And the remaining 10% are hiding it. Is there some truth in this joke? We asked fans of puffy ladies to respond on men's forums. It turned out that there are really a lot of them! Here's what they say.
Alexander, 27 years old:
I don’t understand people who don’t like donuts. And do not say that they are loose. Do you like Monica Bellucci? And she is by no means skinny. Have you seen her photo shoots? Where is the looseness? I am for feminine forms without friability and cellulite. There are such fat women, which is just a feast for the eyes. But everything should be in moderation.
Evgeniy, 18 years old:
And where did the opinion come from that if a woman is shaped, then she must be with cellulite and very oily. For some reason, we have such an opinion, but I see young ladies around me every day in the body, who are never loose - and at the same time with muscles, with smooth skin, it looks very cute, in my opinion. The issue of looseness is a matter of nutrition (ratio of products), cellulite also occurs in thin women. And a woman simply must have big breasts and a butt. And I also noticed that overweight ladies always look younger with a face, and they have fewer wrinkles on their faces. So if a woman is not ashamed of her weight, then I think that as a life companion she is very suitable.
Kirill, 34 years old:
In my opinion, there are different types of fullness, and I treat curvy women differently. There are full-curvy ones - it is very beautiful and sexy, and there are square-aunt-no-curves. They have everything big and square. Everyone has different tastes.
I like curvy women more than skinny women. But the main thing is that a plump and curvy woman does not become square.
Victor, 43 years old:
I think that a woman of size 50 - many consider this size to be already fat - very much even nothing. Better than size 40. I never fell for thin ones, they seem to me like teenagers, and their figures, as a rule, are teenage ones with undeveloped and very small breasts. Let it be better than size 50 than sleeping with a teenager.
Anatoly, 30 years old:
And it seems to me that everything depends on charm, on femininity. I have a friend, Rubens would be happy - always well-groomed, always with manicure-pedicure-epilation-fashionable haircut, dresses beautifully. And there are just a lot of men who admire her. She radiates sexuality, she is confident in herself ... And there are thin people who have longing, anger, dissatisfaction in their eyes ...
In general, it seems to me fat women more cheerful and bright, there is something exciting about them.
Artem, 40 years old:
Yes, we really do! Moreover, such "serious" donuts, not just one name. Well, there is 110 kg with a height of 155 cm - like my size. Well, I like it! I cannot explain this in any way, just as you cannot explain why it is customary for thin women to be considered the standard of beauty, and to stigmatize fat women.
Andrey, 29 years old:
It's hard to say why you don't like thin ones. Well, they don't. There is no attraction, some kind of spark. But the "donut" (not any, of course, but the one that you liked) is ready to "tear to pieces". In a good way, of course, to tear to pieces.
Alexander, 35 years old:
I don’t remember who wrote: “Men pretend to like thin women, dry wines, and a life of adventure. In fact, they love overweight women, sweet wines and a quiet life. "
I think many men like buns, remember our story: village women have always been in the body, ruddy and healthy, or rather hefty.
Maxim, 37 years old:
For some reason, they do not marry on models. For me personally, ideas about female beauty have been formed for a long time. Everything goes according to Freud, from youth. I really liked Fedoseyeva Shukshina ("Bench Stoves", "Red Kalina"). Here, after all, a lot depends not only on centimeters or kilograms - grace, gait. It happens that a villager walks - as if a swan is swimming. And you look at the "model" with a can of beer - hunting to puke.
Andrey, 28 years old:
Needless to say, it's sad that most men often forget that donuts are sometimes able to wipe the nose of even the most ponteous fashion model. Well, yes, a beautiful stylish figure, but what is in the soul, in the character?
Donuts are distinguished by the fact that they, unlike slender ones, know how to love truly, they are softer, kind, natural. Personally, I am drawn to fat women and plump women, but I just don't recognize all this thinness.
Alexander, 22 years old:
It seems to me that everyone has a different way, someone likes larger forms, someone is pleased, as they say, to “feel” a woman. It's just that when you hug a plump girl, she is so soft, pleasant. I want to eat it. Although my psychologist friend said that everything is simpler, it's just that overweight women have more pronounced sexual characteristics, and we, males, are attracted by this on a subconscious level.
I don’t know if this is so or not, but all the same I want to find a chubby girlfriend for myself, although they don’t choose love, they find love.
Alexey, 31 years old:
I like everything about overweight women! Well, just fat women are beautiful in themselves! Everything is beautiful with them: their breasts, tummy, and ass, and plump legs in stockings - wah! Sexy and exciting.
Stanislav, 20 years old:
Add to your love for crumpets. Let me add: the moral oppression of fatties makes you more adaptable. This means that they have not only a softer body, but also a character, it is easier to communicate with them and live with them.
Andrey, 42 years old:
BBWs are appetizing, sexy, cute, there is no better sex than them. As we say, a woman without a belly is like a house without a wardrobe.
Dmitry, 29 years old:
My ex-wife was 46 kg, and I always liked girls with a body, but he was young, stupid, shy. "What will friends say?" I myself am thin and not very tall. But what could be better than a soft warm little body? In winter it will warm, and in summer it will hide in the shade. Okay, this is a joke.
I really like tall, fat women with hips, tummy and divine breasts. Maybe someday I will find my happiness!
I have an amazing friend who is always striking with optimism. She is very funny, talented and beautiful. On the street, men turn to her, and the number of fans is always huge. But the most interesting thing is that its appearance is different from what we are used to seeing in glossy magazines.
My friend's name is Marina. And it weighs about 90 kg. Of course, she will not tell anyone the exact weight, but in appearance it is much more than modern fashionable models. But this does not spoil her at all, but gives a special charm. I have always wondered why the opposite sex loves her so much. We came up with this theme together with her.
What attracts thin men
Today's young people devote too much time to television. And he dictates his ideals of beauty. And anything that deviates from what the screen shows is considered uninteresting. These are imposed norms that are very difficult to resist. But surprisingly, most people do not meet these generally accepted standards.
But man is a social being. And if suddenly one decided that his general rules did not apply, then others can point a finger at him, and this is already the fear of being rejected by the environment. And although rarely someone can reproach for choosing a plump companion, many do not even try to make such a decision. Opinions change only with age, when experience comes and the understanding that the body is not the only thing that paints a person. And over the years it tends to change.
The woman is now less perceived as a mother. Today they are looking for a girl not for, but for a good pastime. When motherhood was appreciated, everyone understood that it was much easier for women with forms to bear and give birth to children. Earlier, rounded shapes were a symbol of health and beauty. It was by the pink cheeks that the state of a person was determined, and not by the protruding ribs. But after giving birth, many girls continue to "round", which quite often makes them more feminine.
Many men want to look more masculine. But not everyone has been endowed with an athletic physique. And next to a fragile girl, it is much easier to seem more impressive than next to a “fat woman”. The contrast is noticeable, the shoulders appear broader and the stature is taller. But this is the strangest way of self-affirmation you can think of.
Also scares off men. If a woman weighs more than 60 kg, she quite often feels uncomfortable, sometimes notorious. And, of course, a man doesn’t want to be close to someone who is not ready to be liberated and love his body. The modern stronger sex understands that it is more interesting to communicate with a cheerful, bright girl than with one who is constantly dieting, unhappy with her weight and denies herself in many ways.
Are fat girls really needed?
My friend's example suggests that chubby girls are very popular. It is only important to present yourself correctly. First, you should forget about complexes. Of course, it is difficult to immediately abandon what has been cultivated by public opinion for so long, but it is worth trying. And even if it doesn't quite work out, try not to talk about them among other people.
Men love those women who love themselves. You need to learn to take care of yourself. A good manicure, styled hair, heels attract the opposite sex. It's very easy to see if a woman loves herself - you just have to look at her wardrobe. If it is "gray", dull or monotonous, this indicates that the girl does not seek to please. It is worth diversifying the contents of the closet, buying new things, starting to pay more attention to yourself.
You can pick up things that not only hide excess weight, but also emphasize your dignity. For example, you can emphasize the bust or beautiful hips in the wardrobe. Clothes should highlight the best in the figure, fit perfectly. You should not get carried away with flashy tones, but brightness is welcome. Today, even many fashion houses make a collection for curvy women, so there can be no problems with clothes.
Self-love can be expressed in the way you take care of your skin, body, hair. Massage, relaxing baths, not only improve the appearance, but also relax, have a great effect on the moral mood. Any such procedures lift your spirits, which means they make the girl more noticeable.
Positive girls get paid attention more often. Only a relaxed, contented person can laugh, joke and have a great rest. Many dream of such a companion in order to forget about everyday life next to her and relax. And then a cheerful disposition comes first, and the figure remains in second. Many will prefer a cheerful fat woman to a sullen skinny one. But do not forget that excessive gaiety and promiscuity is not the best option, everything should be in moderation.
You need to monitor your appearance, no matter how much you weigh. Rounded shapes can be perfectly combined with toned skin. Stretch marks and cellulite can be removed. And also it is worth keeping the muscles in good shape. This does not mean that you need to work out in the gym around the clock, but it would be nice to do a set of exercises at least a couple of times a week. This is good for health and helps to avoid unpleasant shortness of breath.
And most importantly, in order to remain desirable, you need to be feminine. Of course, modern representatives of the fair sex can perfectly open the door and convey the products. Still, men want to be knights, do not deprive them of this opportunity. Let them solve problems, build houses, earn money. Let them see you not as a partner who can do everything himself, but as a muse who needs to be looked after and who can be helpless in trivial situations.
It turns out that you can become desirable in any weight category. I saw this on the example of a friend, wrote down all the advice and thought. Although I do not weigh much, the advice is excellent and suitable for any girl. And thanks to them, I revised my wardrobe, and for tomorrow I have already signed up for a salon - I will change my hairstyle and take care of myself.
A distant relative is crying: the wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her is crazy
I don't want a wife anymore - she turned into a fat, lazy cow
09:38 02 March 2018A distant relative is crying: his wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her enrages. She does not get divorced, because she keeps her, and she has invested a lot of material resources. And he does not know how to live with her, he has no strength to look at this domestic ruminant. She doesn't care about his claims, she knows she's not going anywhere.
What can I say to him? Tie your organ into a knot, if you don't want to, don't do it, they don't force you, get a mistress and all the business?
Nothing would hold me back in such a situation where there is no moral and physical satisfaction. Child? Who does not allow him to communicate with him after a divorce. But when he raised the issue of divorce, his passion was furious and called him a traitor.
Why change something? Everything suits her, after the decree she never went to work, hiding behind the fact that the baby is often sick, and they do not get out of the hospitals.
I quote the injured side - the husband:“Yes, I don’t mind her staying at home, only if it’s useful. It turned into a fat cow with greasy hair, scattered things around, a mess in the kitchen that I don’t want to go in, not what it is. How many times hinted that it would be nice to take care of her appearance, she has everything for this. But after that scandals began, then he would attribute my ex, then he would arrange scenes of jealousy for a colleague. Sheer madhouse. What a sex life, if I already turn away from it. "" "
Many go through cooling and there are enough reasons for this. But I do not at all understand women who, having married, turn into a kind of Freken Bock - a huge woman in an apron. They are willing to put a big fat end to their sexuality and attractiveness, simply because they are so comfortable and lazy.
It turns out that the traitor in this situation is not a husband at all, but a wife, who did not care what feelings the faithful felt when she saw her. Is not it?
Fatshaming is, in fact, bullying people who are overweight (or simply overweight): fat shamers constantly remind fat people of their weight, publicly accuse them of unwillingness to lose weight and openly insult them, calling them “fat bats”, “fat pigs” and “piles of fat” ". Moreover, the objects of ridicule and insults are most often women, not men. This is a serious problem. In the modern world, fat shaming has reached such proportions that in response, the Bodypositive movement emerged, the main goal of which is to encourage people to accept someone else's appearance as it is. But, alas, this idea has not yet found a response in our society. Let's figure out why.
"Fat is ugly, I don't want to look at it."
Not really. Fat is not ugly in and of itself; fat is considered ugly now. At the same time, everyone knows that this was not always the case: few people have not seen figurines of Paleolithic Venuses or reproductions of paintings by the High Renaissance masters. Our personal criteria for the beautiful and the ugly are not at all personal, they are based on society's notions of beauty, and a beautiful body has been a thin body for many decades. It was either just thin (from Twiggy to "heroin chic"), or athletic (from supermodels of the 90s to modern fitnyash), but it was not complete. But times are changing: plus size models began to appear on the catwalks, actresses with curvaceous forms began to be invited to the main roles, but society is still not ready to accept this. Why?
Because we began to confuse ideal pictures with real life. There is too much visual information around us - information that is not real, invented: pictures perfectly ironed in photo editors, films with special effects. We see beautiful things very often, so often that some have decided that they have the right not to see what they consider ugly. "Be fat, but don't show your photos to anyone, we hate to see that." And for some it is unpleasant to see fat people in tight or open clothes: "Fu, cover yourself." But why, exactly? Why not prohibit people with the wrong bite from talking and laughing? And let people with crooked or wide noses wear medical masks - thin straight noses are in fashion.
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But no, only being overweight is a reason to openly insult people and demand that they do not "stick out their fats." Because…
"Fatty are just lazy"
Lazy and weak-willed people, unable to "just pull themselves together and lose weight." Having ascribed sins of laziness and gluttony to people of great weight, society went further. Fat people are considered stupid and face discrimination in the fields of education and career: if you are not stupid, then why not figure out how to lose weight? Being overweight is also associated with poor hygiene: since a fat woman is too lazy to go to the gym, then she is probably too lazy to wash. Thus, society stigmatizes and stigmatizes people of great weight. And it seems to give an indulgence to the fat shamers: they do not just insult and humiliate people, they expose the "terrible" vices of fat men, which means that they are supposedly doing a good deed. Who, if not them, will point out to these brute brutes that they are living the wrong way?
And this problem is not only a problem of excess weight. This is a problem of a society that creates an artificial framework - so that there is a reason to kick those who do not fit into them. And women are the first candidates for a place outside the box. Because "a woman should." She must be beautiful, must take care of herself and her figure - first of all. Typical patriarchy, in which you cannot be a worthless product, otherwise you will become a pariah.
"Obesity is unhealthy, these people are sick!"
A frankly hypocritical statement: no one, except for the neophytes from a healthy lifestyle, condemns people who are not keen on physical education. Nobody worries about how often strangers do fluorography. No one wants to know how smokers and alcoholics harm their health - until they invade someone else's space with their stinking smoke and drunken brawls. No one is interested in how long the neighbor on the staircase took a blood test and in what condition his vessels and joints are. But for some reason, the vessels and joints of obese people are of interest to everyone. For what reason, it would seem? Everyone cares about their own health, who cares about someone else's hemorrhoids?
The matter is very simple: it is not a matter of health, it is a matter of power. Thin people are very fond of telling fat people exactly how they need to eat in order to lose weight, how to be treated in order to lose weight, how to move in order to lose weight. The very fact of being overweight in a fat person seems to turn any thin person into a strict teacher Maryivanna: “Now I will teach you, fat ass, to live correctly, and you will listen and obey. Come here, pigs, I will reveal the truth to you. " Thus, any person who is unable to achieve success in the chosen field of activity has the opportunity to amuse a sense of self-importance, to assert himself at the expense of another: I am thin - it means that I am more successful than a fat man, smarter and generally better. I am supposed to be a teacher and mentor. And the more aggressive the fat-shamer, the higher the likelihood that the small size of his clothes is his only achievement in life. It's likely just genetic.
Another important point is the accusation of overweight people in promoting an unhealthy lifestyle: “Our children are looking at this! They may decide it's okay to be fat! " Children are generally a universal shield, they can cover anything you want. Including their own unwillingness to bring up these very children somehow. Because the habit of a healthy lifestyle as a norm is brought up by personal parental example. But doing exercises in the morning with the children is too hard. It's easier to stigmatize overweight. True, some overweight children are still children, and it is sinful to poison children. But on the other hand, you can persecute their parents, who allowed this. "Yes, for sure, it is they who are to blame, and not us at all," - this is exactly what the fat-shamers think.
"It's your own fault, how could you have started yourself like that!"
In general, the feeling of guilt about weight as such is imposed on people with a large weight by default. The only question is the extent of this guilt. There are not very guilty ones - those who have grown fat due to health problems. A fake has been circulating on the network for a long time that there are supposedly only 5% of such people. This is completely wrong, but this is a great reason to stigmatize all overweight in general: you are simply devoured and are to blame for this! This is a typical victim's accusation. In fact, everyone understands that it is not good to humiliate other people for your own pleasure. But if you make these people guilty, then it seems it is already possible. After all, they themselves chose this path for themselves, they voluntarily grew fat, which means they must be ready for the role of outcasts. He who does not want to be humiliated does not eat into three throats. one more indulgence: it was not me who was cruel, it was me provoked, they themselves wanted it.
The other side of this medal is hypocritical pity. At the expense of a complete person, you can always be kind: I’ll tell you how bad it is to be fat, and I’ll immediately become a good and caring kind person. Thank me! Who else will open your eyes to how you let yourself go ?!
"Fatty have no right to happiness"
And here fat shaming turns its ugly face exclusively towards us, towards women. Because an overweight man has the right to happiness, but a woman does not. At the same time, both camps will attack her. And if men with their valuable opinion on the subject "I would not blow!" can be ignored, women cannot be ignored. Because this is a matter of hierarchy in a patriarchal society: you are fat, and I am not, which means that my status is higher. It would seem, well, rejoice, because the more overweight women, the less competition for status males, who, of course, prefer thin ones. Why bait losers, they are not competitors to you?
Everything is very simple, let's return to point 1: beautiful is what society has agreed to consider beautiful. If you do not poison the fat, tomorrow they, do not bring the universe, may be considered beautiful. And this means that all the blessings given to the beauties will go to them, and not to you. Because the benefits are given out by status males.
The second point is the idea that happiness must be earned, preferably through hard work and harsh restrictions. Years of plowing in the gym and sitting on a chicken breast with buckwheat - and for what? So that some fat woman who chews cakes all her life gets the same piece of happiness? Why on earth? Let him get it first!
But the point here is not at all that only the fat supposedly have no right to happiness. The point is, women have no right to be happy. Not for any happiness, except for the one that society recognized as the most correct: be thin and beautiful, attract the attention of men, grab the most correct for yourself and never, never get fat and old.
If you think about it, then living in this paradigm is a great misfortune. For all of us.
Sigmund Freud believed that most men, when meeting, give preference to women who look like their mother. Many studies have confirmed his correctness. From this it should be concluded that thin girls and girls have the same chances of getting married. It is believed that the ideal of female beauty is now models, the parameters of which are 90-60-90.
At the same time, plump women exhaust themselves with diets, trying to get even a little closer to the standard of beauty, but few of them know that the problem is not at all in weight. It's all about the character and temperament of the girl. Men love to look at slender beauties, but no one wants to marry an empty picture. A person needs warmth and affection, cleanliness and comfort in the house. Not all slender women are able to give a man everything he needs. But bbw very often have a docile and gentle character.
What kind of men like BBW?
As a result of research by psychologists, the following pattern emerged: men who give their preference to overweight women with large bust are very often hot-tempered and impatient. A number of the stronger sex, who prefer fatties, love to be in the spotlight. Some of them are very smart; however, there are also touchy and weak-minded personalities. If a man chooses women with his hips, he often shows aggressiveness in life, is active and loves to change his home, in addition, he is a big fan of cleanliness. Such men often lack family warmth and affection.
Men subconsciously choose a future mother who can give birth to a healthy child.
Also, bbws are liked by some men, whose age has already crossed the forty-year border, for whom appearance fades into the background after the personality of a woman. More mature men already understand a lot in life, and for them “not the cover, but its content” becomes the main thing. It is important for a man that a woman is able to maintain a conversation, as well as be cheerful and sociable.
Many people cannot understand why tall ones sometimes give their preference to short gray mice. Psychologists sometimes explain this by the fact that, knowing about his complexes, a man begins to disguise himself. During the experiment, it turned out that 74% of men, when viewing photos of girls of various physiques, made a choice in favor of obese women.
A poll conducted in Russia showed that 63% consider a woman's accuracy to be her most important quality, and, of course, Russian men like women with a cheerful disposition and good character.
Most of the stronger sex prefer cheerful and sociable companions in life, so it doesn't matter whether a fat woman is or not, and most importantly, that it is pleasant and easy to be next to her.
Some women sometimes think about whether the stronger sex likes bbw. It is clear that men very often pay attention to slender leggy beauties. However, in order to please a guy, you don't have to be skinny.
What kind of women do men like?
Men have different character traits, so their preferences are also different. Someone likes women in a body, and someone likes girls without unnecessary components. That is why in the life of each of the ladies you need to find exactly your man who will love her for who she is.
In ancient times, a plump woman who can bear and protect her offspring was considered the standard of beauty. This is what men paid attention to when they chose their wives. Remember the paintings that were painted in the past centuries. Are they depicting skinny girls? On the contrary, there are plump women with wide hips and lush breasts, from whom a feeling of health emanates.
At different times, people's preferences and tastes have changed. And today, men pay more attention to girls with a standard average figure.
Scientists note that when a man is under stress, he pays more attention to overweight, as it seems to him that they can protect him with their body. The research was carried out in this way: the representatives of the stronger sex were shown photographs depicting women of various physiques. Regardless of the accepted standards, men, when stressed, chose curvy women, because in this state they idealized those properties that contributed to survival. Statistics show that thin, puny men most often choose fat women as their wives.
Men have families with overweight
