very busy. For example, at lunchtime or in the evening, when he is already heading home. You can talk about what you would like him to do with you. Flirt with your man. This will remind him of that very romantic period when your relationship was just in its infancy.
Invite your husband to a romantic dinner. Let him be at home. It is important to remove all distracting elements away. This applies to animals, relatives and even children. The latter can be for one or two nights and to attach to the grandmother. Remind your husband how passionate and delightful you can be. And in order to set your spouse in the right mood, you can also use small tricks - perfumes with pheromones, dishes with aphrodisiacs, sexy outfit. Not vulgar and vulgar, but with a hint of light erotica.
A romantic dinner is relevant even after many years of marriage
Why is it necessary to start with the bed to restore relationships? Because exactly what happens in it is most often an indicator for a man. Passionate and ardent sex is a guarantee of feelings for the stronger sex. But sluggish and routine - a duty and nothing more. Don't turn your most powerful weapon into a routine.
And most importantly, don't be overly pushy. Men do not like this, in any form. If you were refused something (even if it was a romantic dinner that you so diligently prepared), find the strength to accept it calmly. Perhaps the spouse was in trouble at work or had other plans initially. Just quickly reclassify a romantic dinner as a regular one, without any reproach. Show concern and casually ask why the rejection was given.
Observe the measure. Being not too persistent does not mean that you need to be indifferent. This will once again convince the husband that the relationship has exhausted itself. Show interest, but not aggressive. And God forbid you from checking your spouse. Never and under no circumstances. First, if he wants to hide something, he will hide it anyway. Secondly, appreciate yourself and your choice. If your man is guilty of something, then he will find the strength in himself (albeit with time) to admit it.
To bring back the past passion in a relationship, often remember what happened between you during your brightest period. Why is it useful? First, it refreshes the memory. Secondly, some nostalgia for the old times pushes, at times, to interesting deeds. Both you and your spouse. Third, it's just fun. And family life should not be a duty, it should also bring joy. Fourth, it is a good topic for dialogue.
Add some fun to your relationship
What to do so that a husband always loves
Treat your man like a man! Do not try to control him in everything and keep him on a short leash. First, nobody likes it. You wouldn't like it either. Secondly, no one likes henpecked people. You yourself want to have a Man next to you, with a capital letter, and not a weak-willed creature.
Finance. Yes, yes, the very stumbling block for many families. If your spouse gives you all the money he earns, then be kind enough to be interested in his opinion on how best to spend it. At least draw up an approximate spending plan for the current month.
Never lie. Even in such typically feminine things as the cost of a new acquisition. Either save, or have the courage to admit how much you spent. Don't lie about the details - it's low. And there is nothing to say about major circumstances. If you have made a choice in favor of a particular man, then be honest with him.
Expand your horizons. Don't live on the scale of just work and your home. Go out for a walk together. And it should not be a trip to the store or on business, but just a joint walk in the park, for example. If there is a dog in the house, then make yourself a good family tradition - walk it together in the evening. Always and in any weather. This is another reason to spend time together, talk or even be silent. But together.
Come up with a family tradition! If it has not yet been started during their life together. And agree in advance to abide by it, by all means. For example, spending the weekend together in nature. And good for your health, and for relationships. In bad weather, you can spend the weekend in entertainment places - cafes, cinemas, theaters, museums and others. If only your interests coincided here.
Find a common hobby. For example, sign up for a pool or fitness class together. If your man is not a big fan of such outdoor activities, then look for compromises. For example, video games. Find a common interest that will unite you once again. If your spouse likes to destroy monsters in his spare time, you will learn too. Together it is more fun, and there will be something to talk about later.
For your husband to always love you, love yourself too. But just know the measure. Narcissists are not very likable. If your self-esteem is incredibly low, work on yourself. A man loves a woman who loves herself. Or at least skillfully disguises his complexes. Do not moan daily that something is wrong with you. Perhaps your spouse does not notice this at all, but from the constant mention, he will begin to pay attention to your shortcomings. And in general, he will say frankly, no one likes eternally dissatisfied people.
And most importantly, love your husband! Men are not so callous as it seems at first glance. They perfectly feel everything that happens. And if you sincerely love him and try to be number one for him in life, he will see and appreciate it.
To fall in love with a husband again and for life, you just need to love him. Is always. Even when you are tired, there is no energy to talk or anything more. Just snuggle up to him, hug and kiss. This will be enough to show that you are still the same woman that he loved so much earlier. Be together in any circumstances, taking the side of your man, supporting him. This is also very valuable for him. Even if he is wrong. Be his support, appreciate and love. This is enough for harmony in the family.
Marriage usually goes through several stages. The dynamics of the development of relationships in different couples is not the same, but has a number of common trends. Romance, love, passion fall, according to research, in the first 3-4 years of marriage.
And if you ask spouses who have created a family for more than ten years about what holds their relationship together, then most of the answers will be: “habit, mutual understanding, friendship, joint children.” These are quite natural characteristics of the development of marriage.
And only a few answer that, despite a long life together, domestic problems, observing traditions, they feel love, interest, sexual desire for each other. How do they do it? Many women, after several years of marital relations, ask themselves the question: how to fall in love with a husband, how to fill life together again with vivid impressions and passion?
What is the reason for falling in love with a husband again
- Relations between the spouses have cooled, there is no romance and warmth in them.
- Immersion in everyday problems, because of which less attention is shown in relation to each other.
- Sexual dissatisfaction. Intimate life has lost its former passion.
- Communication on the part of the spouse has become formal, detached, he shows indifference.
- Quarrels, conflicts have become more frequent, you feel that mutual understanding with a man is severely violated.
- If there were betrayals on the part of your husband, and you want to save the relationship and breathe new life into them.
- If the husband did not love you initially, and you set yourself the task of awakening feelings in him.
Reasons why a man's feelings could cool
- You pay less attention to him, don't care about him.
- You stopped monitoring your appearance, you don’t update your wardrobe, you don’t wear spectacular things.
- You are constantly busy (household chores, work).
- Do not spend leisure time with him.
- Stop surprising your man, especially in bed.
- Sexual contacts have become very rare and more formal, they lack sensuality and variety.
- You have become too demanding of your husband, putting pressure on him.
A man still loves with his eyes, so his eyes should fall on a well-groomed, attractive, elegant woman. Be like that. Even at home. It's not about putting on a stunning new dress every day and applying mind-blowing makeup. It is enough just to make a neat hairstyle, manicure, wear clothes that emphasize the figure. This way you will even like yourself more.
Try to be more confident and treat yourself well. Before you force your husband to have strong feelings for you, love yourself.
The way to the heart of a man with the help of delicious food has not been canceled either. Try to pamper your betrothed with various culinary delights more often. At least a couple of times a week, cook his favorite dishes or something new. And on the weekend you can arrange a whole dinner of different goodies. Your husband will not remain indifferent!
Do not expect a manifestation of romance from your spouse, create it yourself. Invite your husband to go to a cafe, take a walk in the park, write SMS messages with interesting text and confessions, make gifts, organize romantic evenings at home. Give him kisses, hug him more often, because physical intimacy helps to revive feelings.
Be liberated in sexual relations, do not be afraid to experiment, take the initiative.
Most men love it when a woman is relaxed in bed. Feel free to ask your husband to give you a massage, say that you love his strong and soft hands very much. 
Show more attention and care towards your husband. Listen to him, provide support, ask how he is doing at work and how was the day when your loved one returns home.
If you see that he is tired, give him a massage, invite him to relax while watching a movie together or just sleep. Care and attention towards each other is the basis of a trusting relationship. And if there is trust and sincerity, then returning love is much easier.
Try to praise your husband more often, recognize his virtues and successes. It just so happened that a man wants to be a conqueror and a champion, he longs for victories and recognition. And it is better if he receives this recognition at home, from his wife, and not somewhere on the side.
It is necessary to notice and appreciate even his small achievements, because he could make a lot of efforts to achieve them.
Pay attention to whether you are asking too much of him. Let your husband rest both physically and mentally. If you see that some household duties are a burden to him, try at least sometimes to free your loved one from them.
The psychology of successful relationships is often expressed in a simple principle: if you want to get something from your lover, you must first give him something.
Therefore, it makes no sense to offendedly declare to your spouse that he does not love you and that you suffer from this. In order to fall in love with your husband again, you need to apply female cunning and begin to change the existing situation yourself.
Take care of the comfort and cleanliness in the house so that the husband always wants to return there. Still, maintaining the warmth of the hearth is the task of a woman from time immemorial. Therefore, in no case do not leave household duties.
A man always wants to see you “a little at home”, so that you take care of not only yourself, but also the order in the house, and also take care of all family members.
Give your spouse positive emotions, be cheerful. Men are repelled by overly serious women who are immersed in their problems and are in a depressed mood. And those who are smiling and positive, on the contrary, inspire them and can easily fall in love with themselves. If such a woman is next to a man, then he relaxes and is charged with positive emotions from her. Inspiring your betrothed, you yourself will feel like a muse.
More often, together with your husband, turn to pleasant memories from your common past, view joint photos and videos. This will allow you to relive the moments of joy that bind you and recharge with positive energy from the time when you were happy.
Spend more time together. It is important that you have common activities at home and outside of it. Plan a joint vacation somewhere outside the city, go on a picnic, visit some SPA hotel. 
Encourage your husband to sign up for a gym and attend workouts together. There he will be able to see you from a different angle: fit and working on your figure.
Joint dance classes in a special studio will also breathe new emotions and passion into your relationship. Elegance and grace, which you can show at the same time, are unlikely to leave him indifferent.
Invite your husband to a photo session. You can go alone or with your kids. The photographer and the atmosphere in the studio help to get involved in romantic scenes, to feel physical closeness, to look into each other's eyes. The environment in which you find yourself can lead you to new interesting ideas and fantasies.
And do not forget to show that with all your confidence and endurance, you are still a fragile, sophisticated woman who needs care and attention. Femininity always attracts men, making them knights!
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Today the site site will discuss how to fall in love with your husband again. Unfortunately, temporary cooling in marriage is not such a rare occurrence. It happens that a few months or even years after the wedding, when you are still flying on the wings of love and trying to be close to your husband, you notice that he has become colder and more indifferent.
How then to return love and fall in love with him again?
Of course, often many begin to suspect the worst in a husband, but, oddly enough, usually the reason for this behavior lies in a much safer plane. A husband can simply get used to a new way of life with you and therefore begin to treat everything with indifference - why worry if everything suits him? Although this does not mean that his love has died away - he simply does not find a reason and reason to show it, because, due to education, men are much less prone to spontaneous manifestations of emotions. But, nevertheless, if you want feelings to flare up again, then for this we have collected the most effective tips on how to fall in love with your husband again.
Try to look attractive in his eyes
Most often, one of the problems of a long marriage is life. Naturally, any married man more often sees a tired wife in front of him after work and in home clothes, and not the airy beauty she was at the wedding. At the same time, many women, both before and after the wedding, willingly dress up "for going out."
Try to diversify the established home scheme and dress up especially for your husband - show him that you want to be beautiful not only for strangers, but also for him, and that it is important for you that he also falls in love with you and looks with admiration.
Praise your husband often
Try to show attention to him, his affairs and hobbies. Of course, before marriage and in the first months after, you are in love and passionate about each other and listen with interest to everything you want to tell each other, be it funny stories from childhood. Over time, communication with each other has become boring, and many couples who have already lived together for some time react to the partner’s stories with an indistinct hum.
So, if your husband is too cold and indifferent to you, you should not be offended and withdraw into yourself - this will only aggravate the situation, while a couple of questions about what he is currently doing or interested in can easily defuse the family atmosphere and make it stronger fall in love with your husband. In addition, you can discover something new for yourself - it will never be superfluous to listen to your man with interest.
Take a break from the rest of the family
This advice can be successfully combined with the previous one: if there is an opportunity and desire to revive the relationship and make your husband fall in love with you again, then the website will tell you how to do this.
So, choose the day that you can spend on yourself and your husband. On this day, it is worth sending children, for example, to grandparents and agreeing with them that they will not bother you, unless some unforeseen trouble happens (everything happens in life, and no one is immune from this).
But, nevertheless, in most cases everything goes well and you can spend such a day on your favorite activities with your husband that will help him fall in love with you: remember, for example, where you walked and what films you watched before the wedding and try to refresh these memories .
Each couple probably has “their own” places and things with which the brightest memories are associated, such as the first kiss or marriage proposal - let the husband remember them. Indeed, after some time from the beginning of the marriage, he could learn to perceive it as a routine in the “work-home-work” cycle. Show him that the love with which you married has not gone away, and you can still be for him the same attractive and cheerful girl as the one he married and fell in love with.
In addition, it would be useful to end such a pleasant day in bed ... However, the next piece of advice will be about this.
Invite him to make a difference
After a few years of marriage, lovemaking can also become somewhat boring and turn into a marital duty, which is given hastily and without much pleasure - this is confirmed by both psychologists and ordinary life observations. This usually happens because both the husband and wife are too busy with daytime activities, work, children, and so on - here in the evenings you only want to go to bed quickly, and not play seducers!
But, if before that you had a good day dedicated to each other, and not to everyday worries, then the idea of \u200b\u200bmaking love may turn out to be much more interesting and enjoyable than you are used to - maybe in some ways you will even rediscover your spouse. And it will be easier to fall in love with him again in bed ... In addition, do not be shy to ask your husband what he wants - it is quite possible that you actually agree in your desires in bed, but you did not know this before. 
Don't let the daily grind intensify
When you think about what to do so that your husband looks at you again as the most beloved woman in his life, do not forget that in order to fall in love with him for a long time, vivid impressions need to be constantly refreshed. So, if you have the opportunity to spend time together, do not lock yourself in places and situations familiar to both of you.
For example, if you are used to presenting your significant other with a romantic candlelight dinner as a romantic gesture, try something new - for example, have a romantic morning picnic in the park with sandwiches or get up before sunrise to watch the sunrise from the most picturesque corner of your city. In fact, it doesn’t even matter what exactly you come up with - new impressions that will refresh your husband’s look and impressions of marriage with you mean much more.
Using the above tips, you will surely quickly and easily find out for yourself how easy it is to make your husband fall in love with you, enjoying it. Remember that every family is different, and feel free to adjust them and find the right ones for your husband. But, no matter what advice you use, remember that in order to return love and understanding to your family and marriage, you also need to demonstrate your feelings - sometimes one kiss can say much more than the most romantic dinner with candles.
The article has been reviewed and approved by a psychologist. Gryzlova Olga Yurievna, special psychologist, 15 years of experience. .
Any couple can face a fairly common problem - the fading of feelings and fatigue from each other. In the language of psychologists, this is called a period of cooling to each other. This happens under the influence of various factors - routine everyday duties, difficulties at work, difficulties with children.
All this affects the relationship of spouses, passion leaves them, and they are less and less attracted to each other. Of course, the representatives of the weaker sex are the first to sound the alarm: how to make your husband fall in love with you again? The advice of a psychologist will help to understand the causes of the situation and suggest the right solution in order to correct it.
Psychologists explain this with a number of reasons, and if you know them, you can avoid many problems, including the onset of a crisis in marital relations. The main factors, according to psychologists, leading to the fading of feelings within a married couple:
- After getting married, many women decide that the maximum program has been completed: I love my husband, and now you can relax, as a result of which they stop taking care of themselves, quickly turning into grown-up, unkempt clowns, forgetting that husbands go to work every day and they see beautiful, slender girls around them, who are far from indifferent to how they look in the eyes of others. Such a striking contrast is impossible not to notice, and, most importantly, it is often not in favor of the spouse. The husband begins to move away from the previously beloved, always beautiful looking second half.
- Dreaming of getting the status of a married lady, not all young people clearly imagine what awaits them after the wedding. Few receive the necessary housekeeping skills by learning from their mothers. Often, a newly-made spouse simply does not know how to cook. Any man will strive to a house where appetizing smells always hover and delicious and hearty dishes are on the table. If this does not happen, moreover, repeating with enviable regularity from day to day, you should not pin your hopes on a long and happy life together. And do not be surprised at the chill that has appeared in relations between spouses. No wonder there is a saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach!"
- In the first years of marriage, in terms of intimacy in the family, there are no problems. But over time, sex becomes habitual: the same standard positions, there is no passion that was before. Attraction goes away, the charm of novelty is lost, it seems to the spouses that they know each other inside and out, which is why the desire to fulfill marital duty disappears. After all, everything is known in advance, sex is no longer so bright and is perceived as a duty, leaving both spouses dissatisfied and disappointed with intimacy.
- The birth of a child can also provoke a crack in the previous relationship of the spouses. A man lacks the former care and attention from his beloved wife. And she simply physically cannot be the same as before, when a little man is in her care around the clock, not yet adapted to this life and requiring constant supervision and care. Sleepless nights, a crying child because his tummy hurts or his teeth are climbing - the incessant groundhog day of a young mother does not contribute to a romantic mood and acrobatic somersaults in the matrimonial bed. And not all males can endure such a rather long time.
Problems at work are also a common cause of chills between husband and wife. Often a situation occurs when troubles and difficulties in the professional sphere of one of the spouses begin to prevail, relegating personal life to the background.
This state of affairs is only to the detriment of marital relations.
How to love again
It has been noticed that over time, in married couples, love develops into a habit, passion fades, and it seems that nothing can be fixed.
There can be at least three scenarios for the development of events, namely:
- come to terms with the current situation and continue to live together in fact as neighbors;
- file for divorce;
- try to fix everything for the better by giving a second chance to your love.
Interpersonal relationship specialists and family psychologists are sure that it is worth trying to revive feelings if the partner remains close and dear, even if the matter is close to divorce. Otherwise, it will be easier and better for both to part, otherwise in the future life together will turn into a painful and painful union. Listening to the advice of psychologists, as well as following the dictates of the heart and natural intuition, a woman will always find ways to preserve the family hearth.
Having understood the causes of irritation and alienation in relation to the spouse, you can begin to take active steps to change the unhealthy situation in the family.
So, what will help revive the faded feelings for her husband:
- Resurrect in memory the first date with her husband, remember what crazy things he did for the sake of love. It's a great idea to share family albums with photos from that time with your spouse. This will make it possible to understand how dear the person sitting next to you is, that love has not disappeared, it has always been in the heart. Just behind the daily routine, all those wonderful moments of falling in love were forgotten, entailing an incomprehensible expectation of something unknown, but at the same time beautiful ...
- Stop comparing your partner with other members of the stronger sex, thinking that they are more successful, sexy and attractive in appearance than your spouse. In fact, strange men also have a bunch of problems, shortcomings and complexes that are not visible to others at first sight. It is better to adopt the simple advice of psychologists - to praise and encourage your loved one more often, instilling in him self-confidence and raising his self-esteem.
- Refresh his wardrobe, adding stylish things and accessories, so that the spouse begins to look like a youthful, interesting man, to some extent even an unfamiliar gentleman. And then, looking at him with different eyes, ask yourself the question: would you like to attract the attention of this handsome man with all the ensuing consequences? Often this technique works and turns out to be very effective in helping to fall in love with your husband again.
In the arsenal of every woman, and even more so a wise one, there are many different effective ways to revive the extinguished passion for her husband in her heart. The main thing is to understand whether this will not be a one-sided game, when everything is already lost, and no efforts can return the former passion to the relationship.
How to interest a husband and make him fall in love with you
Noticing the indifference and coldness on the part of her husband, a smart woman will try with all her might to correct the situation and return former love, tenderness, affection to the family.
Psychologists have some really “working” tools to help restore marital relationships. These include:
- Disabling the so-called autopilot mode, in which the spouses were for a long time, which, in principle, provoked the situation in the family.
- First of all, love yourself, start taking care of your appearance, pull yourself up, cheer up, go in for sports, experiment with different styles of clothing. Any man wants to see a woman next to him, charming and in love with him, because her appearance amuses the pride of a man, gives him every right to be proud of such a life partner. The results will not be long in coming. The light that appears in the eyes of the husband will tell you that the right path has been chosen. But it's too early to stop there.
- Add variety to the intimate sphere of communication. For many years, the spouses have thoroughly studied each other's addictions, and intimacy no longer brings the former satisfaction that takes both up. Taking the initiative in your own hands, embody the erotic fantasies and desires of your husband, making your sex life more vibrant and rich.
- To leave together for at least a few days away from their native penates, in order to be alone with each other, disconnecting from everyday worries and problems. A change in the environment very often helps to look at your other half with different eyes, reload relationships with fresh impressions and emotions from communicating with a close and dear person.
- Do not sort things out in a raised tone, rewarding the opponent with derogatory and offensive epithets. Even if there is an early reconciliation, the sediment will remain for life. With regular repeated scandals, these splinters in the heart will only aggravate the situation of family discord. It is better to learn how to resolve disputes that arise quietly and peacefully, showing patience and respecting the position of the other person.
- There is an opportunity to go on a small romantic trip together - excellent. No - arrange a holiday of body and soul right at home. Go to the salon, get your hair done, buy beautiful lingerie, cook a delicious dinner - and spend the evening by candlelight, getting to know each other again and returning love and tenderness to the relationship.
Oddly enough, but recently, more and more often the responsibility for the family is shifted onto fragile women's shoulders. Most likely, this is due to the fact that women have equal rights with the representatives of the stronger sex and now take part in all spheres of public life on an equal basis with men.
After several years of marriage, romantic dates, kisses and hugs, as a rule, are replaced by a habit. How to return the “taste” of relationships and help your husband see you again as an attractive woman, AiF.ru told psychologist Elena Tsedova.
1. Praise the man
Learn to express gratitude to your spouse. Any man wants recognition from his woman, wants to hear: “What a fine fellow you are. I'm proud of you!". No need to compare it to others. A loved one should read the information every day that you have chosen the best man in the world - him.
The wife is simply obliged to give such emotional nourishment, then she will receive attention in return. The exchange of energies and feelings begins with us, dear women. When a wife does not give her husband joy, happiness, delight, he automatically stops giving her emotions in return. Once and for all, remember that the primary source is a woman. If you want to have gifts, flowers, kisses, hugs - pay attention to a man. Never lower the degree of importance of your chosen one.
2. Remember the past
A thing called “ours” helps to restore past emotions. All people who have been married for a certain amount of time necessarily have something “ours”: our restaurant, our film, etc. “Ours” are moments that unite spouses and which only two know about. The more you remember such things (visit), the better. I just ask you not to confuse “ours” with the first store where you walked together for 8 hours in search of wallpaper. You need to remember the pleasant things that gave you good emotions. You drive past the stop under which you once stood and kissed in your youth, remind your husband about this: "Do you remember ...". At this moment, memories may arise in a man, how good he was then, and he will transfer them to real life.
In the evening, you can watch some movie from the category of “ours” and smoothly translate it into such a pleasant emotion in sex. For many couples, intimacy becomes a marital duty. It is not right. It's good when intimacy happens on an emotional upsurge. But definitely don't overdo it and use "your movies and places" tricks every day for good sex.
3. Take care of yourself
It is no secret that the appearance of his companion is very important for a man. Looking at her, he understands how a woman treats him. Often wives (especially those with many years of experience) walk around the house in some kind of stretched things, terrible dressing gowns, etc. But, when the same woman needs to go out, she chooses a wardrobe, does her hair and preens for half a day. A man understands this situation in his own way: for me, she puts on a stretched T-shirt, and for someone else, she dresses like a beauty queen.
Regarding home clothes, there are two simple rules. First: you can look sexy at home (short robes, light T-shirts and shorts) if the couple lives together and the situation allows. Second: the clothes should be such that right now (purely hypothetically) you can go outside in it, and you would not be ashamed. No one says that you need to walk around the apartment with makeup, with styling and in a dress with a train. No, you just have to look nice and neat. No need to wind any “muzzle” of dirty hair on your head. Make a braid, a tail. You need to make it clear to your man that you are watching yourself and doing this for him.Speaking about the appearance, of course, one cannot but mention the weight of a woman, which often begins to grow immediately after the wedding. It has been proven that men do not see excess weight if it does not exceed 7 kilograms. If the number is higher, then the husband will notice your new (not always appetizing) forms. From the fact that you will pull leopard underwear over your 90-kilogram body, nothing will change. You will not become attractive to your loved one. So take care of yourself. And in no case should you speak and even think in the vein: “Yes, I weigh 200 kilograms, but my husband weighs even more.” You need to start with yourself, and there, you see, the spouse will catch up.
4. Take a break from children and relatives
It is necessary to take a break from children, close relatives, pets, etc. It is simply impossible to fall in love with a wife anew against the backdrop of a large family. People should spend time together and communicate on topics that concern the two of them, without affecting everything in the world.
And you also need to be able to properly relax from each other! There is such a thing - "30 minutes of silence." My husband came, he was tired, did not want to talk. You don't have to touch him. When a man is under stress, he is silent, unlike a woman, he first needs to think. Leave him alone. You can also do your own business in different rooms. Such a rest is also needed, because people get tired of each other.
5. Take the initiative
Many men think they are loved when they have sex with them. Moreover, in the case when a woman herself calls her husband for intimacy, she takes the initiative. For representatives of the stronger sex, this is very important. And then draw your own conclusions...
6. Separate for a while
Parting for a while is a very dangerous thing, although in some cases it is effective, because it is at this moment that a man may (or may not) realize that his wife is really important to him. You should not take such a step at the time of the complete collapse of the relationship, because the man survives a week, and on the second he will understand how good he is without you. And that means only one thing - divorce. If the wife constantly forbids everything to her beloved person, then he will be very happy alone: he wanted to - he drank beer with friends, watched football, etc. And you can always order food, so he will not grieve for a long time. Parting for a while will play a cruel joke on you if there is at least a grain of doubt that your husband will be better off without you than with you.
7. Go to a new place
Oddly enough, joint rest helps to renew relations, and not separate, as many experts advise. The brain of a man is so arranged that in another territory he wants his woman much more than in the usual environment. At the same time, it is better to spend a joint vacation not at your favorite dacha (place, hotel). It is better to change the country, the hotel - everything is drastic! It excites the man.
Another important nuance. The new environment will be useful only if you yourself relax and let your man do it. Holidays should be spent in an atmosphere of absolute relaxation. No need to discuss children, problems, work and other "pleasant" topics. And after returning home, it is better from the first day not to plunge into “all the hard” everyday life, but to try to extend the pleasant aftertaste of the vacation.
In the paragraph about rest, I would like to note such a thing as the ability to leave the comfort zone, it can also be useful. Let's say you are used to going on vacation to five-star hotels, so it's time to think about hiking. There must be something that will "knock" you out of your usual life. You can choose kayaking or a trip to the mountains, overcoming difficulties together unites people even more.
8. Fight everyday life
Change the concept of dating. Have you been dining by candlelight for ten years? Say goodbye to this habit. For example, prepare sandwiches and go on a picnic in the forest in the morning, change a romantic dinner for a romantic breakfast. What does not excite you, does not give new emotions - you need to change!
